Back in WB's, Waxx taught me how to get REALLY good at carrier landings- the secret? Touch n' gos.
Don't lower your hook, and try to plant that sucker 3 wheel style. Then just firewall the throttle, pick the tail back up, and take off for another pattern.
If you can plant it on the wires (eventually you'll get the knack), all you have to do from that point is remember to lower your hook. Easy peasy.
Remember different planes act VERY different at low speeds, so you'll wanna know how to do it with all of 'em.
If you're having problems with the speed (things happen too fast, etc.), take up an SBD Dauntless or a Val. Both of those have incredibly low approach speeds for 3 pointers, and will give you more time to think about all the factors involved when on finals.
In the high performance boys like the Hellcat and the 4U, take combat trim off. It does some funky nose-low stuff when landing at full flaps- that's exactly what you DON'T want.
Remember- speed with pitch, descent rate with throttle.