Coronado....
If your computer "sees" your plane hit an nme plane, you get ram damage.
BUT you don't see the same thing the enemy plane sees due to internet lag.
So if you ram someone, and they fly off apparently undamaged, odds are on THEIR computer there wasn't a ram. They didn't "see" it.
IF you see a collision, you get damage. But just because YOU saw it, doesn't mean THEY did.
Get a friend or squaddie to film a fight with you in the DA or TA. You also film it. Then watch both films. They will be different, because of the Lag on the internet. Sometimes if the connection varies alot, they look almost like two different fights. Both players don't "see" the same thing.
If you are getting alot of rams, quite flying into 'em.