I'm too pretty for Prison

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Originally posted by J_A_B
"And possibly yourself for failing to keep your spouce satisfied to begin with."

Negative--that's what divorce is for.  If your spouse is a lunatic whom you're afraid to divorce, then you have bigger problems then sex.  There is no excuse to cheat on your spouse.


"And what if the other person didnt know he/she was married."

It's your job to know; if you don't know, don't hop in the sack.  "I didn't know" won't make an STD go away, and nor does it make it okay to sleep with a married man/woman.  There ARE married couples out there who let each other sleep around and don't mind.  That's perfectly fine then, and is pretty much the only time when it's okay to sleep with a married person.  It's still be prudent to talk to the spouse beforehand though, just to be on the safe side.  


J_A_B

LMAO, your funny. I used to have such simplistic thoughts and beleifs long ago before I knew better.

Just get a divorce, just like that. Snap your fingers and its done.
Too bad its not that simple or alot more would probably do it instead of cheating.

I havent done any of these things of which you speak.
I've neither cheated on my wife, nor have I had my wife cheat. Nor have I slept with another mans wife. Nor have I ever been in a polyamorous relationship ( the term used by couples who let their partners mess around on the side)

But I do see the world in a more realistic manner then I did back in the days when I thought and felt as you do.

I can see and understand how and why someone would cheat, and why they would do it and not get or want to get a divorce.
 And how someone could be with someone who was married and not know they were married.
Its done all the time.

now Im not saying its right. Nor am I saying its wrong.
That is for each individual to decide for themselves based on their own  personal situation.

For me personally, I havent. Though the opportunity,temptation and reasons have certainly been there and on occasion been there all all at the same time.
I just havent because to date it just isnt for me.
Its just "Not my thing" and all that.

I only say "to date" because I've learned a long long time ago not to assume something would never happen.

But I certainly understand it even if I find its not for me

[J_A_B]

"Just get a divorce, just like that. Snap your fingers and its done.
Too bad its not that simple or alot more would probably do it instead of cheating."

Given the overall divorce rate, I'm not sure how much higher you think it can realistically go.  People don't avoid divorce because it's difficult to obtain one; they avoid divorce because they want to maintain their comfy homes and "secure" lives while getting extra action on the side.  In otherwords, people suck and like to take the "easy" way out.  It's totally understandable, but wrong nonetheless.


"I havent done any of these things of which you speak."
"I can see and understand how and why someone would cheat"

So do I.  That doesn't make it right, though.  I don't buy into the modern fad of moral relativity.  The word "you" as I use it in the above posts isn't necessarily referring to you specifically.  My views on this issue are pretty simple because it's a simple issue.  It's black and white--there is no grey area.  I don't invent grey areas where none exists.


"And how someone could be with someone who was married and not know they were married."

Again, I know how this happens too, but merely understanding why it happens doesn't make it right .   That behavior is wrong, even if it's understandable.


J_A_B