Women are just fine with guns. You wouldn't be any better at it than a noob female if no one ever showed you what to do. If you've never fired an AR-15 and someone just hands you one and says figure it out, odds are you will. But the odds of you screwing something up pretty bad are fairly high.
Let my girlfriend have a run at the XD .45 yesterday and she handled it fine. Taught her the ins and outs on my Sig Mosquito.
The Sig is tame enough with light loaded Winchester rounds, almost to the point of being a repeater. Taught her how clear jams, and keep her damn finger off the trigger while she does it, heh.
Now the XD...let her have a few shots with just one round, then made it very VERY clear that it WOULD cycle with more than one round. XD sitting around 600 rounds with any sort of failure. And she was doing full fledged 13 round magazine dumps within 6-7 seconds, and all were on paper at 10 yards.
The Sig...hehe...I love it, and it'll loosen up after broken in. But they like CCI high velocity ammo, and I'm feeding it Winchester White Box Hollowpoints during the break in period. It's just so cheap and fun to shoot, great little gun.