This June will mark my 30th year as husband and wife with my lovely lady.
I've read this thread as it's unfolded, as well as being in on a conversation at work with a few "younger" guys talking about their marriages. In all of the cases everyone is always talking "me", "I", "she", "the bitc.." well you get the idea. When it comes to marriage there is none of that. It is "we", and "us". Didn't they say something about "uniting as one" when you got married?
TnDep, it's nice that your doing all these things, but it is what you should have been doing from day one. Also, you shouldn't be expecting anything to come from it.... "I'm thinking its going to take a month or two for her to build her love back up for me". Put that out of your mind. if it happens, great, if it doesn't thats the way it is. You should be doing the things your doing because its the right thing to do NOT because it should win her back.
My boss use to give me crap for helping my wife, or having to check with her before I made a decision about OT, called me henpecked. This coming from a guy who's been married and divorced 3 times and now lives with a Labrador retriever
I call it respecting my wife. I have no problem bailing from my game if she needs me to do something. On the other hand she respects me enough not to ask me to unless she really needs me.
The point is, your on the right path, but get it out of your mind your doing it for her. What your doing is how it should be period. It's like a diet, you can't eat good and exercise for 4 months and get to your goal weight and then go back to eating what ever you want and lying around on the couch. It's a life style change your making, and one you should have made when you slide that ring on her finger. If you can't live with that change for the rest of your life, your not going to make it.