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Offline Furball

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« Reply #15 on: October 23, 2005, 04:29:56 AM »
where do you live? mogadishu?
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« Reply #16 on: October 23, 2005, 04:41:40 AM »
I first kissed them... then I didn't need to ask.
The joys of underage drinking & too loud music, not much thinking or talking required. In fact I can't recall ever just asking any of them straight. If I was generally friendly and attentive, and the mood and situation was right, it all came by itself. :D

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« Reply #17 on: October 23, 2005, 05:00:11 AM »
Try to throw in a complement or two as you ask her out.  Something about how you think she's nice and would she like to go on a date with you.

If she says no, gently follow-up with something like "maybe another time?" and see what she says.  If you at least get a maybe, then just ask her again in another couple of days or try to get a general timeframe from her (next week, tomorrow, after some event, etc).

As for what to do, public events are good.  Local fairs, etc.  Maybe a museum, the zoo, aquarium, etc.  Find out what other people do on dates in your area, but don't get caught up doing romantic stuff on the first few dates.  Just try to find something to do that will not put her on the defensive wondering when you're going to "make your move".  That means if you go to a movie, sit in the middle or up front, not in the back, so you're not tempted to do something stupid like grab a feel or something and she's not worried that you'll do something stupid like that.  Holding her hand in the scary parts - that's cool especially if you see her hands jumping, but don't push it.

Anyhow, back to just asking, I wouldn't recommend being too cute about it.  Just try to work in a complement and ask straight out.  You should have in mind what you want to do so if she says yes, you can ask her about your date plan.  "yes".  "great.  I thought it might be fun to go to the roller rink"  "No, I lost my foot to a land mine".  "oh, I'm sorry.  How about go-karts and miniature golfing?"  "Great"  "Can I pick you up at 5?  We can be home by 10 if you have a curfew"  "yea sure"  "See you then!"

When you pick her up, have a single flower to give her so she can hold and fiddle around with it in case you have any "uncomfortable silences" on the way to whatever it is you're going to do.

Just some ideas.
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« Reply #18 on: October 23, 2005, 06:51:02 AM »
It sounds as though you have two problems in your post:

1) How do you go about asking her out.

2) Where should you take her.

As to answer number 1, Honesty with no B.S. is always the best policy. If you're shy about asking her, TELL HER that your shy about asking her when you do ask her out.  If you try to lay on even a thin layer of B.S., she'll see right through it.  I've seen alot of clients use the honesty approach very successfully when I was a bartender.

As to answer number 2, not knowing where you live...its difficult to answer.  If movies are not possible due to the language barrier, then how about a beach with a couple of kites? Musuem tour? The whole point of a first date is to promote conversation and get to know each other alittle more. Movies don't cut it..since you can't talk much during a movie.  I'd recommend finding something to do that can be fun, that both of you haven't done in quite some time, or something you did when you were younger that you really enjoyed, and do something where you both can talk while doing it. (No, not sex...that doesn't count! ;) )

Regardless of what you do, being honest to her about your anxiety of asking her out can be beneficial to the relationship.  Just don't tell her you went to a Flight Sim bulletin board for this advice...that part I'd definately lie about! :D
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« Reply #19 on: October 23, 2005, 07:05:37 AM »
IMHO what Roc said is right ON!

Be who you are!  Always be who you are.  It will save you hugh amounts of trouble later!
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« Reply #20 on: October 23, 2005, 07:32:41 AM »
You mean huge don't you Wrag?:D



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« Reply #21 on: October 23, 2005, 07:50:44 AM »
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You mean huge don't you Wrag?:D



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OOPS YA thanks :lol
It's been said we have three brains, one cobbled on top of the next. The stem is first, the reptilian brain; then the mammalian cerebellum; finally the over developed cerebral cortex.  They don't work together in awfully good harmony - hence ax murders, mobs, and socialism.

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« Reply #22 on: October 23, 2005, 07:52:25 AM »
Just say : "voulez vous coucher avec moi ce soir ?"

She can have one of those reaction :

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  • she  think "he speak French ,it's so romantic" ... and you can start a good romance.
  • she speak french (at least enought to understand this sentence) the last think you will see his her fist coming to your eye :).
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« Reply #23 on: October 23, 2005, 09:04:32 AM »
It's too bad you aren't a bit older.  When I lived in Toronto my first date place was the racetrack (horses).

They had a "Jockey Club" at the track that you could pay to eat in.  It was decked out like a really nice restaurant with monitors at each table and a huge glass window overlooking the track.  When the horses ran past the place you could watch 'em live and then when they got on the other side of the track you could see the close up action on the monitors.

The food was so-so and was a buffet, but it really didn't cost any more than a simialr level restaurant in the city.

The beauty of the place for first dates would be:

1.  No awkward silences...there was always something to talk about...ie which horse to bet on for a given race.

2.  Excitement.  If a woman bets two dollars on a horse to win and it does so she is thrilled.  Even if it doesn't win but was in contention she had fun.  There was always about 10-12 races.  Odds are she will pick one.

3.  The girls always thought I had taken them someplace very special.  This is because while ALOT of people go to the track most of them sit in the stands.  Because I escorted them to an "exclusive area"..the Jockey Club they felt special.

It worked like a charm.

I even married one of the girls I took there for our first date.  :aok
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« Reply #24 on: October 23, 2005, 09:24:54 AM »
Just be Honest and be yourself, if she likes you she'll say yes, and remember, dinner is always good, but a movie isn't the only thing girls like. Girls like to dance, see new things >etc< Girls also like to talk and get to know the person they're on a date with. Maybe a bike ride and a picnic?
Just don't try to get in her pants on the first date, and if she goes to kiss you kiss her back.

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« Reply #25 on: October 23, 2005, 10:34:48 AM »
Lots of good advice has been offered in this thread.

Be and act confident even when you are nervous.  You will be surprised how often a girl will go out with you if you ask, but its assured you wont ever date a girl if you dont try to ask her out.

Be yourself as advised, dont act in a manner you normally wouldnt.   When with a girl, pay attention to her, listen when she talks, and dont talk a lot about yourself.  If you have a cell phone, leave it at home.  If she asks about a phone, tell her you left it at home so it wouldnt distract you.  

Eagls comment about a compliment is dead on.  Girls (and most all people) really like getting a compliment when offered sincerly.  It helps establish good rapport.

Dont spin your head to look at other girls as they walk by.

Just be nice, they will respond to that.

good luck

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« Reply #26 on: October 23, 2005, 11:29:48 AM »
Deuce Bigolo is a great date movie.
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« Reply #27 on: October 23, 2005, 12:08:44 PM »
Say this...
Guy: You know you have 206 bones in your body?
Girl: Blah blah blah
Guy: Want another ?
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« Reply #28 on: October 23, 2005, 12:17:10 PM »
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I don't ask many girls out


Me either, last time I did the wife got a bit ticked.

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« Reply #29 on: October 23, 2005, 01:02:26 PM »
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Say this...
Guy: You know you have 206 bones in your body?
Girl: Blah blah blah
Guy: Want another ?


I really hop eyou have a better pickup line than that