My flying is like the flip-side of, Will Hunting.
Mine's more like "How you like them apples?."
and just because it fits here, too, kind of..
Self-taught... never even read Shaw... still haven't, lol, but over time I casually surfed "ACM" sites to put names to the actual manuevers I had already been doing. I've never been hesitant to push the envelope in all my rides, or take chances (still, 3 v 1 doesn't need to become a freekin' castrati hordelet v 1 yanno?) even if I often got burned, something which I still do. I'm not a true furballer- I'm more of a lone wolf on the fringes, trying to drag victims away from the fur, or interdiction near enemy bases. Flying with and against better players in varying situations has been a boon, as well.
I've been relatively blessed with an innate sense for SA (I *do* see the guy who's probably gonna kill me, but more than likely I couldn't get out of the way in time, or wanted to get a kill,) manuevering and in RL i'm a decent shot, but my AH gunnery has always been mediocre (can we say nose bounce at lower speeds?), fortunately for ya'll.
But the one piece of advice (given way back in AW3 on Gamestorm by KAK3) that helped me most was about lead turn in the merge.. starting *before* we actually crossed.. and the timing involved with various aspects of net-lag, i.e., starting the move when the other guy was still about 1.2k away. This has been reduced somewhat with better overall internet connections by a few hundred yards, around 800/1k-ish. And with HOs enabled, it's safer for the most part than getting too close in.
If we all had perfect zero lag, or in the DA with someone i knew wouldn't HO, I'd start the move as close as 300-500yds away.
I still use(d) this concept in the DA when I had people start their zoom up around 1k out while I went into a flat turn - allowing them to roll, spot and drop back down in the slot with a better guns solution - in range as opposed to out of position.
Back on topic... it's all fun. I know people have their limitations; my only issue is with those who don't at least try and find out what those limitations are.