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Offline straffo

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« Reply #15 on: January 23, 2002, 04:49:27 PM »
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« Reply #16 on: January 23, 2002, 04:54:06 PM »
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« Reply #17 on: January 23, 2002, 04:56:10 PM »
Truly sorry Curval; my condolences and prayers for you and your family.:(

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Deep symphaties Curval
« Reply #18 on: January 23, 2002, 06:20:55 PM »
You have to be strong for your wife in these times, she will need your support now more than ever

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« Reply #19 on: January 23, 2002, 09:46:04 PM »
Damn  :(

I'm so sorry Curval.

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« Reply #20 on: January 23, 2002, 09:46:20 PM »
Thank you all for your thoughts...gonna go give my littlest his last bottle for the night....the wife is curled up with my older boy...really cute to see...I just flew for a while...helped me get my mind off things for an hour or two...
Some will fall in love with life and drink it from a fountain that is pouring like an avalanche coming down the mountain

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« Reply #21 on: January 23, 2002, 09:49:27 PM »
Very sorry to hear it, my condolences. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
If ye love wealth better than liberty, the tranquility of servitude than the animated contest of freedom, go from us in peace. We ask not your counsels or arms. Crouch down and lick the hands which feed you. May your chains sit lightly upon you, and may posterity forget that you were our countrymen!

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« Reply #22 on: January 23, 2002, 11:42:43 PM »
Ouch Curval.  My sincerest condolences to you and yours.

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« Reply #23 on: January 24, 2002, 12:16:36 AM »
Thoughts and prayers...

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« Reply #24 on: January 24, 2002, 01:14:31 AM »
i know how ya feel:(

sorry to hear that happen:(

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« Reply #25 on: January 24, 2002, 03:29:11 AM »
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« Reply #26 on: January 24, 2002, 03:39:54 AM »
My sympathies also.

My first child made us run to the hospital a dozen times in scare of miscarriage.

I guess the only thing worse than the anticipation is it actually happening.

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« Reply #27 on: January 24, 2002, 07:47:42 AM »
Alittle story about my wifes and my experience:

In 1993, we started to "try" to have a family, ie, she went off the pill. Over the next 2 years, 3 miscarriges later.. (one that was 2nd term!) we began to realize that we may not be able to have children.  The wife was really bummed out, so one day I came home with 6 dozen roses (got them relatively cheap via an aquaintence in the flower business) and a card that said "TO every cloud there is a silver lining, if we are fortunate to have children one day, we'll be rich with love! If we are unable to have children, we'll just be PLAIN RICH!".  She laughed for a good 5 min.  10 months later our first child was born. :D:D

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« Reply #28 on: January 24, 2002, 09:06:38 AM »
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« Reply #29 on: January 24, 2002, 09:59:01 AM »
Rip...

Wow....those must have been some tough times for you and your wife.  Lana and I feel very fortunate that this didn't happen to us on our first attempt at having a child....I would have been a nervous wreck on subsequent attempts.

The only issue now is going to be whether we will actually try again.  We are still waiting for some test results to determine the odds of a re-occurance...but from what the doctors say it appears unlikely.

Without getting into the details of what happened the reasons behind it are wrapped up in chromosome donation..

When a couple have a child 23 chromosomes are donated by each parent..22 go to the physical makeup of the child and the 23rd determines the sex of the baby.  Somehow one of us donated an extra chromosome13, which is one of the worst case senarios.  The genetic coding was screwed up from the beginning and the baby had severe developmental and physical problems.  The doctors were surprised that she was able to carry the child as long as she did....the chance of life for the child was zero percent even if it made it to full term.
Some will fall in love with life and drink it from a fountain that is pouring like an avalanche coming down the mountain