The easiest way that I have found for soldering such items, is to heat the tabs on the pot and apply a bit of solder to them first. Then, heat the wires from the harness one one side, while touching the solder to the other side (ie...sandwiching the wire between the iron and the solder - not having the iron on one end and the solder on the far end

), then the solder will start to flow when the wire heats up and will flow through to the iron. Then, put the now tinned wire lead against the pot terminal, push down on it lightly with the soldering iron tip and when it melts into the solder on the pot connector, hold the wire in place while pulling the soldering iron away - this should help to pull solder around the wire lead.
Hope that makes sense and most of all - hope it helps!
SOB