My attitude changed a lot too. I was like you, ready for a pissing contest. Once I started thinking about this game like I do the annual thanksgiving day flag football game I used to attend, things changed.
Every thanksgiving all my friends use to get together to play a game of football. We would gather, choose teams and play hard. No one got mad, we congratulated the other team and had a blast. Afterwards we ate turkey and drank beer, still friends.
If the players in this game approached the game like that, treating the red guys as if they were going to share turkey and beer after an exciting dogfight, things would be much happier and positive around here.