This is one reason why I think a penalty of some type is needed for being killed. No penalty for bailing or whatever, but if you actually get killed.
How many times have you shot a plane all to hell, only to have it keep flying and spraying bullets widely like a rabid dog?
With no death penalty, pilots keep flying rather than bail out. The plane is dead anyway, so why not try to take a few with it?
If people wanted to avoid actually being killed (by not getting a 2 minute "you can't message") then the rabid dog sindrome might go away.
In real life, if your plane were on fire and trailing smoke everywhere, the last thing you would want to do is ride it out.