I've been learning on my own and have decided that I basically have know idea what im doing. I am available for training most of the time (I am retired military and have a lot of spare time). I can fly ok but my tactics both offence and defense are awful, any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks
Feel free to ask for specific training too, even if it's a lot of specifics, makes helping you easier too as we can focus on your needs and desired area for improvement.
Sounds like some BFM 101/clinic (Basic Flight/Fighter Maneuvers, FLS beat me to it) would be a great first start, there's a couple films out of them. It sounds rudimentry, but even old-hands benefit from the refresher, so try to go along with the bits you know already but be attentive for when it comes to ones you don't (or maybe finding an old trick explained again before realising it will fix a new problem).