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Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 12:31:02 PM
My best friend is making passes on my wife. What now? :confused:
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Muckmaw1 on January 26, 2005, 12:33:06 PM
I smell another O'Club Soap Opera starting...

Oh boy!

Details, man, details.

What makes you think he's hitting on your wife?

What does she look like?
Title: Re: What would you do?
Post by: Furball on January 26, 2005, 12:34:31 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
My best friend is making passes on my wife. What now? :confused:


castrate him with a rusty steak knife, its the only way!

what does your wife think?
Title: What would you do?
Post by: GtoRA2 on January 26, 2005, 12:34:36 PM
he aint you best friend if he is messing with yout whife.


Is she showing interest back? If she is your in trouble.

If not stop talking to the punk.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Furball on January 26, 2005, 12:36:38 PM
oh, and the only way we can help you is if you post pictures of your wife.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Muckmaw1 on January 26, 2005, 12:38:24 PM
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Originally posted by Furball
oh, and the only way we can help you is if you post pictures of your wife.



That is exactly correct.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: JB88 on January 26, 2005, 12:40:43 PM
friends dont do that.

period.

just make sure you arent being paraniod bro.  

tell him how you feel.
Title: Re: What would you do?
Post by: Krusher on January 26, 2005, 12:41:23 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
My best friend is making passes on my wife. What now? :confused:



Be direct and tell your friend that behavior will not be tolerated.  If he persist he is not your friend and its time to cut him loose.
Title: Re: What would you do?
Post by: Bodhi on January 26, 2005, 12:42:51 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
My best friend is making passes on my wife. What now? :confused:


If it's true, and not your imagination, tell him simply that if he does it again, you're gonna kick his arse.  Plain and simple, as for the friendship, man, thats your call, but if it happened to me, he'd be a lot less likely to still be hanging around with me.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 12:47:43 PM
It's no imagination my wife just mentioned about it to me.

If you're so desperate to see a middle-age woman.. I'll try to dig up a picture for ya! :cool:
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Maverick on January 26, 2005, 12:48:56 PM
If this is true you really have no more friendship left. The relationship is over as he has shown he has no respect for you or your wife. Also if this is true and your wife is offended by this situation (and I hope she is) then there is a real problem in maintaining contact on a personal level anyhow.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: JB88 on January 26, 2005, 12:50:35 PM
well, at least its her telling you.

id just make it a point to catch him in the act and embarrass him beyond all hope of recovery.   that would probably stop it.

its actually great that shes telling you.
Title: Re: What would you do?
Post by: Terror on January 26, 2005, 12:56:47 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
My best friend is making passes on my wife. What now? :confused:


Is your friend married?  Is his wife hot?  (post pictures)

T.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: storch on January 26, 2005, 01:05:25 PM
I'd let him have her.  Then I could play AH all day.  boy are you lucky, what a great friend you have. :D
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 01:15:38 PM
No he's not very successful.

(http://xs.to/xs.php?h=xs13&d=05043&f=pic009.jpg)
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Muckmaw1 on January 26, 2005, 01:20:22 PM
Your Wife is kinda young, no?

Kidding.

Seriously, what did this guy do or say that made her feel he was coming on to her?
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 01:40:20 PM
He's boasting off with his physical condition, healthy lifestyle etc. while he makes remarks about my beerdrinking etc.

He's visiting awfully lot lately, too.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: JB88 on January 26, 2005, 01:43:38 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
He's boasting off with his physical condition, healthy lifestyle etc. while he makes remarks about my beerdrinking etc.

He's visiting awfully lot lately, too.


ya, but she married you...and is that your cute kid there in that pic?
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Mighty1 on January 26, 2005, 01:44:47 PM
I would be very sure he really made a pass at her.

I've been accused many times of flirting with girls just because I treat them like one of the guys. My own wife used to think I was a flirt till she saw I treated ugly woman the same way.

Some woman cannot understand that just because a man treats them nice doesn't mean he is flirting.

Find out exactly what he did...was he standing to close? Did he touch her? Was it something he said? What was it? Was he drunk when he did it?

Be sure it's not just a misunderstanding. If he really did come on to her then he isn't much of a friend.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 01:45:25 PM
Yep, thats my girl (1 years)
Title: What would you do?
Post by: JB88 on January 26, 2005, 01:47:51 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
Yep, thats my girl (1 years)


shes adorable.  WTG!  

i agree with what mighty said.

if it is true, he isnt a friend...or good man for that matter.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: patrone on January 26, 2005, 01:55:22 PM
Just watch and see what happends. If she falls for his attempts, well, to bad, then I would take it as she really did´nt have what it takes to create a family. The sooner this shows, the faster you can get on your feet to find something that has.

Apart from that, I punch his nose in on sight, if this would happen.

I think you really dont have to worry, I am pretty sure, she be the one who would be sorry at the end of the line.

A jerk like that, is not a friend.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: rpm on January 26, 2005, 02:03:41 PM
A short conversation about monogamy followed by:

a) a right hook to the nose

b) a swift kick in the nuts

c) a then b
Title: What would you do?
Post by: wombatt on January 26, 2005, 02:20:46 PM
Ok I have been down this road so here is some advice.
If you see that your wife is getting into this new found attention then you are in some trouble .

If she is not and thinks that the guy is a jerk for even trying then your in good shape.

Ask yourself this question and be honest with yourself can you kick his butt if you had to?

If you answer no then you still have options.
If you answer yes then there ya have it LOL.

But be prepared for the ramifications of your actions ie: jail time law suit ect ect.

And honestly someone of this low of moral character will not get the hint any ways.

Now in case your wondering in my case my EX fell for my friend
so I told her don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya
adios biotch.

Towards your wife keep an open mind you owe her that.
To your "friend" keep a very close eye on him and If you have to and can afford it hire a privite detective .

Good luck.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 02:36:04 PM
We have 2 kids and a mortgage.. :rolleyes:

Actually I feel pity for the guy.. he's 32 and a virgin. What can I say.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Furball on January 26, 2005, 02:37:35 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf

Actually I feel pity for the guy.. he's 32 and a virgin. What can I say.



ROFL!

hey, its not him that we should be saying is a bad friend.  it is you!! why havent you got him a hooker yet?!
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 02:42:03 PM
He's too picky. He wants them young and beautiful and even the ugly bastages here cost $700/shot.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: JB88 on January 26, 2005, 02:43:35 PM
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Originally posted by Furball
ROFL!

hey, its not him that we should be saying is a bad friend.  it is you!! why havent you got him a hooker yet?!


FURBIES FUN!  yeeeaaaaaaayyyyyy!

roflmao
Title: What would you do?
Post by: bustr on January 26, 2005, 02:45:56 PM
You have a beautiful wife and daughter.

Means you are very lucky and have something great to work for in your life. Is there a reason you are turning to us with something of this serious of a nature? Do you have family, a minister, or a real freind to speak in person to?

Most important, have you and your wife sat down and had a honest talk about the situation? You will get mostly goof ball answers here because none of us will have to suffer the consiqueces of your choices. You, your wife and child will.

If this thread is not a troll to get us worked up, please think of your good fortune and family when you make your decisions.

Respectfully,
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Furball on January 26, 2005, 02:49:17 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
He's too picky. He wants them young and beautiful and even the ugly bastages here cost $700/shot.


go for a lads weekend in amsterdam.... oh my god some of them are so hot, they are like models.  good thing i have morals or i would have been in hell of a lot of windows.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 26, 2005, 02:49:23 PM
Thank you for your nice words.. It's (unfortunately) not a troll. I'm dumbfounded myself as we go way back with this guy. We're talking almost 20 years.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: lada on January 26, 2005, 02:50:31 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
We have 2 kids and a mortgage.. :rolleyes:

Actually I feel pity for the guy.. he's 32 and a virgin. What can I say.


LOL just ask him if is he thinking about marry a virgin girl.... If he will not refuse, send him on vacation to ME.
He will never return.

A. He will find a girl for himself

or

B. Someone will eat him for lunch.


:cool:
Title: What would you do?
Post by: patrone on January 26, 2005, 02:51:58 PM
He sounds to be just like a "friend" of mine that use to come around my house while I was on tour. My Wife hated his guts but let him in, out of respect for him being my friend.

I came home earlier then expected one time and was laying in my bed for to read, when he came visiting. He did´nt know I was home and did´nt even ask for me. I waited to hear what he had to say and how things where developing.
My Wife played along as she was utterly sick of his behavior.
After a while I exposed my presance.

Guess what? Never saw or heard from him again and that was like 10 years ago.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Ohio43 on January 26, 2005, 02:52:21 PM
Ive been down this road before as well.  You need to find out WHY she told you this information.  Is she telling you because the advance(s) annoy her, or is she subconsciously feeling that shes not getting enough emotional love (ya women like that crap) from you and hopes that by telling you would draw you closer to her?  Mine pulled that on me 4 years ago when I was neglecting her because I was addicted to another online game and she ended up leaving me.  In a way, I cannot blame my wife..
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Charon on January 26, 2005, 02:53:19 PM
Are you absolutely sure? What you describe is not all that conclusive. Has he been direct at all or just flirty?

Charon
Title: What would you do?
Post by: JB88 on January 26, 2005, 02:53:42 PM
ah yes.  good point ohio.

they are a cunning breed.  she looks nice...but we all know women are evil incarnate.  

still.  id keep an eye.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Delirium on January 26, 2005, 03:33:36 PM
If your wife agrees he is out of control, let her handle it, if she is a good woman she is probably biting her tongue because he is your friend.

The next time he flirts, have her say, "Sorry, but my husband is good to me and you're obviously hung like a gerbil."

If she insults his 'member', he won't bother her again.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Red Tail 444 on January 26, 2005, 04:05:16 PM
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Originally posted by bustr
You have a beautiful wife and daughter.

 


Christ Almighty, now EVERYONE'S gonna be hitting on her.....:lol
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Dago on January 26, 2005, 04:07:56 PM
Your friend is out of line, showing you no respect or friendship.  

In your situation, I would tell him firmly that he is no longer welcome in my home, no longer would I consider him a friend, and if he returned to my home, he should expect to be met with phsical violence.

Then, if he returns, kick him in the nads.

dago
Title: What would you do?
Post by: eskimo2 on January 26, 2005, 04:58:14 PM
Your wife is pretty
Your kid is cute.
You’re “friend”, isn’t.  
Two out of three aint bad.

I’d bet that your wife told you about your friend’s behavior because she is annoyed and not the least bit interested in him.

The best thing that you can do for your old friend is to tell him that his actions cost him your friendship.  It might actually make him a better person.  He doesn’t deserve to be your friend; don’t look back.

eskimo
Title: What would you do?
Post by: indy007 on January 26, 2005, 05:21:45 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
We have 2 kids and a mortgage.. :rolleyes:

Actually I feel pity for the guy.. he's 32 and a virgin. What can I say.


Somebody mentioned it earlier.. get your "friend" a hooker. Urgently. Also, make sure you're paying your wife the attention she deserves. Don't take it as an insult, it's something I get yelled at for by the g/f all the time.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: bustr on January 26, 2005, 05:22:07 PM
Siaf__csf,

It doesn't sound like you are looking for a physical solution, you would be telling us a story rather than asking for advice. Aside from the braggado being shared here, you see that for males on both sides of the Atlantic, the natural reaction to encrochments of this nature are not pleasent. My personal moment was to take my encrocher for a walk away from witnesses and present him with 2 choices, leave or be carried away permenetly. Do you see why I asked if this was the prudent way to seek help for your situation?

What do you really want to do?
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Dago on January 26, 2005, 06:52:05 PM
BTW, he is showing an insulting amount of disrespect for your wife.  He is acting as if he believes she is the type of woman who would not be faithful to her husband, and her marriage vows.  That is a terrible thing to assume of a person, especially the wife of a friend.

I still think a warning he is not welcome and to stay away, followed by a kick to the nads if he returns.

dago
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Martlet on January 26, 2005, 06:53:19 PM
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Originally posted by Dago
BTW, he is showing an insulting amount of disrespect for your wife.  He is acting as if he believes she is the type of woman who would not be faithful to her husband, and her marriage vows.  That is a terrible thing to assume of a person, especially the wife of a friend.

I still think a warning he is not welcome and to stay away, followed by a kick to the nads if he returns.

dago


Maybe she is that type of woman.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Thrawn on January 26, 2005, 07:01:43 PM
Cripes, I was going to tell you to kick his ass...but a 32 year old virgin?  He's got enough problems.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Dago on January 26, 2005, 07:21:02 PM
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Originally posted by Martlet
Maybe she is that type of woman.


And to think some people think I am an extrahunk.

dago
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Nash on January 26, 2005, 07:26:39 PM
Do not jump the gun.

I've seen about 10-12 variations of how innocent situations - such as this may very well be  - get turned into complete mayhem in a split second. And I'm positive that there exists about 50 more.

For every act, there can be a myriad of motivations. Multiply that by the number of interpretations of both the act and the motivation behind it then multiply that by the number of people involved, and well.... I'd lay back and do some serious number crunching before I made a move.

Here's one scenario: Wife doesn't like husband spending any time whatsoever with his friend. Tells husband that the friend is hitting on her. Problem solved.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Martlet on January 26, 2005, 07:30:44 PM
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Originally posted by Dago
And to think some people think I am an extrahunk.

dago


Maybe you are.
Title: Re: What would you do?
Post by: Gixer on January 26, 2005, 07:37:02 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
My best friend is making passes on my wife. What now? :confused:



What's his wife look like?



...-Gixer
Title: What would you do?
Post by: JB88 on January 26, 2005, 07:38:27 PM
http://xs.to/xs.php?h=xs13&d=05043&f=pic009.jpg (http://xs.to/xs.php?h=xs13&d=05043&f=pic009.jpg)

he posted it earlier.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Gixer on January 26, 2005, 07:40:14 PM
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Originally posted by JB88
http://xs.to/xs.php?h=xs13&d=05043&f=pic009.jpg (http://xs.to/xs.php?h=xs13&d=05043&f=pic009.jpg)

he posted it earlier.


LOL oh well. Close your eyes and think of King and Country.



...-Gixer
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Dago on January 26, 2005, 09:26:17 PM
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Originally posted by Martlet
Maybe you are.


I am not the one insinuating a guys wife might be interested in fooling around.  That is stepping over the line, way over.

dago
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Nash on January 26, 2005, 09:30:23 PM
Holy smokes...

Martlet and Dago are tusslin'?

Kinda like seein' someone punch himself in the face.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Martlet on January 26, 2005, 09:36:15 PM
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Originally posted by Dago
I am not the one insinuating a guys wife might be interested in fooling around.  That is stepping over the line, way over.

dago


A:  I didn't insinuate that at all.  How could I?  I don't know think 1 about her.

B:  Who drew that line?
Title: What would you do?
Post by: rpm on January 26, 2005, 09:40:16 PM
WHOA! He's 32 and a virgin? He obviously has some problems. Do you really want to hang out with this guy or have you just become acustomed to this leech? There comes a time to "fish or cut bait". This is a "cut bait" scenario if I've ever heard one.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 27, 2005, 01:24:45 PM
Rofl! You guys are really great.

I took this issue up with her and she's disgusted by his behaviour so I'm not really concerned there..

I'm only disappointed and wondering if and when he'll go over the line of pissing me off. I'm a penetant man.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Martlet on January 27, 2005, 01:27:31 PM
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Originally posted by Siaf__csf
Rofl! You guys are really great.

I took this issue up with her and she's disgusted by his behaviour so I'm not really concerned there..

I'm only disappointed and wondering if and when he'll go over the line of pissing me off. I'm a penetant man.


Well, if it does piss her off, and I were you, it would depend on the situation.

If they were subtle hints, I'd have her tell him to go screw.

If they weren't subtle, I'd tell him.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Rolex on January 27, 2005, 04:13:07 PM
I don't understand why you aren't having this conversation with him.
Title: What would you do?
Post by: Siaf__csf on January 28, 2005, 05:58:41 AM
Well if he won't stop this and if he's really serious about it, then I'll have to.

Unfortunately it will mean the end of our friendship aswell. We're currently bound in certain types of financial co-operation which makes the issue even more difficult.

At the time I'm hoping he's only doing this to boost his ego instead of trying to break up my family. If the latter is his aim, I will most certainly kick his ass. I just have to be 100% certain about it before I actually do anything about it.