The last 1 1/2 years my personal life has been difficult, hence slow development.
The cliff note version is.
Fall of 2021 I filed for a divorce do to my wife trying to alienate the kids from me.
She got primary custody at the temp order hearing. The alienation was so bad she was telling our 3 kids to be mean to me so I would give up. I can not describe how difficult it is to have your kids pretend to hate you.
April 2022 My mother passed.
Last August the custody evaluation was completed and recommended she have supervised visitation only. After which she requested a jury trial which delayed the divorce another 1 to 1.5 years. In October primary custody was given to me. Things improved very rapidly since I was given primary possession of my kids. They now act like my children again.
Early march I found out I have an ascending aortic aneurysm. Showed up on cat scan Feb 2021 when I had a sever case of covid, but no one told me about it.
May 5 I will have open heart surgery where they replace the first 2 inches of my aorta.
The divorce put a lot of mental stress on me, and I could not focus on any game development since the beginning of the conflict in Augest 2021.
My apologizes for the lack of development, I hope to be back at it soon.
Dale
I was married to a narcissitic sociopath for 30 years and change. (Well, it will offically be over April 15th.)
The pathological lying, serial cheating, manipulating, gaslighting and scapegoating were so bad that on July 14 2019 I attempted to take my own life. These things combined to give me PTSD so severe that I have seizures, down on the floor, flopping around like a fish out of water.
Both of my parents passed (2019 and 2020).
I am now staying with my son and his family and my mental/emotional health is getting better every day. All 3 of my kids believe me now (at one point none of them did) after seeing some of the 75g of evidence I have in a google drive account and they are all supportive of me filing for a divorce.
Things do get better over time Dale, trust in that, enjoy your kids, and do work you love.
I'm not telling you these things to get sympathy from you or anyone else. I'm telling you these things to show you that there is hope and that things can and do get better. There was a time when I couldn't do anything except pace the floor while ruminating but that has gotten better for me and things WILL get better for you as well. Keep your chin up even if that means you take things one day at a time, 1 hour, or even 1 minute at a time. Make it through each day because those kids of yours depend on you for everything.
I strongly suggest a meditation app (I use Calm) and meditate daily before leaving your bedroom. Consider reading a book titled Brain Talk by Dr David Schnarch for personal healing. Another is Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl (holocaust survivor).
Best wishes to you in your recovery process Dale, you have a long, tough, row to hoe but I and many others are in your corner and we're cheering you on. Feel free to PM me any time.
Elfie, aka Rick
