TWOLF, I don't think people agree with your initial post. It's quite well formulated and while everything in it is obvious to regulars, it's quite good for newbies. As you say.
I'd think most, however, would expect a 42 year old individual with a degree to behave a bit more mature than what I've seen though.
A 42 year old white gangsta wannabe with insults suiting a 13 year old and behaviour in place just to annoy is probably something most regulars here think is silly and a bit stupid. Demographically, simulator players tend to be well off white males in their thirties or over with higher education. As such, they have certain expectations to the community. When someone acts and talks like a Quake kid the vast majority will roll their eyes, dismiss that individual as a child and move on. Some however, will feel obligated to inform said individual that such behaviour isn't prudent. Freedom of speech, aye, but not prudent.
I have no beef with you or your squad whatsoever. I've been the inofficial and official leader of a squad myself - III/JG 54 'Grnherz' so I'm familiar with what it means.
In such a position, one must think about the reputation of ones squad. If an individual misbehaves and puts a bad light on the squad, that individual must be dealt with. And I think that's what happening to your squad right now. Rightly or wrongly, the behaviour of one member reflects on the entire squad. So if you're worried about your squads reputation, do something about it. If you don't give a toejam about any other people except your squaddies then by all means, do nothing.
Just a heads up for you, not meant as a flame.
