When i get engaged and do my E fighting on them they complain that i'm not fighting the way they want. What's a noob to do?
Ignore them & do whatever you want to do. Most people only get pissy when they lose, so the more pissy they are with you probably means they got shot down by you.
If they can't prevail in a situation where they are getting B&Z'd is that your fault? Of course not.
As long as you (or they) aren't manipulating the software or doing something else that can be considered cheating, don't worry about it. Pick your fights; tune out channel 200, & refresh your memory as to where the "quit" button is & you'll enjoy the game a lot more.
As far as perking one ride or another - I don't see where the spit-16 is all that. The LA-7 is fast, but can be caught & flamed. The Nik, well; it has a lot of cannon rounds. It seems to me if the LA - Nik - & Spit16 were perked, then less noobs would fly them & it would give the guys with a lot of skill & perkies near exclusive use of a plane set that only makes them harder to kill. All these planes do in my hands is to give the guy I'm fighting more points.
Maybe HT should get Skuzzy to just
assign rides that you have to fly for the entire tour

I could just see myself in a P-40 trying to fight the likes of Shawk in an LA-7 or Lev in a Nik or Hoarach in a Spit-16
At least it would stop the "get out of the ****** and fight me 1v1" if a guy is ripping you apart in a P-40 & your flying an LA-7, well it's a pretty good bet he's just better at this game.