The true enthusiasts who used to make up the flight sim player base.......the guys who used to spend hours writing the perfect boot that allowed the maximum memory available and spent just as long configuring modem strings for the best performance, have been replaced by the gamers who have zero patience and want the most heavily armed and fastest planes right now.....and want action right away.
Don't hate the game, hate the playa.
An awful lot of people want some semblance of a fair fight, and they aren't guaranteed it in a game like this. You see it every couple minutes on 200, "Picker, gangbang, etc etc." Whatever the specifics of the incident that caused the whine, it boils down to "That was unfair!"
People used to get a bit more fairness because a decent number of the guys on the other side would choose to play fair a lot more than people do nowadays. See the tear stained, rose tinted wishes for the days of yore when people would "respect 1v1s" and let planes RTB when wounded and everybody said "Good fight" over 200 and they all sang kumbaya over vox as they played.

That was all on the players. The only thing that mechanically matters in this game is what you can do within the physics allowed by the program, and what you can't. Everything else is up to the personal choices of the players in the game.
Most people are here to kill red guys (or take undefended bases, but that's another matter) as efficiently as possible. Whether that's in a committed 1v1, a drag and bag for a wingman, a gangbang on a lone bandit that wandered into the middle of you is irrelevant, that's the situation that occurred.
It also unfortunately also results in a lot of people killing by ack drag or any of a number of lame tactics. It's there, people use it. People have differing lines they will and won't cross, but again that's all on them and nothing to do with the game design.
I don't want the game making everything fair for me at every turn. It's up to me to put myself in situations I can survive, and watch out for the ones that get me dead, or not. The point is it's my choice to enter combat when I know I'm likely going to get swarmed and killed.
That's what I want, that's what is ONLY possible in an open world game like this, and it's why I am here and not in one of the other games.
Wiley.