It's all good, if it works for you it works. I did not mean to be "condescending and pedantic" sorry if that was the tone.
As for the water, I still don't get it... ... 20+lbs of water seems crazy to me. Aren't there quite a few streams/lakes along the Appalachian trail?
With each of the dozens of Scout trips I've guided I do a full pack "shake-down" with everyone in the group (scoutmasters included) before we hit the trail. Not only to make sure they have what they need (enough water) but also to get rid of the stuff they don't need. They usually thank me after I shave 10-20lbs off each of their packs.
I didn't take it as being
You have never seen the scout troop my son was in. They were the antithesis of "Be Prepared"
On no less than two occasions, while at an "organized camping trip" (i.e. younger scouts, in cabins, with a pre-planned menu), they either ran out of, or completely forgot to pack one or more food items on the menu.
Scoutmaster was so fat that he could barely hike flat terrain without huffing and puffing.
Also found out that my son's den leader was a full-blown drunk (not an alcoholic that attends meetings) when he brought beer on the hike on the Appalachian trail while making his kid hump all their water and when he was out in the parking lot, sneaking beers at the Blue and Gold banquet instead of taking care of his den...