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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: jigsaw on May 06, 2004, 06:21:36 PM
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Well, sort of a lot to type here. Guess I'll start with the big stuff.
A few of ya probably already knew that my mom has been battling breast cancer
for about three years now. When it first started, they did a biopsy and said
they got it all. During her post surgery checkup they told her "Oops, we
didn't. We're doing another biopsy."
Her next few checkups went ok, so I moved out to Phoenix to get the rest of my
pilot/instructor ratings.
When I went home for her birthday last Sept, she told me she was going to be
having a radical masectomy in Oct. I took off work to be there for the
surgery, but had to come back once I had her home from the hospital.
My aunt had come out from Tx to take care of her for a while when I had to
come back.
Mom then had to go through chemo once a month for six treatments. I was taking
off work and flying out for each of those. Didn't make my boss all that happy,
but I didn't much care.
She's still got a few less major surgeries to go once she's healed up from the
big one, so I've decided to move back to CA next month to take care of her. I
have an interview with a flight school on the 17th that's about ten minutes
from her. Would be great if I got it so I could take care of her and still be
flying. If any of ya'll are the praying type, I could use a few.
On a bright note. I managed to get through all of this so far carrying 21/20
hours per semester for the last two, and have a 3.2 GPA.
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I'm truly sorry to hear that jigsaw. I lost an uncle from cancer last year.
I'll say a little prayer for your mum tonight.
Ravs
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Be of good cheer.
My Mom had a radical in the mid-60's, back when they basically didn't really know what they were doing with cancer.
She's still going strong now at age 81; just cooked a great dinner for us all last night.
My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
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jigsaw,
I hope your mother is okay mate. You certainly seem to be handling the situation better than most people I know would...including myself.
Keep your chin up.
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I can relate.
Keep her as active as possable. that means geting up and moving around. Doing some gardening or whatever. but dont just let her lay there.
Beleive it or not she will alot feel better then she will by laying around feeling sick. (speaking from personal experiance)
I aint much the "traditional" Praying type
But the next time the big guy and I converse.
She will be mentioned in my words
Keep the faith
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Jigsaw sounds to me like she Is lucky to have a son like you!
I will ofcoures pray for your mother and your whole family sir!
To paraphrase a favorite John Wayne movie of mine .
You sir have GRIT! And im sure you and your mother will see better days.
God Bless you both.
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This one hits close to home.
You're making the right decision in spending the time with her. Absolutely.
I'll be happy to say a prayer for you both.
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Jigsaw, my mom went through breast cancer awhile back, golly I was what 10 or 11..
She turned out fine..
But just remember be glad for what shes done and celebrate her life.
I will pray for your mom, and see if he can get you that job near home..
Just stay positive and make sure she does aswell, make sure she knows you love her, cause honestly I think thats what pulled my mom through, and that she still has something to live for.
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Made me think.
maybe it's time to pay my mum a visite.
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Mine are with you, keep your chin up, my Mom has small cell follicular lymphoma nonhodgkins that is in stage 4. Hopefully she will outlast it, but that is wishful thinking I believe, I just pray she never has to suffer, and I make sure to cherish every moment we have together. Topping it all off, I found out I have early markers of lymphoma at 31. You are doing the right thing, stay close and be there, and take the time to pray, it helps. My prayers are with you and your Mom.
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Originally posted by Bodhi
Mine are with you, keep your chin up, my Mom has small cell follicular lymphoma nonhodgkins that is in stage 4. Hopefully she will outlast it, but that is wishful thinking I believe, I just pray she never has to suffer, and I make sure to cherish every moment we have together. Topping it all off, I found out I have early markers of lymphoma at 31. You are doing the right thing, stay close and be there, and take the time to pray, it helps. My prayers are with you and your Mom.
And good luck to you and yours Bodhi.
Cancer Is such and ugly thing.
I am one of those idiots that thinks our tax dollars would be better spent trying to find a cure for this killer than spending it on a country that could really care less about us.
100 Billion bucks would go a very long way in cancer research.
I lost my favorite uncle to cancer one minute he is hunting elk in Colorado and the next thing i know he is dying.
We are such a great country filled with the best and brightest why do we wast our selves on all the Bullchit in the world?
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My step-mom went through the same thing. And many years later she is just fine.
But I will say a prayer for her and your family.
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My Mom had a single mastectomy over 15 years ago and is still here. My Wife had a double 4 years ago and is still showing remission. We have many hopes for a long time together.
I hope you are keeping YOUR spirits up. That is one of the most important things YOU can do for her. Treat her well but make sure you demonstrate the expectation that she will BEAT this thing. That confidence is important for her to see coming from you and it will help her believe it for serself. A positive mental attitude id critical to full healing and enjoyment of life after an event like cancer. Don't figure it's going to beat you, YOU are going to beat IT!
Prayers are OTW.
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Breast cancer runs in my wife's family, we have had to deal with it a few times. A prayer is a small favor to ask, consider it done. God Bless.
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I'm pretty much over it, but still a bit bitter.
If the old farts in government were dropping like flies on account of man-breast cancer, there'd prolly already be a cure.
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Mother-in-law got it. She's closer to me than my own mother ('nother story there).
Forced to due single mastecmy (sp) and lymph nodes. Six months later she found another lump. Doc's said it's just scar tissue. It wasn't.
Another surgery and many rounds of treatment later and almost two years now she now has had both breasts removed but she seems to be clear.
God I hope I'm not jinxing it with this. Her hair is also coming back nicely.
Prayers with you jigsaw.
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Hey Drunky Prayers to you and yours as well.
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Originally posted by Nash
If the old farts in government were dropping like flies on account of man-breast cancer, there'd prolly already be a cure.
Sir you just hit the nail on the head!
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Best wishes for you and your mom jigsaw. My mom has had one lung removed and a few rounds of chemo so i know what you are going through.
You are not alone.
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Thanks ya'll. I really appreciate all the support. My mom and aunt are the only family I have left, so they're the big priority for me.
Mom stays pretty active for her age (61). Even got her to start online college classes to upgrade her AA degree she's had since before I was around to a BA in order to keep her mentally active in case she wasn't up for anything physical.
When I talked to her last night, she was all excited that her eyebrows had started to grow back. :D
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Jigsaw,
I know a lot of folks who have survived cancer, including my mother. She is doing very well several years after a lumpectomy.
Think positive.
eskimo
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Jigsaw thats great!
If she didn't like her hair before, it may grow in a differnt color or even curly or straighter..
But, I guess that could be a negative thing for a woman who liked her hair..
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my prayers are with you and her.
I'm glad to see that you have your priorities straight, sad to say it's a rarity these days. even of the people who are considered very big on family, most wouldn't have concidered relocating or managing to make the trip for every chemo treatment.
it makes you wonder about people who are seriously confused when you talk about making it a priority over work, and social life. and there are a lot of them that just don't get it, aren't there.
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Originally posted by Nash
If the old farts in government were dropping like flies on account of man-breast cancer, there'd prolly already be a cure.
Unfortunately, that's not correct, Nash. More men die from prostate cancer than any form of cancer. Next to skin cancer, it's the most frequently diagnosed.
Take your age, subtract 10 and that's the percentage/probability of having prostate cancer. Hard to believe, but verified by the city of Detroit. Detroit has routinely autopsied all males killed in automobiles for many years.
So if you're 50, there's 40% chance (approximately) of having prostate cancer. Old farts are dropping like flies and they will continue to drop like flies until a better understanding of the genome is reached.
I'm not sure money is the solution. Maybe a re-alignment of research priorities?
Best of luck to you and your mom, Jigsaw.
curly
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Originally posted by Nash
If the old farts in government were dropping like flies on account of man-breast cancer, there'd prolly already be a cure.
I did find a way to get more guys interested in the problem. on a job a couple years back the foreman was trying to collect money to sponsor his mother in the breast-cancer walk thing.
he didn't feel right collecting the money himself (kind of unfair pressure to have the foreman ask you to donate), so he asked if I would (I was the steward on the job), and said he'd match whatever I could collect. so after getting approval (all collections need approved) I tried to raise the cash.
I didn't have much luck at first, most of the guys didn't seem real interested. the "it could be your mother, your daughter, your wife" angle didn't help much.
so then I found an angle that did. -
"your a guy, right? you like breasts don't you? without some progress on this disease we will continue to have more and more women walking around without breasts. what do you mean you don't care? you're not gay are you? oh, and btw- the foreman already agreed to match any funds I raised so if you donated a he'd have to match yours along with everybody else's, you could give a lot and it would really stick it too him"
some donated just 'cause they like the originality of the approach, maybe some finally donated because they where shallow enough that this was the only way to get their attention, I don't much know or care why. in the end though out of the 11 guys on the job I was able to collect about $650. not a lot by any means but still I figure not to bad from a bunch of working guys who don't exactly have an abundance of $$
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My Mom is 70 and is a breast cancer survivor,so it can be beat...with lots of prayers, and mine are OTW.
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Originally posted by capt. apathy
"your a guy, right? you like breasts don't you? without some progress on this disease we will continue to have more and more women walking around without breasts. what do you mean you don't care? you're not gay are you?
Heh, pretty clever. BTW, guys do get breast cancer.
curly
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MATTHEW 8
[14] And when Jesus was come into Peter's house, he saw his wife's mother laid, and sick of a fever.
[15] And he touched her hand, and the fever left her: and she arose, and ministered unto them.
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