Having been through one of those wonderful life experiences where everyone around you looks at you like you are insane and then you finally realize that they may be right.....

Get an attorney
The first offer on the table is probably going to be the best even though you think the world has ended, believe me, it will probably be the best most amicable way to end the insanity, after going through five yes 5, years of the wonderful world of lawyers, who literally don't give a crap, and why should they if you are going to pay them, and an ex who couldn't let go of controlling the whole thing to the point of all the lawyers looking at you as if you were crazy being married to her lol, I actually dream about signing the first papers and having it end.....
I don't envy you because it was the most painful aggravating thing I ever experienced, but if you have a chance to end it quick, do it, because it will cost you a fortune if you don't....
Good luck
NwBie