Author Topic: This sure does feel like a HUGE rain cloud (Read 1223 times)

Udie · « **Reply #15 on:** September 06, 2002, 01:46:06 PM »

33 yrs Drafstman, currently civil but did Architectural for 10 yrs....

AKIron · « **Reply #16 on:** September 06, 2002, 01:55:39 PM »

Udie, things always get better when ya just hang on even if that's all you can do.

You're very right about the pain it would cause your parents and others if you took your own life. My son-in-law recently couldn't cope and ended his own life. There's no way I can describe the pain that has left behind. Trust me, you do not want to inflict that kind of suffering on those you love.

Creamo · « **Reply #17 on:** September 06, 2002, 02:15:34 PM »

SOB is fat AND unemployed. He might even run out of windshield wiper solution, or gas. Or his spark plugs will erode?

Just kill him instead.

funkedup · « **Reply #18 on:** September 06, 2002, 02:18:37 PM »

Udie if you are having thoughts about offing yourself you need to tell your doc.

Ripsnort · « **Reply #19 on:** September 06, 2002, 02:43:12 PM »

Udie, EVERY BAD MOMENT of my life, ended in SOMETHING GOOD! Examples? I can give ya hundreds...I got drunk one night, woke with a hang over...I was PISSED because my step-brother didn't wake us up in time to head to Mt.St. Helens to photograph the steam coming out of her...we had BLUE ZONE PASSES...you know how hard those were to get??? Well, that was Sunday morning, May 18th, 1980 that my stupid step-brother failed to wake us up on....(most if not all the victims of Mt.St.Helens were in the Blue zone)

I was laid off from Boeing in 1982, after 9 months of unemployment, I went to bartending school in order to grab a night job to go back to school....well, bartending is where I met my wife! She was cocktailing and going to the same college! Had I not been laid off, I would have NEVER met her!

Out of something bad, something GOOD always comes down the road because of it...silver lining in every cloud.

I know your too smart to off yourself, and mentioning it is usually a sign of depression, tell your doc.

easymo · « **Reply #20 on:** September 06, 2002, 03:14:13 PM »

When I was younger, I wasted a little time on "Why me? Why me?". The answer always came back the same. Why NOT me? I am just another critter on this planet. And they all have troubles. Many worse then mine.

The same day your motor blew, my eldest daughter fell and shattered her wrist. Its 40 degrees out of radius, and full of bone fragments. Surgery on the 15th. The reason she fell, was that three weeks ago she fell and broke her foot. When no one was around to help her, she decided to get up and answer the phone (bad move). So now, with a 2year old, and a 5 year old, to look after, she cant walk, and cant hold onto crutches.

I would tell you the same thing I said to her. We will deal with the problems as they arise, and then move on.

Creamo · « **Reply #21 on:** September 06, 2002, 03:15:38 PM »

OK, truth be told Im not St.Santa's limpwhistle fluffer, and I don't polish his helmet and leather fancy pants with imported russian muskrat oil.

Don't off yerself.

AKDejaVu · « **Reply #22 on:** September 06, 2002, 03:43:13 PM »

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Originally posted by Creamo
SOB is fat AND unemployed. He might even run out of windshield wiper solution, or gas. Or his spark plugs will erode?

That's not true. I know I pay him $20 every tuesday... money well spent.

AKDejaVu

Creamo · « **Reply #23 on:** September 06, 2002, 03:52:02 PM »

See, don't blame me. Im off the hook.

AKDejaVu · « **Reply #24 on:** September 06, 2002, 04:07:48 PM »

BTW... Udie,

Get some professional help. The BBS is great for BS but not where you should go for psychological advice.

AKDejaVu

midnight Target · « **Reply #25 on:** September 06, 2002, 04:18:49 PM »

Udie,

A few years back (ok 20ish) I was married with a small baby. As I was driving home from work, my car cracks the head and dies. I walk the 6 miles or so home. When I get there I discover that we have less than no money. My wife is digging out pennies and rolling them up so I might have enough gas money to get to work (in the other car). Two days later the second car dies. I walk back to look after my first dead car, but when I arrive the thing is stripped clean. I mean no seats, no tires, no stereo.... nothing. I walk back home. Now I'm desperate, so i call my insurance company. They tell me that yes I'm covered for the stolen property, would I like to replace them myself? I think.. whats the catch? They say that they will pay for replacement parts, and give me 10.00 per hour at base shop times to do the work myself. I recieved a hefty check in the mail 2 days later.

Bottom line, I had enough money to get both cars running and to eat until my paycheck arrived. If I hadn't been ripped off, I wouldn't have had the money I needed.

Eagler · « **Reply #26 on:** September 06, 2002, 04:31:44 PM »

good and bad

there is a reason for and a lesson in everything

nothing happens by accident

hang in there, as low as you go now is as high as you'll fly later

eskimo2 · « **Reply #27 on:** September 06, 2002, 06:30:28 PM »

Udie,
Your job sucks. Working for the man basically sucks. My wife is an architect too, and through her work (and school) I’ve met a lot of you guys. Pretty much every architect that I’ve met hates their job and says that it’s just not how they thought it would be. The only exceptions are the very few who work their way up to principal ownership.
We do have one architect friend, however, who told his boss that he needed a few months off regardless if he had a job when he got back. Well, he and some other architects went to South America and built a school in the middle of the Amazon jungle! They ate off the land, slept in hammocks, and got to know the folks in the village pretty well. Anyway, this friend of ours had one hell of a great personality, and it got even better after his adventure. He seemed to have a new perspective on life and seems very happy.

Your Peace Corps idea sounds great, although it’s hard as hell to get into. There are alternatives if you don’t want to bother with them… If your not married, now’s the time to do that kind of thing.
You’ll definitely feel pretty good about yourself (or maybe you’ll just die of malaria…).

I also know a guy who gave up architecture for architectural rendering. He works for himself and loves his work. Learn 3D studio and work for yourself perhaps.

I’ve been at the bottom of the crapper a few times too Udie, it can all change for the better in a day.

eskimo

Puke · « **Reply #28 on:** September 06, 2002, 06:48:39 PM »

Udie, sometimes these trying times can make your life richer. I know it's no fun going through them, but once you survive them and can look back, you will know peace wherever you are. I'll not go into any details because they are just for me, but I sorta miss elements of my trying days.

Things do get better. AH 1.11 will be out in 2-weeks for example. And further down the road, just imagine the flight simulations industry in 5-years. You do not want to miss that!

loser · « **Reply #29 on:** September 06, 2002, 08:40:50 PM »

Udie, I would just like to say that i have a great deal of respect for you.

You come on to a public bbs and say that you are having a hard time of things and you are reaching out. Most people i know have trouble going to seek professional advice under strict confedentiality let alone spilling their heart out in front of non-professional people they dont even know.

I would also like to thank the AH community for being so supportive and honest; insofar as sharing their own personal stories of when things just werent right.

I would like to add one point.

You can get another car, you can get another job, you can get another friend, you can get another girl, you can get another house, you can get another computer after it is obsolete....

You only get one Udie.

I dont think there is one person here that can say that they have always had their ducks in a row, and never had a streak of bad luck. Ripsnort even forgot to mention the times he was shot at.

I think if Sikboy were to reply he might say "Hear the angels sing"

but he will have to explain that one to you.