I'm of the opinion that at least SOME, not all mind you but SOME, of the women in a domestic violence situation actually create that situation.
I would alter that & say MOST women create the situation. I have known some guys in my life that were just A-HOLES. Nothing their girl did was right or good enough & they were abusive. You could tell these couples because the guy always had that false swagger & the girl was always shy & quiet & almost always had that look of fear just waiting on the hammer to fall.
I have been in many knock down drag out fights over that & hitting kids. I got into it with a bruiser about twice my size in a McDonalds one time when I was about 19 or 20 because he backhanded an infant in a high chair so hard it tipped the kid over backwards & the child hit it's head on that tile floor hard enough to bounce.
I ended up bloody & having to go out the back of the Mickey D's but that dude wasn't able to leave before the cops got there & the manager had seen what he did & was a mother herself (she led me out the back when the cops arrived)
There are some things in this world a REAL man will stand up against, win, lose or draw, or with public opinion on his side or not. Like women & children first on a sinking ship, you just have to understand your place in life is to serve & secure their place in life. Some women will mistake that kindness for weakness; those are usually the ones that get in over their heads before they realize it.