This is the whine of every online game I have ever played - AH didn't invent it.
If you dont wanna be ganged, go fly where people are not, I will bet you soon enough someone will come looking for you. (Maybe thinking you are a bomber on a run perhaps - what a nasty surprise you would be to them eh?
The long and the short of it is, it is up to the individual which fight he wants to get in. Nobody forces your finger to click on flying from a capped base.