One of my buddies is going through the same thing.
He's been seeing the moderator and all that crap and was really down for a while. After some pep talks about it, and realizing that for whatever reason it happened, that it happened, his new motto is "life beckons".
So just remember, life beckons, you can't change the past, but you can make the future whatever you want. Stay positive, for yourself, and for your kids.