Balls, I feel for you bro, my thoughts are with you...
DariusX,
There are a few good men/women out there who will give all the secrets to new people. There are a few that are total sphincters.
When I was fairly new, I would complain and whine on a daily basis on 200 everytime I was sent back to the tower. It's a newb thing that you have to go through I guess. Now I have found that the fun smack talk is just that, all in fun.
It's rare that you will find someone who will help after you insult them, so a big to Balls for being the bigger person.
Welcome to your new addiction, better just get a paid account now, because if you don't, you will regret it. Not only for the game, but the people you meet.