Why should he fly a certain way when no one else is willing to do?
I try not to post in these kinds of things. But I do fly in the AvA ( although some may not consider me a regular)and I hope that it is known to all of the AvA regulars, that I never face shoot,(hot merge) even when it happens to me over and over and over. So, many times I've logged in to see on 200, "ok, the gloves are off, I'm hoing now" and then the "other" side is hoing (hot merging) everybody. Oh by the way, I've seen this comment (and watched it happen) not only from some of the 54 guys, but some other AvA regulars as well. Guys I think should know better. I've also seen the "OK, you want to gang? Fine, I'm hoing!"
My comments are directed at everyone, not any one person or squad. Gents, you can tell me to eff off, but I simply ask you to lead by example, don't hot merge, go for the angle. You see someone hoing, tell them its poor taste, not appreciated by either side and a poor tactic. They tell you to get lost...... Well if they get the cold shoulder and no help from you , maybe they get the idea and change or leave. You see 2 guys on a con, don't be the third (gang) .
My personal feeling is if the other guy keeps hoing you, then he is probably not that good. The best way to teach him a lesson is to outfly him, avoid the opening shot by gaining angles and get on his six. Of course you may get picked because maybe he's asking for help now. But if he's a known hoer, hopefully those in the know will let him learn his lesson.
Like I said, tell me to STFU, but I do try to set an example, the way Oldman does.