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Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: SunTracker on August 24, 2004, 08:54:41 PM
Ok, I have a friend whom I've known since high school.  Last spring he got engaged to be married.  He asked me to be a groomsmen in his wedding.  I said ok.  He told me he was getting married when his girlfriend finished college.  

This summer I learned how to scuba dive and joined a scuba club.  My dive buddy and I were invited to go on an ecology dive with the club on Sept 11 at Dale Hollow Lake.  For freshwater, its actually supposed to be a pretty neat dive.

Well I hear from my friend this past weekend that he has changed his wedding date to Sept 11.  And he still wants me to be in his wedding.

So either way somebody is getting let down, either my friend or my dive buddy.  I'm leaning towards going on the scuba trip, because its alot more fun than a wedding.

Any suggestions or advice?
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: rpm on August 24, 2004, 09:00:56 PM
You can go diving anytime. Your buddy will only get married 3 or 4 times. Go to the wedding, you can always bag a bridesmaid and go diving.;)
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: midnight Target on August 24, 2004, 09:01:28 PM
No brainer. Your friend should get married only once, the lake will be there for a long time.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Blooz on August 24, 2004, 09:12:22 PM
Some friend you are.

Being in the wedding party is an honor.

This will be one of the biggest days in their lives!

Invited to be in a wedding party and is thinking of going scuba diving instead?

You should be ashamed to even think of turning down your friends invitation like that!

As stated above, that water will always be there.



P.S. Scuba gear makes good wedding gifts.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Chairboy on August 24, 2004, 09:13:36 PM
Tough call.  You're not the best man, just a groomsman.  I was originally gonna say 'wedding', but...  tough call.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Nash on August 24, 2004, 09:16:19 PM
This is a lot like the dumbtruck post.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: hawker238 on August 24, 2004, 09:17:32 PM
(http://www.nzfreshwater.org/thumbnails/scuba.jpg)

vs.

(http://www.geocities.com/renegade_si/bridesmaid.jpg)


Tough call.... :p


Just kidding, depending on how good of a friend, I'd go scuba diving.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: SunTracker on August 24, 2004, 09:19:07 PM
Thanks for the feedback blooz (and others).

Personally I hate weddings.  They are boring and waste of time (to me).  But apparently most people think they are important.  

I agree that the lake will always be there, but this is a once a year trip for my club.  

But perhaps I will go to this antiquated ceremony to appease the natives.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Nash on August 24, 2004, 09:21:20 PM
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Originally posted by SunTracker
Personally I hate weddings.  They are boring and waste of time (to me).


ho my god.

You are clearly not going to these with the right attitude. Are you single? These are anything BUT boring.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Holden McGroin on August 24, 2004, 09:21:39 PM
Just a small wonderment... why did they choose 9-11 as a wedding date?



I guess he'll never forget an anniversary.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Nash on August 24, 2004, 09:22:18 PM
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Originally posted by Holden McGroin
Just a small wonderment... why did they choose 9-11 as a wedding date?


Thought the same thing. I'm thinking discount.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: GRUNHERZ on August 24, 2004, 09:24:25 PM
I cant imagine why anybody would want that wedding date these years..
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Nash on August 24, 2004, 09:26:40 PM
My step-mom's birthday was 9/11.

She actually changed it to August... same as my dad's. Heh, kinda weird, but goes to show....
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: GRUNHERZ on August 24, 2004, 09:27:30 PM
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Originally posted by Nash
My step-mom's birthday was 9/11.

She actually changed it to August... same as my dad's. Heh, kinda weird, but goes to show....


You serious?
Title: Re: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Hawklore on August 24, 2004, 09:28:02 PM
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Originally posted by SunTracker
Ok, I have a friend whom I've known since high school.  Last spring he got engaged to be married.  He asked me to be a groomsmen in his wedding.  I said ok.  He told me he was getting married when his girlfriend finished college.  

This summer I learned how to scuba dive and joined a scuba club.  My dive buddy and I were invited to go on an ecology dive with the club on Sept 11 at Dale Hollow Lake.  For freshwater, its actually supposed to be a pretty neat dive.

Well I hear from my friend this past weekend that he has changed his wedding date to Sept 11.  And he still wants me to be in his wedding.

So either way somebody is getting let down, either my friend or my dive buddy.  I'm leaning towards going on the scuba trip, because its alot more fun than a wedding.

Any suggestions or advice?


Tell him Sept.11th really isn't a good date to get married, and by using a sad occasion to remember his annervisary reall won't work out.. :aok
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Nash on August 24, 2004, 09:28:49 PM
Oh yeah... Her birthday is no longer 9/11. It is now 8/18.

Nuts. :)
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: SunTracker on August 24, 2004, 09:29:23 PM
Nash, weddings in the 'bible belt' are a bit different from what you are thinking of.

One more question-  Did you guys think your high school graduation ceremony was important?
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Nash on August 24, 2004, 09:34:38 PM
Okay Suntracker, here's what ya do.

Turn off your monitor and close your eyes. Imagine a telephone conversation between you and the groom, where you are 100% completely honest with him about why you wish to back down from being his groomsman. Just run the tape. If at the end of it you don't think you've come across as a complete arse, then good times and happy snorkling.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Bodhi on August 24, 2004, 11:00:22 PM
SunTracker,

How long you been diving?

I have over 1500 dives.  Am a former certified commercial saturation diver and still occasionally recreationally dive.  Used to cave dive like mad when I lived in Florida.  Bit of advice, if you were going to Truk Lagoon, or the Galapagos Islands, I'd say, GO!  you are talking about diving a freshwater lake... they are fun when the ocean is not available, but, let it go, the lake will always be there.
Make your friend happy and go to his wedding.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Gunslinger on August 24, 2004, 11:10:18 PM
Quote
Originally posted by Nash
Oh yeah... Her birthday is no longer 9/11. It is now 8/18.

Nuts. :)


I had no clue somone could actually change their Birthday.....intersting.


Seriously.....woman at weddings/receptions are usually pretty easy game if that's your thing.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Saurdaukar on August 24, 2004, 11:58:29 PM
Go to the wedding if you expect to be on the wife's "People my husband can speak to once a month without catching **** from me" list.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Saintaw on August 25, 2004, 12:36:01 AM
Wedding... lots more fish to catch/see there, trust me :)
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: J_A_B on August 25, 2004, 12:39:43 AM
Wedding or scuba diving?  Ugh, not much to choose from, huh.   Might as well go to the wedding, at least you won't have to risk being eaten by a sea monster (bridesmaids don't count).


Maybe you can wear your scuba gear to the wedding and have the best of both worlds.  As a side effect, there's the added bonus of having your own air tank to breathe out of when confronted by hordes of portly women wearing gallons of nauseating perfume.



J_A_B
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: DREDIOCK on August 25, 2004, 12:40:46 AM
Better yet.

Do him a  HUGE favor
Invite or kidnap the Groom to go diving instead of getting married

Anything less and your either a sadist or not a true friend LMAO
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Holden McGroin on August 25, 2004, 01:21:06 AM
Quote
Originally posted by Gunslinger
I had no clue somone could actually change their Birthday.....intersting.


QE II, Queen of England, Canada and some other places, was born in February or some winter month anyway, but the changed it to summertime to celebrate when there was better weather.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Leslie on August 25, 2004, 02:29:50 AM
Go to the wedding and have a wild time, is my advice.  I agree weddings are boring, but it's something you gotta do for a friend.

Les
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: B17Skull12 on August 25, 2004, 02:46:52 AM
i have a friends birthday who is on 9/11.  i remeber it so clear, he was inbetween mad and sad.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: GreenCloud on August 25, 2004, 03:01:35 AM
lmfao..

tell " your friend"  to go to hell

He must not be a good friend or even a friend of yours to want to attend one of the BiGGEst Events in his Life....and he wants you to be in it


so sounds to me hes not a friend of yours ..or he thinks u are ...you must be two faced


I think i hate you now too

heheh

i enjoy weddings..all the girls are freshly waxed..

I have been involved in over 100 weddings...dam fun

btw...9-11 strange date to pick indeed...but it is a weekend and they will sell you that date forsure...too sensitive for me
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Mickey1992 on August 25, 2004, 07:09:01 AM
Who the hell changes a wedding date 2.5 weeks before the scheduled date?
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Jackal1 on August 25, 2004, 07:34:14 AM
Here`s the solution. Catch your friend out of town. Go buy some cheap wine and get his girl sloshed. Bag her. Tell your friend aabout it. Wedding canceled. Enjoy the dive trip and take your friend with you. :D
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Snork on August 25, 2004, 07:41:26 AM
Quote
Originally posted by GRUNHERZ
I cant imagine why anybody would want that wedding date these years..


Smart move in my opinion. Makes it easy to remember, which will eliminate that big fight down the road.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: J_A_B on August 25, 2004, 08:01:16 AM
I must have the perfect wife.  She forgot our anniversary.  The best either of us can recall is it was sometime in July in some past year.


J_A_B
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: deSelys on August 25, 2004, 08:06:02 AM
Quote
Originally posted by J_A_B
I must have the perfect wife.  She forgot our anniversary.  The best either of us can recall is it was sometime in July in some past year.


J_A_B


That's just impossible!!! :eek:

She must have some Y chromosom hidden somewhere...
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Dago on August 25, 2004, 08:06:34 AM
Not a decision to make here.

The wedding is an important life event.

Scuba diving can be done any weekend.

If you go diving and blow off your friend on one of the most important days of his life, just have a tatoo placed on your forehead that says "jerk", or something more graphic.

That you would even have to think about this means you are a shallow person.


dago
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: JB73 on August 25, 2004, 08:40:19 AM
Quote
Originally posted by SunTracker
I agree that the lake will always be there, but this is a once a year trip for my club.  
im sorry there is the answer right there.

they go every year?




what exactly are you missing by skipping this year, to be the best man

repeat best man

at someone who obviously considers you their greatest friend in the entire world's wedding?

plus drunken bridesmaids can be pretty hot to trot from what i hear
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: JBA on August 25, 2004, 08:59:43 AM
I've bagged out of a few weddings I've been asked to be in, work related travel. Tell him you already planed the trip for that day and you can't change it, besides he was planing for a later date an how. Not your fault he changed the date.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Torque on August 25, 2004, 09:03:11 AM
Just show up in your Scuba gear, most weddings receptions usually have a fountain somewhere.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Curval on August 25, 2004, 09:12:56 AM
I hate weddings too.

On one occassion, however, I was forced to go by a friend of the groom.  I wasn't even in the wedding party and had plans to be somewhere else.  But, I got guilted into going and figured that I would leave the eception as early as possible.

Then I met this girl.

Later that night, while relaxing and enjoying an after sex smoke on the beach I chuckled at myself for almost missing what turned out to be a very enjoyable evening.

:)
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Ripsnort on August 25, 2004, 09:16:20 AM
Quote
Originally posted by Torque
Just show up in your Scuba gear, most weddings receptions usually have a fountain somewhere.


or a punch bowl..
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Sixpence on August 25, 2004, 09:29:23 AM
Once you get by all the formal stuff it gets fun, then the DJ takes over and everyone dances the night away, it's always a special evening.
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: AKS\/\/ulfe on August 25, 2004, 09:32:38 AM
Weddings are for the brides, any guy who enjoys it may be one of Lazs' effeminent men. Do you cry at weddings too?

I'm going to my friends wedding and going to be an usher - worst job ever, but I look at it as a means to pay for the open bar that will result in me making an bellybutton out of myself in front of both families. Good stuff.
-SW
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Curval on August 25, 2004, 09:55:09 AM
Quote
Originally posted by AKS\/\/ulfe
Weddings are for the brides, any guy who enjoys it may be one of Lazs' effeminent men. Do you cry at weddings too?

I'm going to my friends wedding and going to be an usher - worst job ever, but I look at it as a means to pay for the open bar that will result in me making an bellybutton out of myself in front of both families. Good stuff.
-SW


Did you skip past my post?
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: AKS\/\/ulfe on August 25, 2004, 09:57:23 AM
Yes, I don't read anything typed by pink short wearing fruits. Go back to sipping on your tea and eating your crumpets. And that girl was probably really a dude in drag... pre-op.
-SW
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Curval on August 25, 2004, 10:05:40 AM
LOL...
:aok
Title: Help me with moral dilemma
Post by: Eagler on August 25, 2004, 10:30:32 AM
scuba