A flexible structure is safer than a rigid one, not the other way around.
All metal wings flex. It's just a matter of how much. Even back in WWII. How many people here are aeronautical egineers anyway? I sure am not...Here's a venerable old 747. Plently of wing flexing. This is a non-issue.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WFEs-DatuHs
Yes, it is nigh impossible to construct a metal structure that doesn't flex under load. Skyscrapers flex in windy conditions. Even the Eiffel Tower bends and twists in wind and from sun heating.
Very good point - especially in light of the recent AirAsia - it seems that the flex is probably what killed the aircraft. .........I'm sure that a tired bird (like the A320 that had over 13'000 flights) tolerances were also part of the problem of the break-up.
Far, far to early to assume the above.