SD67,
My condolences for your wife and my admiration and respect for your resolve to make the best life you can for your children.
I apologize for hijacking your post. You were peer harassed by Kappa as happens in any POST to this forum since I can remember about the personal misconduct and actions of a muppet. In general the muppets have never been as good in the realm of equal men and ideas sans their joysticks and piu, piu, piu. Instead they have benefited from a well known strategy of leveraging their historic reputation, enabling fans, and group peer pressure to suppress ideas that show them in a poor light, or they cannot honestly defend. A very well described tactic outlined by Saul Alinsky in his "Rules for Radicles". I doub't any of them has ever read it. In it's simplicity it's basic human nature related to peer groups and protecting their collective identity.
In this case there is no defense but, instead of Fester defending himself, Kappa is here defending the status quo. As you can see a tipping point has been reached in the minds of good tolerant men where the "reasonable person" construct from common law is applied to this conversation. They no longer believe Fester's defense is in any nature reasonable or they would not be voicing such candid opinions towards two of this game's highest Icons. Thus the strange damage control effort.
In the real world I suspect most of our daddy's upon hearing we had made a comment like targeted to yourself, with no public apology along with changing the transcript. Would have held court with our kesters behind the wood shed with a poleaxe. Not marched over to the innocent man's home and attacked him for telling the truth.