"Terrorist states, Stanley. Someone must bring their war to them. They bomb a church, we bomb 10. They hijack a plane, we take out an airport. They execute American tourist, we tactically nuke an entire city. Our job is to make terrorism so horrific that is becomes unthinkable to attack Americans."
The point of total war is to make the consequences of disobediance so horrible, that people wouldn't dare dream to do otherwise.
I believe that the price of messing with American Citizens, American Interests and American Allies (who sign on board) should be pure violent retribution at least 10x worse than the damage done to us.
Take for example, the Iranian embassy. The iranians happened to capture a few Soviets back in their hay day. They demanded Russian compliance as well as American. The next day the russians went into iran, and captured the families of the hostage takers. After several real hands were mailed to the sons, the russians were released post haste.
War is a horrible violent thing. It shouldn't be anything but. To try to wage war and be liked at the same time is to get laughed at.
Of course, the only time most Americans gladly welcomed war and extremely open violence was under the hands of extremely manipulative Fascists.