Bigcrate, i dunno how long you fly AH, but your problem with stalls might be that you are pulling to hard.
In my 1st 3-4 weeks, i would stall any plane in AH in every turn, loop etc.. When i got used to the FM, i was able to fly anything without stalling it, and now a stall is the rarest thing i ever have.
And about the P38's stall. I find it very very easy to recover. The P38 is for me the easiest plane to go over-the-top, any other vertikal maneuver. But this is only the case, when not using the combat trim.
I noticed that in most AH planes, the CT will make slow speed turning and vertikal reversals more difficult. This is because the CT is only working properly between 200-400 mph. Below 200 you will fly the plane constantly out of trim, but the CT will nevertheless do some retrimming. And this retrimming will cause some plane movements you dont want to see.
So maybe just try to fly it without CT.