Thanks for the update, but...dude - why are you still married?
99% of the time I'll be the first one to say 'BBS opinions/intellect often leave much to be desired' (mainly when someone feels the need to comment on something they have no knolwedge of - I try to avoid this at all costs, which is why you'll never see me 'talk' when lazs2 and company are talking about car engines, etc.).
But in your case - you asked for advice and you got advice from people who had nothing to gain from you...so you can trust (in this case only) that people were telling you the truth as they knew it.
If you talked to your family, or her family, and have been 'talked out of a divorce'...dude trust me here - if you divorce her and it's 'really true love' YOU CAN ALWAYS GET MARRIED AGAIN LATER.
Once again - don't get her pregnant (and don't 'take her word for it' when it comes to birth control) and don't get locked into being married to her.
If you got married in the U.S.A., I believe (never been married myself) that if you get it annuled within a certain period of time you won't own alimony, etc. MAKE SURE you don't get 'delayed' past that date dude.
Mike/wulfie