I've used these settings with a Logitech stick. I don't know how they'll work with MS.
Try setting the driver to 100% FFB.
Do not use spring centering.
Set AH trim to 100%
Set AH Damage, Weapons, and Guns to 10%
Set AH Stall Buffet and High Speed Buffet to 25%
Set damping and deadband to 0. If you can't hold auto level (X) then add minimal deadband.
Try the default scaling on your pitch axis.