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General Forums => Aces High General Discussion => Topic started by: XrightyX on November 22, 2004, 11:54:41 PM
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How many of you vets are married out there? Errr...how many of you vets are happily married out there? Got a question for you...
How do you explain to your wife that talking to other men online while she is asleep isn't "sketchy"? :lol
LOL. My wife came stomping out of the bedroom tonight as I was talking to a squaddie. Stood there with a "who the f*** are you talking too" look on her face. I type "afk", put plane on auto climb and try to explain myself to no avail. :rofl
Help me fellas!
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Dood, just open another account, have her wing or gun your bomber.
My absolutely adorable wife will bring me dinner, or snacks, or drinks while I fly.
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Does no good if they dont understand how an online community can be just as real and important as the guys you go hunting with or watch the game with on Monday Night Football. I lost one to Air Warrior so dont look at me. :) I just got lucky this time, my current ball and chain likes online games almost as much as I do.
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Originally posted by ROCrats
Dood, just open another account, have her wing or gun your bomber.
And remember Kill Shooter is enabled in most arena's :D
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I got lucky to I guess, my wife dosn't have a problem with me playing other than if she wants me to clean the house or do dishes and I'm stuck up in the air. :)
We even started an account for her last month, if you get shot down by hOOtrmma thats me wife.:D
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Just make sure the honeydo list is done and that when she talks to you that she isn't talking to the side of your head while you are looking at the screen.
This last one is vital :)
22 years of marriage in and going strong, although she knew she was marrying an aviation nut when she got into the deal so she had a bit of warning
Dan/Slack
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Not married yet but my gf (kinda like a wife) understands my love for "those silly flying games that all look alike".
I told her theres a difference.
Of course the trade off is that I have to watch her shows with her and every now and then do nice things. Thats the tip, balance it out and explain to her its a hobby.
Then when shes asleep get her out of the coutnry ASAP.
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Originally posted by XrightyX
How many of you vets are married out there? Errr...how many of you vets are happily married out there? Got a question for you...
How do you explain to your wife that talking to other men online while she is asleep isn't "sketchy"? :lol
LOL. My wife came stomping out of the bedroom tonight as I was talking to a squaddie. Stood there with a "who the f*** are you talking too" look on her face. I type "afk", put plane on auto climb and try to explain myself to no avail. :rofl
Help me fellas!
That's sad.
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Originally posted by Guppy35
Just make sure the honeydo list is done and that when she talks to you that she isn't talking to the side of your head while you are looking at the screen.
This last one is vital :)
22 years of marriage in and going strong, although she knew she was marrying an aviation nut when she got into the deal so she had a bit of warning
Dan/Slack
What He said and One Other thing.
When you wife is sitting there on the couch or bed with "Come give it to me big-boy" eyes and Ask "why don'y you come over here?" Just do it! DO NOT answer with "But honey Iam on Shane's six i'm gunna shoot him down" SHE WILL NEVER EVER UNDERSTAND!
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LOL, how do you think I got involved in this? If you can't beat 'em - join 'em! ;) (I started out with the intention of only gunning bombers or driving GVs! Over 6 years ago in AW.... :D)
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dont let the fly time out number the fun time. my wife lets me play as long as im not going at it for hours on end.... wifey needs alot of fun time.
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Just tell her, would u rather me at home playing this game or going to the bar with friends?
Dogg
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"Just tell her, would u rather me at home playing this game or going to the bar with friends? "
Here here!! Just preface "would u rather me at home playing this game or going to the bar with friends?" with "Yo beeyatch....." and you got a winner.
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Originally posted by Westy
"Yo beeyatch....." and you got a winner.
Or a deathwish.
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It took my wife 2 or 3 years to really understand. Until she did she always resented the time that "She" got. (my computer)
It wasn't until squad members started calling on the phone, asking how I was doing etc that she realised. She'd married into an extended family, a big one, and the computer was how we stayed in touch & talked to each other.
You do need to balance it, keep the honey do list cleaned up. Be willing to alt F4 if needed.
But "Good" wifes will eventually understand. Yes we are all qeeks, nerds & dweebs. Most of us have online friends that are closer to us than our real family. Anyone that has flown AH for a year knows more about me than most of my family ever did or will.
He's a brother, a close cousin, an uncle, and if he's in my squad he can have the shirt off my back.
Last westy nailed it.
You can spend 40$ a night in a bar EASY. At least this way my wife KNOWS where I'm at and if she needs me I'm right there. You just have to show her WHO it is your hanging with.
Show her the squadron, how tight you are with these guys. How laid back & easy to live with you are if you get your "Fix" regularlly, and how Pi$$y you are when you don't.
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Originally posted by ROCrats
Dood, just open another account, have her wing or gun your bomber.
My absolutely adorable wife will bring me dinner, or snacks, or drinks while I fly.
Got mine hooked, works every time.
Now it's "Yo byotch, bring a goon"
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the only way I could de-ack my wife was to de-marry her lol :aok
P.S. I got to keep the house and truck :rofl
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Originally posted by MwDogg
Just tell her, would u rather me at home playing this game or going to the bar with friends?
Dogg
Ding ding.
This works well as long as you don't come across as attacking her with this logic. Just mention this in an off-hand way. She may not even comment on it...but eventually she will "get it".
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Originally posted by MwDogg
Just tell her, would u rather me at home playing this game or going to the bar with friends?
Dogg
Originally posted by Curval
Ding ding.
This works well as long as you don't come across as attacking her with this logic. Just mention this in an off-hand way. She may not even comment on it...but eventually she will "get it".
This argument does not work. You might think it does, but opens a whole new door for conversation.
Trust me, bad idea, especially the next time you want to go drink at the bar with your friends.
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Worked for me. Been married for 9.5yrs and counting.
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Golf: $60.00-$160.00 /round (most courses Jax FL), Good Clubs $900.00-$1200.00, gone all day.
Hunting: $1-2K in equipment, gone days at a time
Fishing: $15K+ for boat + gear, gone for days on end.
Womanizing in the bar: Half of all you own.
AH: $395.00 for CH gear & $2k for computer (paid for with side jobs), $15.00/mo. Home every night.
Wife seeing the value in AH: Priceless!
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Originally posted by MwDogg
Worked for me. Been married for 9.5yrs and counting.
Hmmm, does she have a sister?
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Originally posted by Clifra Jones
Golf: $60.00-$160.00 /round (most courses Jax FL), Good Clubs $900.00-$1200.00, gone all day.
Hunting: $1-2K in equipment, gone days at a time
Fishing: $15K+ for boat + gear, gone for days on end.
Womanizing in the bar: Half of all you own.
AH: $395.00 for CH gear & $2k for computer (paid for with side jobs), $15.00/mo. Home every night.
Wife seeing the value in AH: Priceless!
But, see when you're gone, it's out of sight, out of mind.
The problem is when you're there, ignoring the heck out of her.
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My woman is out in town right now drinking with her friends. The way i see it, who cares if she cheats on me, if she still happy to give me what i want when she comes home.
at the end of the day, Marriage is a lost art in this day and age anyway, no matter how good you are, there will always be someone or something that looks better.
If you really do find someone who is willing to be loyal to you and never plays away from home then you are a truly lucky man, DO NOT squander this love.
If you're like everyone else, and your misses seems a little dishonest at times, then screw it, go out and wet your whistle too. As long as you both find happiniess in the moments of quiet, and love in your sunset years, then you're doing better than the majority of folks.
just remember, your love life is more imprtant than your k/d mmm'kay?
Batfink
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My loving wife say's it's a good deal
15 bucks' and It keeps the old Bast*rd out of the beer joint.
Smart broad huh?:rolleyes:
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Just wait until you try to explain that you want to go to The Con...
;-)
-Llama
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Top ten list why the Wife has come to tolerate my AH Addiction.
#10. My hobby is at home, she knows where I am.
#9. It's better than her friends husbands cyber-porn addiction.
#8. 50 cents a day is less than most people pay for soda, women
love bargains.
#7. Very, very few of the voices she hears coming from the puter
are womens voices, and most of them are from very far away.
#6. She can watch whatever she wants on TV during squad
nights. Scenarios etc.
#5. Furr-Balling, porking are not as Dirty as they sound.
#4. She would rather I drink beers and get behind my joystick
than the wheel of a car.
#3. I built her her own computer so she doesn't interfere with
my flying.
#2. Squadmates Holiday cards Liven up the house.
And the number one reason is.....
She loves me, for who I am. :)
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Originally posted by kj714
But, see when you're gone, it's out of sight, out of mind.
The problem is when you're there, ignoring the heck out of her.
Yeah, I got my butt in that sling back in my BBS (pre Internet) days. Ya gotta 'make time' for 'em. Or at least make it look like your makin' time for 'em.
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Be real careful here. To a person who does not understand an “online friend” nothing you say can make them understand. The only way to understand it is to do it. Like being in the military, you can talk all you want, but until you live it you don’t know squat.
A spouse will better accept you going to the club with the boys than an on line friend. To them it is a secret. You must re-enforce that your spouse is the prime person in your life. The big tests for you will be when you’re in a big mission with the squadies and she asks you to do something for her (Usually a small thing that can wait a few months to get done) and you put the game first. At that point you loose and nothing you say will make up for it.
Bottom line, keep wife happy, fly happy!
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Originally posted by MwDogg
Just tell her, would u rather me at home playing this game or going to the bar with friends?
Dogg
yep! yep!
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Best Bet is to get her a job at night.:aok :D
Worked for me
Crims
479th Raiders
Btw she does think this is a little on the odd side :cool:
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Originally posted by llama
Just wait until you try to explain that you want to go to The Con...
;-)
-Llama
That's true. But luckily my wife is an unofficial member of our squad and she let's me fly as long as it doesn't interfere with other things.
Haven't asked to go to the Con yet, but I can anticipate what will happen next year when I do.
NGC89
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(http://www.onpoi.net/ah/pics/users/581_1101345906_89280078udeikr_phnew.jpg)
Sure they look nice now...
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oh but wait......how bout when you holler at a country man or a squadie " typhy in bound" or " in bound nikki" and you get.............("and just who the hell is nikki/typhy")....or "why you type so much i thought that wasn't a chat line".:confused: :confused: :lol
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Originally posted by loony1
oh but wait......how bout when you holler at a country man or a squadie " typhy in bound" or " in bound nikki" and you get.............("and just who the hell is nikki/typhy")....or "why you type so much i thought that wasn't a chat line".:confused: :confused: :lol
Well it could be worse. My 4 year old son thinks I'm always talking to someone named Roger. LOL
:D :aok
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My wife enjoys squad nights! More like comedy night.
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Mine brings me food and drinks as well. She knows I love it, and lets me enjoy myself. Id say I balanced my time right, but Id be lying. Ive spent way too much time online over the years. Somehow she keeps lovin me :)
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Originally posted by MwDogg
Just tell her, would u rather me at home playing this game or going to the bar with friends?
Its a good line but only got me so far. I hosted a Grave Diggers barbecue this past summer and the wives were discussing strategies - it was pretty funny. I use the line now "But I'm on a Mission, I can't log, I got the troops (Even when I'm in a bomber) :D ." Of course I had to make concessions here and there but I guess I am fortunate - My old lady doesn't get home until 6:00 normally. I usually get home from work at 4:00 so I can sneak 2 hours in at least. Also I adopted my fathers rule which was Sunday afternoon is ME TIME. I either watch Football or Fly - take it or leave it. My wife did admit that it is nicer to have me home than to be out with the drunks in the Police Pipe Band on Monday Nights and Weekends. Only advice I have is "Switch all power to front deflector screens."
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11 years happily married!! If I asked my wife "which would you rather have...?" She would say "Neither!" I would want....!" My wife is very understanding. She understands that this is fun time for me. As long as I don't spend tooo much time on the computer everything in my house is great. Sometimes she acts as flight attendant and brings me food when I'm flying!:aok I've found (and firmly believe) as others have said 1.) A happy wife is the best thing in the world. 2) It is hard to explain how one can build a friendship over the internet unless you've done it. Try including her as others have said. Have some wine/beer/Jack Daniels and have her be a gunner or bomber or just sit with her an say goofy stuff like "OH!OH Watch this!!" Part of the problem with on line chat is the bad rap from the news and its relation to porn etc. Once she realizes how really innocuos and funny this is she should lighten up. If not you have a choice. Her or AH! I'm sure you'll miss her:rofl
Peace
Pillur
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"My wife did admit that it is nicer to have me home than to be out with the drunks in the Police Pipe Band on Monday Nights and Weekends. "
I mentioned that line to my wife years ago...she said if I were that type we wouldnt be having this discussion.
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Over 2,500,000,000 women in the world; only one AH.
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Originally posted by mechanic
My woman is out in town right now drinking with her friends. The way i see it, who cares if she cheats on me, if she still happy to give me what i want when she comes home.
at the end of the day, Marriage is a lost art in this day and age anyway, no matter how good you are, there will always be someone or something that looks better.
If you really do find someone who is willing to be loyal to you and never plays away from home then you are a truly lucky man, DO NOT squander this love.
If you're like everyone else, and your misses seems a little dishonest at times, then screw it, go out and wet your whistle too. As long as you both find happiniess in the moments of quiet, and love in your sunset years, then you're doing better than the majority of folks.
just remember, your love life is more imprtant than your k/d mmm'kay?
Batfink
Whats sad is that you sound like you really believe this. :confused:
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At the risk of being frowned at, mine actually trusts me, and me her.
I don't have to explain myself.
Been married 16 years.
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Originally posted by Guppy35
This last one is vital :)
22 years of marriage in and going strong, although she knew she was marrying an aviation nut when she got into the deal so she had a bit of warning
Dan/Slack
And a moderate:)
:D
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Originally posted by Rolex
Over 2,500,000,000 women in the world; only one AH.
So you are saying that there might be one for me?:)
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Sorry Lew. None for you.
I sent you one last week but customs returned her. They said she was on the no-fry list.
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I'm not gonna get married. My Dad always said why get the cow when you can get the milk for free:)
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Originally posted by Booky
Whats sad is that you sound like you really believe this. :confused:
Sometimes things in life (or your family) happen, that destroy all your beliefs, and, more important your trust in people. And love.
I grew up in a supposedly happy family, that after 35 years of marriage (my parents) blew up in my face. Makes you wonder about marriage and faithfulness.
Atm, im in a hopefully longterm relationship myself. Marriage?? Dont know. Ask me in a few years, maybe ill regain my trust and will take a leap of faith. Dont know yet.
Life has a way of making you cynical sometimes.
Oh, and as for AH addiction: we both fly, and love killing each other in DA...;)
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Originally posted by StarOfAfrica2
my current ball and chain likes online games almost as much as I do.
Heh. Apparently she doesn't read this BBS:D
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I think i got all of ya's beat,My wife found me AW way back in 96?97? AND reminds me it's squadnite ,beat that fellas :)
plus i get the same as some of you,she'll come in and ask if i'm busy "Of course honey,i'm in a mission,escorting B42's tonite"
of course,it's not for a honey-do-list-i tem i forgot,it's dinner time and dinner is brought to my station :D
and yes,she knew i was into aviation before we married,she would help move my ac models out of the way when she'd visit.
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The missus records her soap operas, then begs me to go play my "little game" so she can watch them without my commentary.
It's the 'commentary' that really solidified the deal.
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Originally posted by midnight Target
The missus records her soap operas, then begs me to go play my "little game" so she can watch them without my commentary.
It's the 'commentary' that really solidified the deal.
LOL
That's how I've finally justified my playing of AH. She watches soap operas for 1-2 hours everyday. I've agreed to only shake my head in amazement/disgust in exchange for her only shaking her head in amazement/disgust while I play AH. Totally understand the 'commentary' bit. :)
The toughest part was explaining that I couldn't just "put the game on pause".
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My absolutely adorable wife will bring me dinner, or snacks, or drinks while I fly.
Mine too. Sometimes she want the speakers on during squad night so she can listen in. She gets to know all the guys in my squad and wants to know their call sign when they call me at home so she knows who she is talking to. :)
Been married about 12 years. Sure marriage has its up’s and down’s, but if you work at it (and it does take work) it is well worth it. Love is a commitment, not a feeling. I see so many get married and then just toss it away after a short time. I wish pre-marital counseling was required by law. Sure would save in the divorce courts.
Right on Phaser.. good post. You too Ghosth. :)
Schatzi, I know what you mean. My sister was married for 22 years till my brother in-law decided he needed a newer and younger model. I thought they had a great marriage and was shocked when it ended. In a way it scared me. Makes me to never stop working on my marriage. :)
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Originally posted by SunKing
That's sad.
Your avitar explains exactly who you are...You piece of S**T
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My Wife is as some have posted here. Totally understanding of the time I put into this game. She also brings me dinner and drinks. Makes coffee and brings it. She doesn't mind me playing at ll.
As far as the suspesion goes , well cant help ya there other than tell her to watch and see what your doing. AFter a few minutes she will be back to sleep. Especiall if you go on a Long Hi Alt PEE51 run.
What works with my adorable wife is she plays online games and I give her the TV to listen to while she plays. She giggles at all that military stuff. JABO , Heavies , Fighters , Rgr , Copy , Ord on whatever...Vulching....She just giggles and says...
"You guys sure enjoy blowing eachother up dont ya" :lol
If you have a great wife , like I do , and a few others it seems , AH is a great time for HER as well as you. If you just make her time important.
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I have never experinced wife ack, but I dont think it can get any worse than Mom dad brother sister ack...Man its the worse.