Personally, my feelings are mixed on the issue (if it really IS an issue).
I dislike it when someone comes in from an alt advantage and just HO's, but then I think to myself: Who is the dummy, me for just setting there and letting do it, or him, for just rushing straight in and blazing away?
Other times, like when I am outnumbered (which happens ALOT when ya fly rook), I figure if I am gonna go out, I am taking a few with me if I can. So, I HO each idiot that lets himself get in my sights.
The bottom line, IMHO, is that if you let yourself get in front of someone else's guns, basically, YOU screwed up. You can whine and call the other guy a "HO dweeb", but the bottom line is, he did the same thing you did, tried to get a gun solution, and apparently was successful. I used to get mad, like it seems some still do, but now I ask myself why I let it happen.
So, in conclusion, instead of griping at and about the other guy, think the situation over and ask yourself the same thing. Most times, you didn't think the other guy could get around and get pointed at ya.....and you screwed up, nothing more, nothing less.