Originally posted by lazs2
hmm.. so a lot of you guys wouldn't get married again because you have the perfect wives who let you do whatever you want.. or.. at least you are thinking that.
This seems to be saying.... no. Obviously you don't have the only good one in the world sooo.. maybe it is not what you are saying it is?
I will watch any movie if it looks good.. I will walk out or turn it off if it turns out to be bad. I find that my taste does not allow me to watch what are commonly called "chick flicks".
I am sure that a lot of it is me. I am pretty shallow and selfish. I do enjoy my children who are grown and my grand daughter. I don't need to be married for that.. in fact.. It is better to not be.
I always let the women deal with the kids.. now, I have to. I do a lot of things I didn't do when I was married. Mostly.. because my money is mine and... I don't have to plan ahead as much.
The legal system is devestating on men in a divorce and I really don't want to go back to square one yet again... you have all heard about it from your divorced friends... it could never happen to you... could it? After all..., you have the only good one... not like all those others.
I have been married (several times) and I am single... Some very good times when I was married... I have even said the same things some of you are saying... I was wrong. I am far happier now.
My relationships with women are truly as you describe now... we really are friends and enjoy each others company... when we don't... we can go to our sepperate houses.
I have car parts and gun parts all over the house... I can tear out a wall or rip up a bathroom to tile it... When I come home most nights it is to an empty house... I can relax. I forgot what that really was each time I was married after a while. I became acclimated and brainwashed..
lazs
Kinda bitter about it Laz?
I guess it's safe to say that not all of us are cut from the same cloth. I love being a Dad too. I never saw that as my wife's job. If you did, I'd say you missed out on a great deal as being a part of my kids growing up was the most important thing I've ever done.
Losing 2 of my 3 kids has been the absolute worst thing to ever happen to me. Again, without my wife I don't know if I'd have survived it, and it's an ongoing struggle to keep going from it.
It's interesting that you question whether those of us in good marriages are actually seeing them for what they are. I do commend you for acknowledging your part in your relationships not working. Not all of us are built that way. I think for me it was watching my parents relationship. They had a great marriage right until the cancer took my Dad. And no they didn't fight. They made sure to talk things out though and there was a mutual respect and support there that was obvious to see, and I know I took that into my marriage.
We're not fighters either. I have one rule for me when I'm mad about something. Does it really have to do with the other person, or is it just me being selfish and cranky. 99% of the time it's just that and once I look at it, the anger disappears. When we disagree we talk it out. In the end its about us going forward together, and i wouldn't want it any other way.
She is my best friend.
25 in and looking forward to the next 25.
