what's wrong with... "mind if I ask you a few questions?"
If you ask for one and then ask two you are being a salesman.
so far, diablo and virgil are the only ones making sense... diablo if you want to live a prticular style of life and virgil for everything else.
"grey" areas are a matter of degree.. there may indeed be grey areas in life but there is no need to dismiss the hard stuff... the hard decisions by labeling them "grey" areas.. We all run into enough hard decisions in life without manufacturing them.
lazs