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General Forums => Aces High General Discussion => Topic started by: wipass on December 08, 2004, 06:35:33 PM
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Four weeks ago my young lad was diagnosed as being dyslexic, it wasn't such a huge shock as we had suspected for a while that such a bright young man shouldn't have trouble reading, writing and spelling.
I "fly" GMT 17:00 for an hour or so, well this is the time that he needs help with homework and some good old fashioned time with his Dad.
So .... I have made the decision to quit and cancel the game so as I can concentrate on my boy.
All the best to you all and the game in General.
Thanks HTC for a few years of fun and thanks to the community at large for making this a fun place to be.
wipass
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you have always been a good player in AH and it seems you are even a better father. Good luck to you.
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sir, good luck with helping your son overcome it. i hear there are many ways to help that, and my prayers are with you.
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Good luck sir
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Take it easy Wip,
, good luck with that bud.
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Good on ya' wipass.
Fun flying with / against you in WBs and in AH. Best to you and your boy -
Scherf
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Sorry to cya leave...you were always a class act. Best wishes with respect to your son.
DmdMax
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Wipass as a father of 5 I know sometimes things may be tough,but A strong person like yourself will over come. I myself have cut back playing time and Have seen and improvement in My father & son relationship. Wish you and your family all the success and happiness though out your lives. Good luck & Godbless .
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Wishing you well and good hope with your lad.
I'm not a father but I am dyslexic. There is a whole world of help out there these days. Dedictaed teachers, schools etc. I'm sure you've already been filled in.
Unfortunaly in my day Dyslexia wasn't catered for. I didn't really learn to read untill I was 15 / 16. Through Junior school I had extra night classes, extra home work (mostly copying) and the humilation of being made to read out load in class. As you could imagine, I soon switched off and became adept at hiding my problem. When I was in my early teens the only thing that helped me to read was errr a stash of mens mags I found. I darn well read every copy...twice lol. Then it dawned on me that I was actually reading. Learning to read became rewarding for a change.
So, now at 42 I read slower than most but I do read. Spelling catches me out but isn't as big a problem as it once was. However, wild horses couldn't make me read out load.... lol.
I'm not suggesting you bring home that latest copy of "Big un's" My point is DON'T make it a chore and please stay positive.
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Wipass and take care. Enjoyed flying with you.
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to you Wipass! It is a wonderful thing to see priorities in the right spot.
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Wipass
and all the best for you and your family.
You will be missed.
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One lucky kid.. Wipass and have a great holidays!
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wipass will miss you killing me
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Take care bud, best wishes to your son, hope he overcomes it soon.
I'm almost certain he will, my brother did, he found it got easier the older he got.
I'm a GMT'er also and I fly once my girls are in bed, after tea and homework etc. etc., usually manage to pull an hour or so from about 10.
May be a consideration to allow you to continue your passion?
Take care bud, hope to see you back soon.
Smiggs.
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Hi Wipass
We went through the same problem many years ago with my eldest son - spent lots of time talking to 'specialists' and teachers, some of whom were effective, many of whom weren't. The biggest problem was the 'labelling' that came from people in authority who decided that he was clearly not capable of greater things.
Over a period of time, frustration and worry, we met an eye specialist who explained that many sufferers seem to have the same symptoms, where the eyes cannot focus on a specific point long enough for the word to be read in context. He went on to explain that for some of these sufferers, refresh rates on computer screens prompted the eyes to refocus on the word as a whole rather than just individual letters.
Seems crazy I know, but we went out and bought one of the first laptops and within weeks my son was reading as normal.
He is now 30 and has a company that writes 'coad' for many of the major mobile phone companies. Chances are, if you use a mobile the integration software was written by him.
We were lucky, but the same solution may work for your son. Whatever the situation, we quickly realised that as Lynx said, it should not be made a chore and we should remain positive and certainly not differentiate our son from his peers.
Regards
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Wipass! Sorry to hear the news about your son. Hopefully, things will be sorted out by the time TOD arrives - you have plenty of time. :lol
Stay in touch. I hope we can have more evenings like this...
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Wip,
A big >S< to you! I have several family members that are Dyslexic as well as friends that have kids that are Dyslexic and all have been able to overcome and succeed.
I played volleyball with a young lady whose son was severly Dyslexic. Once they correctly diagnosed him (in the states, you almost have to threaten the the school administration with physical violence to get them tested), he went from in trouble and failing to a straight "A" student and loving school. It was all a matter of a little focused attention from the expert helping him to re-learn how to learn.
Good luck!
TITAN :aok
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My 8 year old daughter was diagnosed with the same thing last year.
Same time she was also dianosed with having an IQ of 115.
Within a couple months she was fine
Dont sweat it too much. Work with him a little and we'll see you back here by springtime
and good luck
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Wipass
Always a good fight with you sir. :)
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Wip,
Make him read, read. Work with him, he'll get better. I'll miss seeing you in the MA, BUT, this must come first.
<> to your family.
Karaya
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Wipass, the best to you and your family. Maybe we'll see you in the H2H Arena sometime?
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lol one day, all the retired player will have to get together for a good old fashion duel:D
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Best of luck to ya, Dad.
For what it's worth, one of the most successful and intelligent folks I know is dyslexic. Only time it comes up is when he is looking down at a sign with an arrow (he's holding the sign) and trying to figure out which way the arrow points. He and I are usually the only two in the room that know what we're chuckling about (I lean my head to the side he needs to point to).
From what I understand, his dyslexia is quite severe.
Point of all this? My friend has learned to cope and so will your son. Might be a little bumpy getting it sorted out is all. Hang in there.
It's going to be o.k.
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hey wip, sorry to hear that. but it sounds like a good reason!
i myself am dyslexic and so is my sister, and belive me a good suport from the parents is the best way to treat it.
good luck, it can be frustrating at the start, but its a delight seeing the progress! and i know he is in good hands :)
Oh and BTW wipass is the baldy in the middle :p
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Best of luck and happy holidays.
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Originally posted by wipass
So .... I have made the decision to quit and cancel the game so as I can concentrate on my boy.
I would not have expected less from this fellow.
I'm sure your son will grow up remembering how much his dad cared for him. I'm certain he'll be very proud of you.
I'm glad that you have reminded us of what really is important.
Best wishes and happy holidays to you and your family.
My regards,
WIdewing
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Honorable
to an Honorable dad.
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Very sorry to hear this Wip.
Good luck to you and your family.
Best of wishes.
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Best of wishes, wipass!
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All the best to you and yours wipass,
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Many thanks for your kind words of support and encouragement.
It is much appreciated, hope to join you all again when things settle down here and we are confident that Berties needs are being taken care off properly.
wipass
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Gonna miss ya wipass, but very proud of ya makin the right choice.
Best of luck to you, your Son and the Family. <<>>
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wipass,
When I was 8, so very long ago I was found to be dyslexic. That accounted for my problems with math. Back then there was not much you could do to help a child. My mother wouldn't accept that answer. Instead she worked with me on my math asking a simple question. What do you see on the paper? Once she had an idea of what my mind was telling me, she proceded to teach me to see what was actually there. For about a year she helped me do my home work by asking me to read it to her. Eventually I started recognising what I was seeing and adjusted for it. It's like learning a new language in the most sever cases.
Most boys/young men go through some form of dyslexia as part of their physical development cycle. With help they grow past it and move on. Bad grades or in class social problems for a boy can indicate covering up while going through it.
He will make it. I did, now 40 years later I'm a IT Engineer for a multinational corporation.
wipass you are a great Father. :aok
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It's good to see that someone here has his priorities straight. :aok Take care, wip. And, best of luck to your son. He will overcome. So many before him already have.
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Im dyslexic my self... it has been a pain through my school years as the way education is conducted its mostly based on reading information for knowladge, especially at college...
But even though my grades where never really good I never blamed dyslexia.
I think that will be your most important task as a parent of a dyslectic child... to teach him to accept it but teach him to never use it as an excuse.
If you can, through out his school years, motivate him to try harder then everyone else then when he becomes an adult he will be a constant overachiver. Because the effects of dyslexia fade away with the years, usually around 20 its almost gone (though he will never be a fast reader or a spelling wiz), but what will be left that day will be his attitude to always try harder then everyone else.
When lookin at the people that I went to school and college with over 50% of the most successfull ones in their careers are dyslectics. Simply due to us beeing the ones who always try a bit harder and never quit when facing a problem.
Also when teaching him to accept his dyslexia its important for him to know that alot of very famous and intelligent people where dyslectic. Einstein for example.
He has to know he aint stoopid because of the dyslexia and on the contrary he has to belive that he is likely more intelligent then his fellow classmate, based on how many very intelligent dyslectic people there have been through history.
If you manage to teach him that and motivate him to try harder then the rest then your young lad will be very successfull in life.
TexMurphy
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Originally posted by wipass
Four weeks ago my young lad was diagnosed as being dyslexic, it wasn't such a huge shock as we had suspected for a while that such a bright young man shouldn't have trouble reading, writing and spelling.
Dyslexia really doesn't have any relationship with intelligence, but I'm sure you know that already. Good luck to you and your son.