I don't find them silly myself Rude, but I guess that is because I'm constantly fighting 3 or more on 1.
As far as 'who is flying your plane'... not all of us fly the P-51. Not all of us fly the La-7. Not all of us fly the Dora. Although, as gangbanging as a method of getting kills becomes even more prevalent, I can say with very little doubt that most everyone who stays will be flying those planes.
As far as 'who chooses to engage'.... well, that depends on what the circumstances are. I might be engaged in a one on one with someone else when his four buddies jump in. In that case... they chose to engage. And you can't very well run away from them in a 190A5 or a P-38. Although I suppose I could buy the 'argument' of 'Well, it is your fault ANYWAY, because you chose to fly a non-la7 at an altitude of less than 45,000 feet!". Yea, in that case I'm guilty as charged.
Some of the gangbangers 'arguments' make very little sense to me.
"Well, you put yourself in the situation".
- Ah, no I didn't. I won't engage 3 Spits, an La-7, a 109, and a N1K if they are all flying together. At least not in any plane other than the La-7.
"Why don't you go fly somewhere ELSE?"
- Are they trying to say they want to fight AI or something? Want to make some oh so interesting de-acking runs. Maybe pork some fuel? Oh yea, I'm getting a woody just thinking about it. I guess thats where the appeal is.
You see, in some cases (hell, in a lot of cases) the population of the countries isnt exactly 'even'. You'll have numbers that look like 80-130-25 (poor rooks) or 175-120-90. The MA being what it is, you'll see some fighting along the borders. Most of the popsicle's in the MA being what they are, you'll see a lot of clumps of 5 or 10 guys flying 'together' when they are out looking for a fight, rising to 40 or 50 when a 'mission' to take a field is put in our happy little gangbang planner. So... lets say I'm on the Rooks when 90 Bishops come calling at 1 of the 4 fields that is left. Should I log off? Because if I take off in that situation, it is MY FAULT that I'll get gangbanged by 45 Tiffies that are drooling to kill one of maybe five planes they'll see the whole 'mission'. Or, I could up an La-7 and spend 40 minutes running from 6 and 7 on 1's. Boy, that sure is fun.
Rude, I've got nothing against people that fly together in a squadron. Hell, that is what they are for. However, when you fly in your squad, I'd venture to say you dont fly 10 guys out and CAP one of your own bases, waiting for the 1 con that is in the sector to come sauntering by. You go out and LOOK for a somewhat even fight. If you see a lone N1K at 3k, all 10 of you dont go screaming down to kill him. You might send 2 guys, maybe with a third to watch and make sure everything is going OK. What pisses me off are CONSTANT 4,5,6 or more on 1's. People aren't even content to watch someone's bellybutton when they are in absolute control of a 1 on 1. They have to 'help' (read, dive in for the head on, spraying like mad). I've watched 5 or 6 Knights go after some random enemy that was already in a 2 on 1. I've been run down by at least that many enemies countless times this tour. It gets diddlying aggravating. It is honestly getting to the point where I'm debating between just switching to the La-7 and flying it until it gets perked, or cancelling and saving myself 15 bucks a month.