Wacky -
I've been flying AH for a couple of years and I still suck
. Best piece of advice I can give you is pick a plane, and stick with it for a couple of tours until you learn it. Jumping back and forth between planes (like I did when I started) constantly doesn't give you the chance to learn the a/c well, and just increases the frustration level cuz you'll get shot down more.
The next thing is, don't worry about your score (i.e. perks, rank etc). When I first started, I was OBSESSED with perk points, rank etc. Once I decided it didn't matter, I started having a lot more fun
Pick a easy plane to fly (I know people will disagree with me here) like a spitV or N1K1 until you get a feel for the arena, acm, gunnery, etc.
The biggest thing is to stick with it. This ain't no computer sim with lousy AI. You're flying again real people, in real time. He who hestitates, is lost. With a little experience, you find yourself shooting down a/c.
Or, you can do like I do, and find the newbies and vulch 'em
Good luck and have fun