more argumentative, or more crude, abrasive, or otherwise not my normal nice guy self, i should apologize now.
i've been having a little trouble with mom. not the attitude kind, but rather the health kind.
mom retired about 12 years ago. a couple of years afterwards, she was diagnosed with type2 diabetes. not a really big deal. the doc said it was borderline, and she only had to take a half of some sort of tiny pill a day to help control it. i kept telling her to try to take up some sort of hobby, to keep her more active, to control it, as i know that weight can, and often does severely affect this type of diabetes. she didn't listen, so i tried another tactic. when she's up here with me, i get her to run the errands i normally do myself. that keeps her moving, although she's always complained about it.
as time went on, she gained more weight(she was a twig when she was young,,,i've seen pictures). she developed other problems, mostly brought on by the weight gain, and the already there diabetes. the family doctor doesn't seem willing to even suggest to her to get some exercise, and/or try to lose weight.
rather, they just the other day sent her to get her knees x-rayed, because she says they're hurting her(because she's grossly overweight at this point), and to a vascular surgeon, to have her legs ultra-sounded, due to blood flow problems(again, due to her being overweight, and seriously inactive).
i talked to a customer/friend that's a doctor about this today(and it is/was hard)explaining how she lives right now, and what the family doctor has her doing(concerning the tests). he fully explained to me the exact reasons they've sent her for the ultrasounding at least, although the x-rays of her knees was different. i was glad, as i know the doctor isn't just trying to milk her insurance right now(like my paranoid mind was thinking).
what still bothers me a LOT, is the fact that these effing doctors will not try to get her to do the one single thing that will help her the most.....exercise.
i try to suggest it, but to be honest, i've had a bad history with her. when i was a teen, i was pretty much not the epitome of a good son. some of the crap i did, i should've been kicked out on my ass, but that's not how my family is. i wish i could take back the crap i've done back then.
but what happens, is that she seems to "revert" to that time period, and think i'm saying what i'm saying for no other reason than to be a jerk. i've had my brother try to talk to her about it, but she saw right through that, so it did no good.
i've been trying to convince her to take walks(short ones for now) in the neighborhood. our neighborhood is perfectly safe, and everyone knows everyone else here. she won't do it. she says she's afraid of the dogs in the neighborhood.
so tonight, i came home from work, rather than running up to mcguire like i usually do, to talk to her about it. i figured that maybe if i get home early 1 or 2 nights a week, maybe she'd take those walks if i went with her.
she won't answer me, and keeps wanting to know why i'm trying to push her so hard.
i got as far as telling her i didn't want "that time" to come any time soon before i had to leave the room.
this actually sucks that at 49, i can't talk to her about this........
anyway....if i seem off, or my replies seem off........i apologize, and hopefully will be back to my normal self soon. if i can get her to friggin listen to me, and take help.
