Just an addendum to what I posted earlier, In other sims I have very often sent a to an opponent regardless of being the victor or the vanquished. It can be a tolerable nuisance if metered out rather than poured out.
Benny, a means nothing more than 'Salute'. It is only a sign of respect for the opponent who fought well. I would only anticipate it being given when there is no chance of a typing death in doing so for either pilot.
Certainly, each situation has it's unique inflections and these exceptions can demand advanced forms of online etiquette but you can't regiment behaviour or make totalitarian demands on each and every person. People dont interact or percieve the world in exactly the same way. The exciting part of online combat is in the variety and the opportunities to witness how others work within the environment. But there are personal rules of conduct that take precedent.
I have noticed that as pilot chat increases, flying skill decreases. IMO, once the pilot becomes fixated with any obsession related to the radio chatter, its then that their priorities are displaced from combat, and they have then become a victim of ego.
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