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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: Nilsen on May 27, 2005, 02:59:50 PM
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I have had nerves a few times for different resons, but nothing that I could not handle with out a problem.
I have nerver been as nervous as I am now tho. Been living with the same woman (dont worry the missus doesnt read this board anymore) for years.
On my birhtday (may 11th) one of my old flames sent me a message to congratulate me on my 30th, and in "shock & awe" i replied. Things have escalated, and since may 11th we have sent eachother about 50-100! messages a day. Next week she is comming to visit me cause the missus is taking mia and a bunch of girlfriends and their kids to a spa and she has business here.
I'm making dinner for us and wine will be opened.
Damn, im a real wreck.
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we have not seen eachother in ....what is it? 10-12 years but i cant stop thinking about this.
she has sent me a photo (no im not posting) and she looks just as good as back then (atleast as i remember)
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I was nervous once when I took a trip from California to Indiana, and my connecting flight from Denver was delayed due to mechanical problems.
Then, after we took off to Indy, I noticed the cabin lights were flickering and asked the flight attendant about it.
"I'll take care of it," she said. Moments later the lights went out. Clearly she had solved the problem by turning off all the lights.
A passenger across the aisle who had been watching leaned over to me and said, "Whatever you do, please don't ask about the engines."
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lol Holden...:rofl
Nilsen, your a bad bad bad man.:p
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Nilson
We are not animals. If you are comited to your girl friend, then do not go past anything but the wine.
If you are not happy with the GF well, then brake up. The kid makes it harder but do the right thing before you go looking.
Men who cheat are scum, we have a brain that lets us overide animal urges, if you do not think you can controll them on booze then do not drink.
This only applies if you have a commited relationship. If you and your GF have some kinda open relationship do what you feel you can handle.
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Be a man and tell your girlfriend about it.
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I have NO plans about letting it go any further than food and wine. In the 10+ years I have been with my gf I have _never_ strayed.
But this is something special.
Meeting your first real love again is not easy at all... and not when there is so much at stake and you really cant stop thinking about her.
A part of me wants to call the whole deal off, but she dumped me (imagine that :P ) ... im over it and all, but there are still feelings when i look at her pictures and I really wanna show her how far i have come in my life (she dumpede me for not having any goals,a nd i dint at the time)
Bet the weasel has checked my tax returns before sending the congratulations.. Now im beeing a cynical bastage. This is all so confuisng
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You just have to decide what's important in your life. Expect that anything that may happen will not be kept a secret. Expect the old flame to make sure that happens. Expect your girlfirend to find out about the visit even if nothing happens. Do you have children with your girlfirend? (I though from some posts that you did/could be wrong of course) If so, expect to see the ramifications of this visit last for decades.
Really a life changing moment. It's up to you now to make or not make that change.
Charon
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Something to consider... even if you don't do anything that YOU think is cheating, your current gf might have different standards. To her, secretly going off to dinner with an old flame might be cheating, what with the secrecy.
I'd chat with her first and make sure she's ok with it, unless you're thinking that this is going to turn into something more then you say it will.
I guess the biggest red flag I see is the secrecy aspect. That means that at least PART of you thinks you might be doing something bad.
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Nilsen, forget the private dinner. Go someplace public. show her pictures of your family. have a glass or two and reminisce.
send her packing early.
Your playing with fire buddy.
RTR
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Take her out on the town, buy the finest wine, best gourmet food, give her a bout of sex that she'll still be shaking from 30mins later and dump that ho!! lmao
Actually, It'd prolly be better to listen to Chairboy.. lol
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you are both making sense and i have been thinkinga bout the same stuff... belive me i have.
(yes charon, we have mia 1 year old.)
I am aware that (whatshisname's law) is gonna strike and everything that can go wrong will.
If i tell my gf she will not be able to relax and enjoy her weekend at the spa, but if i call it off i will always think and ponder upon what we may have said to eachother (the old flame)
One possible (bad perhaps) solution is to go ahead with it and have a loyal friend there with me. he will stick with my story that she just dropped by, and i can then tell her (gf) when she comes home that (....) dropped by and we ate and had a good time.
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Originally posted by Chairboy
I guess the biggest red flag I see is the secrecy aspect.
I agree with Chairboy. You have zero chance at a threesome with secrecy.
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Originally posted by Holden McGroin
I agree with Chairboy. You have zero chance at a threesome with secrecy.
lmao
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thats why i will tell her about it when she gets home.. in a casual way.
My best friend who has agreed to "join" me on the "date" with her is my gf's brother who is also my best friend.
tells you perhaps how much me and him trust eachother. I have already told him about this, and he understands me completly. Wierd, but there you have it.
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You are prolly ok with the brother around....
BUT she could still flip out on you and her brother. Chicks can be weird.
Does her brother think she will be ok with it when you tell her?
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i quote him (translated):
I trust your judgement, and I will stay out of the way, but you will notice if I get unhappy with the situation.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
My best friend who has agreed to "join" me on the "date" with her is my gf's brother who is also my best friend.
I think you have this threesome thing backwards...
not that there's anything wrong with that.
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The whole idea of posting a thread such as this just seems really wierd to me.
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Yer prolly right Furious..
Sorry for wasting your time folks, have to figure this out for myslef.
cheers
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get your new GF and old GF together for a threesome, take picks, post here.
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This is what seperates the men from the boys. Sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest thing to do. Emotions are a ***** but don't let them cloud you're judgement. Otherwise you will regret what may happen. To be honest it sounds like are using your best friend being there as justifaction to go through with this. Think about that for a second and then think about your daughter.
Good luck Nils.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
I have NO plans about letting it go any further than food and wine. In the 10+ years I have been with my GF I have _never_ strayed.
But this is something special.
you just have plans to let it go far enough that you can blame the actual result on the wine.
but yes it is something special.
completely Innocent. which is why your GF knows all about it, right? purely a coincidence that she's not home, right?
of course you're nervous. betraying someone who is less than 12 inches away while I sleep would make me edgy too.
of course if you don't get back together with the old GF, she will likely feel resentful and guilty and call up to confess the whole date (ya, thats what it's called. you are dating while your current GF is away) to your current GF in about 60-90 days. that would be best, just have the date, don't cheat and have the same consequences as if you did.
bone-head move. cancel or reschedule the re-union for a time when your GF knows about it ahead of time and be there if she has a problem with it.
around here, cooking another woman dinner while you're wife/GF is out of town could get a guy shot.
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Originally posted by Holden McGroin
I think you have this threesome thing backwards...
not that there's anything wrong with that.
:rofl :rofl :rofl
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Originally posted by capt. apathy
around here, cooking another woman dinner while you're wife/GF is out of town could get a guy shot.
At this point I kinda wish someone would shoot me right now.
You make way to much sense for my confused mind and kinda makes the worm in my avatar make another knot.
thanks btw... DiabloTX
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Go for it Tiger! ;)
sorry no really help from me Nilsen, cept this: make love, not war.
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If your old GF has any intentions towards you... the ultimate revenge would be to try to pass your bestfriend off on her.
CHicks hate it when they think you dont want them anymore. especialy when they break up with you.
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Originally posted by Gh0stFT
Go for it Tiger! ;)
sorry really help from me Nilsen, cept this: make love, not war.
or..
make fast laptimes, not lots of pitstops :D
get it?
nevermind... thanks ghost ft :)
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Originally posted by Nilsen
dont worry the missus doesnt read this board anymore
Are you sure :rolleyes:
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The more i pour down my sorry old throat the more i realise that what im doing is the best thing..
or maybe thats just uncle Chivas and aunt Bell's talking.
ahh... life aint simple is it?
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Nils, I was almost 40 before I learned to make these kinda decisons with my large head instada the lil one.
Item: She's coming, yer already in the pot with the soup bone. If yah think yer nervous now, wait till she turns the fire on... then the leftovers; & oh lordy; the cleanup after...!!
Item: There's 'something' going on between yah already, doin' the wild naked monkey dance ain't everything a relationship is based on... but it's the ONE thing that 'the other' will never forgive yah for.
Item: While YOU don't know for sure what's gonna happen when your long lost love shows up, SHE certainly does.
Item: Consider (briefly) what your current significant other's reaction will be should she find out.. do you want to do that? AND do you want to endure the aftermath?
Item: She WILL find out. That's a certainty.. no matter how clever you think you are, in matters of this kind, they are 'smarter'. She'll know. Sooner or later; the price will be paid.
Lastly; what's gonna happen WILL happen. The roads been paved to your door; already you are NOT driving the bus. Do you enjoy handing over control of your happiness to the whims of another?
Nils, my pirate friend; in situations like this, the screwing yah get is never worth the humping yah got.
(Unless she's a 10, in all areas!)
Good luck buddy.. hope it *ahem* comes out ok!
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lotsa letters in a real order only means one thing.. you are trying to say something.
I belive i got most of it, and i greatly apreciate your input my friend (who would ever think id say that about a republican ) :D
anywho.. yes, she will find out, is she a 10? hmmm. hard to tell from pics. at my age how she looks cant geive her a 10 alone.
do i really wanna risk what i have? no. Can i live the rest of my life without hearing what she has to say and talking to her? no.
is she after anymore than i am? no idea actually.
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Nilsen I always do this to see if a situation is right or wrong.
I imagine how I would feel if my wife did that. If I would feel ok then it is probably ok to do. If I would feel angry or hurt then don't do it.
She is meeting you for one reason only. She wants to get back into a relationship with you.
If she was happy with her current situation and spouse then there is no way she would be trying to have a dinner with you.
You g/f has stuck with you for 10 years. She did not dump you but this girl did. I think the person you should be looking out for is obvious.
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You are making more sense than I like to hear at this point Habu.
But thanks.
i was kinda hoping for a unanmous GO FOR IT, but you lot are way too OK.
:)
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just remember that you only have enough blood to think with one of your heads at a time.
so, if one is drawing blood away the other doesn't have enough to function.
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no worries cpt.
the little soldier is has not even been consulted in this equation. The battle is between my brain and my brain... kinda like a civil war.
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Just ask yourself..
"What would Ron Jeremy do?"
Seriously, if you have your bestfriend there, make sure that he strays there. You should also tell your GF now about what's up and that her brother is coming too. You usually don't get a whole bunch of points telling a woman after the fact. You know... the secrecy thing and all.....
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im in debt when it comes to the "points" department anyways moosgood. When it comes to pints im in serous surpluss...or no im not..
im loosing alltheway around here.
screw me..im screwed
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we haven't even got to the part about what happens to your best friends relationship with his family when this all blows up in your face.
he's going to be jammed up real good when this all comes out.
he'll have a great time explaining to his sister that he knew before hand, didn't talk you out of it, didn't tell her, kept it from her for however long it takes for her to find out, and tries to explain how it's OK because he went on the date with you.
in the end I'm sure he will thank you for dragging him into this and putting him in a spot where he has to either let you or his sister down.
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trust me... he wont mind or even twich.
his loyalty is with me and all that will ever come out of his mouth is "" even if they threaten to pull him from their will. It goes both ways. I have stuff on him that would make alot of folks interested and vice versa.
Family comes second.
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Boy this reminds me of when "Arielle" dropped me like a bad habbit for her "long lost high school boyfriend". They *so* reconnected and all was well. Then it just got worse and worse for her. Heck she's still with him, unhappy as can be, hoping he'll "come around". Anytime she things if bailing, he pours the charm back on. He's got a trophy gal and knows it. Sadly, I dont think she'll ever figure it out until its too late. Pretty sad to see.
So maybe your long lost second chance will be different. I've heard some are awesome, and some, as with Arielle, are long dramas.
As to most nervous time...a few weeks ago, here at the bank. I'm the night operator of the mainframe. As I'm walking in the door, the mainframe go boom. Shutdown. Brand new machine. Zoiks! Holy crap...took a lil while to finally get a human being at UniSys and get everything back up. Between wondering wtf happened and all the VPs and managers wondering what happened...oh yea, very stressful.
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Originally posted by LePaul
Boy this reminds me of when "Arielle" dropped me like a bad habbit for her "long lost high school boyfriend". They *so* reconnected and all was well. Then it just got worse and worse for her. Heck she's still with him, unhappy as can be, hoping he'll "come around". Anytime she things if bailing, he pours the charm back on. He's got a trophy gal and knows it. Sadly, I dont think she'll ever figure it out until its too late. Pretty sad to see.
So maybe your long lost second chance will be different. I've heard some are awesome, and some, as with Arielle, are long dramas.
As to most nervous time...a few weeks ago, here at the bank. I'm the night operator of the mainframe. As I'm walking in the door, the mainframe go boom. Shutdown. Brand new machine. Zoiks! Holy crap...took a lil while to finally get a human being at UniSys and get everything back up. Between wondering wtf happened and all the VPs and managers wondering what happened...oh yea, very stressful.
Think i know what you are trying to say.
Int worth it... these old flames.
Im not gonna give it a c??ns eto work, but i have made up my mind. ill see her and talk about old times and leave it at that. If she wants to go any further she can buy a d i l d o .
i hope i can get her as a fiend tho, cause what we used to have was a great friendship that went beyond what it should have.
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I'm just advising caution. Dont get ahead of yourself. Who knows, it might be great and lead to more. Or it might be something you look back on and go "man, that was dumb"! Do you want to go thru life never trying or wondering if you should've? :)
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thats the question
forever wonder and never set my mind at ease, or go through all the trouble that finding out will lead too.
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think ill take the boat out for a spin and figure it out from there
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Originally posted by Nilsen
But this is something special.
Meeting your first real love again is not easy at all... and not when there is so much at stake and you really cant stop thinking about her.
Hmm looking at her now Im not sure I can blame you. She IS a Beaut isnt she.
And I see she is bringing her two kids with her.
Just wondering how you taught her to type Emails?
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If you can't invite her over while the gf is home than you shouldn't do it at all. Simple really.
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I didn't read much of the thread, so apologies if this is no longer in context etc. Just think it's funny.
Originally posted by Nilsen
I have NO plans about letting it go any further than food and wine.
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I have NO plans on replying to this girl.
Okay one won't hurt.
I have NO plans on continuing to communicate with her.
Well, I'm stopping at ten. Okay, twenty.... twenty and that's it.
I have NO curiousity about this chick whatsoever. I'm soon to be engaged with the mother of my two children. Why do I care what she looks like?
Hhm... she looks pretty good.
This is crazy. I have NO plans on keeping up our correspondence. I mean - what for?
Fifty. Fifty messages. That's the limit.
I have NO plans on continuing this. I have self control.
Okay.... 50 messages a day. I'm limiting it to 50 a day. Well lets be realistic - make that 50-100.
This can't possibly continue. It's madness!
Next week. I'm ending it next week. No more. Done.
This is getting retarded.
Okay, two weeks from now and that is it. I walk away.
What am I thinking?? I have NO plans on seeing this girl. That's ludicrous!
Well maybe quickly in a crowded retaurant just to, you know, see what she looks like now. To catch up. That's all, and that's it.
I have NO plans on inviting her over for wine and dinner while my girlfriend is away. That's insane!
I'll behave. Of course I'll behave! I have self-control..... remember?!!
I have NO plans to post this dilemma on an internet bulletin board. Why would I do that?
AIIEEEEEE HELP ME!!!
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Nils,
Take out your photo of Mia. Now look at it hard and say to her " I wasn't around when you grew up because I wanted to see what an ex-girlfriend was like" ........ think you can do that ??
You have a kid now - the rules changed.
Sparks
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You are a ********, and your girlfriend and child deserve better.
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Everybody winns.
I told her about it last night, and she was ok with it.
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So it turned out alright. You must feel like a ******** for sure! :D
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yes I do
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because?
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i even considered doing this in secret.
i would make the worst secret agent evar
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Well it's over and no one got hurt.
You did your best and that's that.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
Everybody winns.
I told her about it last night, and she was ok with it.
WTG, it's refreshing to see someone do the gutsy thing.
instead of feeling guilty you should feel pretty good that you don't have it in you to be a deceitful a-hole. I wish more people had that 'deficiency'.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
I'm making dinner for us and wine will be opened.
Damn, im a real wreck.
Ummm married guy is going to drink alcohol with other girl..... ummm....
WTF are you nervous ?
Last time when i were nervous...... it were in Yak9U, when i trough that the other Yak9U is Fariz.....
yeah thats proper reason to be a realy nervous.....
However if you are able to plane sutch BS in advance, then i realy dont understand, why are you nervous :D
that remind me... ".. i will just touch her... ohh ohh.. naaa i will just touch her again.... ohh ohh ... naaa i will just kiss her.....eeek eeek... i will just lick her.. it cant hurt anyone.... DAMM DID I REALY ALLOW HER TO DONE IT ? " :D
anyway try to keep yours wine of your white sweeter :D
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Originally posted by Nilsen
Everybody winns.
I told her about it last night, and she was ok with it.
WTG
Your a good man Charley Brown.... errr Nilsen
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Originally posted by Nilsen
Everybody winns.
I told her about it last night, and she was ok with it.
LMAO she was ok with it?
Either you didnt tell her the whole story or she already has a boyfriend on the side of her own.
The only other way I can think of any woman being ok with something like that is if she put a really good dose of salt peter in your food before she left.
Either that or she is lieing about being "ok" with it and is testing you to see if you are really gonna do it.
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remember.... the bestfriend/brother is coming.
i still think you should try to get your buddy laid.
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Pretty darn stupid thing to do here. You haven't been able to make a commitment to your gf yet. You have a child that has no stable family to count on because of your lack of commitment. You are already having long term communications with another woman because3 of your lack of commitment to your defacto family and now you are going to have a face to face with her, over dinner and involve alcohol, with your record on alcohol?!?!?!
If you had a real commitment with your gf why in the hell would you want to throw it away to have a date with an old gf?? Make no mistake you are going on a date with her. Does this really sound rational to you???
There comes a time when a person becomes a real adult and realizes they have commitments to honor and responsibilities to take care of. It's part of growing up. One of my favorite sayings is that there is no such thing as an illegitimate child, only illegitimate parents.
The easiest way to deal with a tough and bad situation is to avoid putting yourself, and in this case, your family in one. Think about it.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
On my birhtday (may 11th) one of my old flames sent me a message to congratulate me on my 30th, and in "shock & awe" i replied. Things have escalated, and since may 11th we have sent eachother about 50-100! messages a day. Next week she is comming to visit me cause the missus is taking mia and a bunch of girlfriends and their kids to a spa and she has business here.
I'm making dinner for us and wine will be opened.
Even if I WERE a dog I wouldn't dream of admitting it here Nilsen. It's just another example of how differently our cultures view morality I guess. (shrug)
You aren't cute, you aren't witty and you aren't funny- you're just a- dog.... and dogs do what dogs do.
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Jeez Airhead, the reason he posted here is because he was having anxiety about the situation.
Now he just needs to know is his GF is really okay with it. Push for the threesome, Nilsen.
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Dont mind Airhead. If he was a dog, he'd have his head buried in on his genitals. He'd never leave the house :p
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Originally posted by Holden McGroin
Jeez Airhead, the reason he posted here is because he was having anxiety about the situation.
And if you are having anxiety about a situation like this you just shouldn't do it.
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You have a baby and you are planning to cheat on the mother, and coming here for approval?
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After having said nothing about it all day, she just brought up the subject again after dinner. She just wanted to know if i thought it was hard telling her about it?
ehm.. "No, ofcourse not. why should it?" i said.
"Good" she said and that was it.
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Originally posted by FUNKED1
You have a baby and you are planning to cheat on the mother, and coming here for approval?
this is a support group right?
Sure seems like there are alot of strange issues beeing talked about here, and the real world is prolly happy that so many of us spend our time here and not out there bothering them.
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Of course Nils you do realise she is going to check on the BBS now don't you ?
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Originally posted by Nilsen
After having said nothing about it all day, she just brought up the subject again after dinner. She just wanted to know if i thought it was hard telling her about it?
ehm.. "No, ofcourse not. why should it?" i said.
"Good" she said and that was it.
So in addition to being a dog you're also a liar.
I'd say you exhibit character flaws but that would imply you had character to begin with, so I won't.
Let's just call you a lying dog and leave it at that.
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Cut the guy some slack Airhead, so he's tempted... who hasn't been?
I remember when I was on road trip with the family, a babe in a Ferarri passed me wearing a big smile. The rest of the family was asleep so we had a virtual affair as we passed each other on the interstate. After a while she sped off, but not after I had some lustful thoughts about her.
When we stopped for the night, I took a swim in the motel pool and guess who was there? We ended up skinny dipping until the kids caught me, and then boy howdy, I had some explaining to do.
Edit: PS: Push for the threesome, Nilsen
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Originally posted by Airhead
So in addition to being a dog you're also a liar.
I'd say you exhibit character flaws but that would imply you had character to begin with, so I won't.
Let's just call you a lying dog and leave it at that.
well... i dont have the habbit of insulting people in every other sentace, but i guess we were raised differently airhead.
you have a nice day now
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Originally posted by Holden McGroin
Cut the guy some slack Airhead, so he's tempted... who hasn't been?
I remember when I was on road trip with the family, a babe in a Ferarri passed me wearing a big smile. The rest of the family was asleep so we had a virtual affair as we passed each other on the interstate. After a while she sped off, but not after I had some lustful thoughts about her.
When we stopped for the night, I took a swim in the motel pool and guess who was there? We ended up skinny dipping until the kids caught me, and then boy howdy, I had some explaining to do.
Edit: PS: Push for the threesome, Nilsen
ROFL, wtg Griswald:rofl
McGroin I've been reading these boards for awhile now and I find your post by far the most entertaining:p
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Originally posted by Nilsen
i guess we were raised differently airhead.
you have a nice day now
Thank God we were raised differently.... I was taught values like commitment, honesty, responsibility and honor- you obviously missed those lessons.
sleep well tonight next to the mother of your child, and count down til you get to be reunited with your old flame with your wife and child safely out of the way.
And if too much wine gets drunk and you end up in the sack then it's all ok because...tee hee hee... you are just a cute little Noregian sailorboy who has no responsibilities.
Like I said, you are a lying, cheating dog. If you don't like my opinion then don't start threads where you seek affermation for being a lying, cheating dog- stick to cute little sailor pics in your gay sailor cap and we'll all titter along with you.
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Originally posted by Airhead
Thank God we were raised differently.... I was taught values like commitment, honesty, responsibility and honor- you obviously missed those lessons.
sleep well tonight next to the mother of your child, and count down til you get to be reunited with your old flame with your wife and child safely out of the way.
And if too much wine gets drunk and you end up in the sack then it's all ok because...tee hee hee... you are just a cute little Noregian sailorboy who has no responsibilities.
Like I said, you are a lying, cheating dog. If you don't like my opinion then don't start threads where you seek affermation for being a lying, cheating dog- stick to cute little sailor pics in your gay sailor cap and we'll all titter along with you.
Didnt know a vacume could vent..
Have a nice day airhead
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Nitey nite Nielsen. Kiss the little missus for me.
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good night
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Friend stuff is all bull****. She wants a piece of you. And you can't resist it. The whole relationship is inappropriate. For the sake of your child, end it, completely. And marry the mother for crying out loud. You from Norway or a Florida trailer park?
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Originally posted by Holden McGroin
Cut the guy some slack Airhead, so he's tempted... who hasn't been?
Everyone is tempted. What makes you a man is your actions, not your thoughts.
And "threesome" is just short for "relationship over".
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Originally posted by Nilsen
good night
(and with that Nilsen staggers unsteadily off to bed, a frown upon his face, as he drunkenly ponders the concept infidility is still infidility, even if you are a cute little Noregian Kipper Snack commercial)
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Originally posted by Maverick
Pretty darn stupid thing to do here. You haven't been able to make a commitment to your gf yet. You have a child that has no stable family to count on because of your lack of commitment.
Your saying because they arent married the kid doesnt have a stable family?
Hogwash.
Being married is a peice of paper, a mere formality.
Particularly in this day and age.
I've seen very unstable families that were married and very stable one with ones that werent
Being married doesnt make anyone any more committed or likely to stick around then if he wasnt.
And not being married doesnt make him any less commited or more likely to take off then if he was.
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Yup DREDIOCK.
We may get married some day, but if we dont then thats ok too. Married or not married... the relationship is still the same.
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Well if you cant endure responses like Airhead, you need to think twice when you ask for input on such a topic as meeting another woman. I didnt know you were shacked up and had a kid. That certainly complicates things.
So if you marry the one you are with, will it be because you feel you "have to" since you have a child? Or because you really love her?
I'm just looking for clarification...why are you with the current lady? Cuz ya dig her, or biding your time for something better?
Just wondering. I wont call you a dog and such... :)
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Originally posted by LePaul
Well if you cant endure responses like Airhead, you need to think twice when you ask for input on such a topic as meeting another woman. I didnt know you were shacked up and had a kid. That certainly complicates things.
So if you marry the one you are with, will it be because you feel you "have to" since you have a child? Or because you really love her?
I'm just looking for clarification...why are you with the current lady? Cuz ya dig her, or biding your time for something better?
Just wondering. I wont call you a dog and such... :)
If we marry it will be because of love.
Im with the current lady cause we love eachother and we fit in almost every way.
We have been together for so long that we are kinda lost if one is away for too long, but like all couples that has been together for that amount of time you dont really get all giggely all day either.
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Airhead is my ****ing hero.
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Yeah you are with your current lady because you looooove her. Yep that's why because some broad that dumped you a few years ago made contact with you and now you can't wait to go see her instead of staying with the one you share a child with. Yep that's a real stable relationship alright.
For the immature a maraige is nothing more than a piece of paper. For those who understand adult relationships, marriage is far more in personal concept and legal standing. If you can't hack the commitment necessary then why did you decide to start a family.
Like I said before, there is no such thing as an illegitimate child but there are illegitimate parents.
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Nilsen explain yourself.
Why are you nervous?
You are planning to cheat and the wife knows and doesn't care?
You think you are not planning to cheat but are in denial about what you are actually setting up for yourself here?
You are not planning to cheat and you are nervous about being tempted?
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I bet the latter.
He never found closure with the ex. Why else would he be tempted when there's everything to lose?
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you can allways just get drunk and then it won't be your fault.
lazs
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Originally posted by lazs2
you can allways just get drunk and then it won't be your fault.
lazs
That was his plan, Lazs- did you catch that part about "wine will be opened?"
He comes across here as a giggly-cute little drunken sailor boy, and expects everybody to give a wink and a nod of approval as he brags about just how clever he is to arrange an affair behind the back of the woman he supposedly is committed to.
Some things aren't giggly cute, infidelity being among them.
BTW, my wife read this and wonders why European women have such low self esteem they put up with lying, cheating dogs and getting thier arms broken...then still come back for more.
She also says she hopes squeeze no.1 gives Nilsen a good dose of the clap.
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Hehehe you ladies still debating this issue :D
Let me guess.. Oprah is your favorite show.
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Ahh, it was an experimimerereinunt.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
Hehehe you ladies still debating this issue :D
Should they wait till your drunk again? Granted it turned into a Dr. Phil advise episode, but you handle your boozonics posts like a punk.
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well... never watched oprah but...
you and your clan would make a good group for jerry springer... you can drunkenly fall out of your chair during the fight.
lazs
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lol :D
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Originally posted by Nilsen
Yup DREDIOCK.
We may get married some day, but if we dont then thats ok too. Married or not married... the relationship is still the same.
If she's smart she'll take the baby, leave you and find a REAL man...even if that means traveling to America.
You're still just a little boy.
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Originally posted by Airhead
BTW, my wife read this and wonders why European women have such low self esteem they put up with lying, cheating dogs and getting thier arms broken...then still come back for more.
She also says she hopes squeeze no.1 gives Nilsen a good dose of the clap.
I am being serious here. I am suprised Airhead says he has a wife. I am convinced she is a woman. First she always chooses really gay names. Airhead is a name you call a woman not a man. What was his/her other name? Elffairy or something like that.
Second she has a job that usually women do. What was he personal assistant to the guy from Baa Baa Black Sheep? Does't that involve making sure the guys makeup and hair were right and running out and shopping for the guy whenever he asked. Oh and carrying a box around for the guy to stand on.
I think the whole tough guy persona is just a big act. That is why this thread bothers her so much. Think about it. Who but a woman would get so upset about a meeting with an ex girlfriend.?
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And before anyone says my post is a personal attack. It is not. Unlike some here who try to ruin a person's reputation for life by calling them all sorts of names and telling them their spouse is too good for them etc etc simply because the guy asked an honest question in a time of doubt, my post is based on logic and facts.
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Originally posted by Habu
What was he personal assistant to the guy from Baa Baa Black Sheep?
That's Lazs.
Airhead is not a woman. He never had enough money to finish the surgery and the VA finally figured out his scam. Now he's in sexual limbo. I'd call him gay, but he can't actually get it up due to all the pills, so he's not practicing. Still, 3 words of advice around him.
Watch
Your
Cornhole
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Originally posted by Airhead
If she's smart she'll take the baby, leave you and find a REAL man...even if that means traveling to America.
You're still just a little boy.
Airhead, YOUR MARRIED??? I guess female low self-esteem happens on both sides of the pond.
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Smokin!
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Originally posted by Habu
I am being serious here. ............. Think about it. Who but a woman would get so upset about a meeting with an ex girlfriend.?
Well, a woman would, or
a Man with a frickin brain.
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Originally posted by Habu
I am being serious here. I am suprised Airhead says he has a wife. I am convinced she is a woman. First she always chooses really gay names. Airhead is a name you call a woman not a man. What was his/her other name? Elffairy or something like that.
Second she has a job that usually women do. What was he personal assistant to the guy from Baa Baa Black Sheep? Does't that involve making sure the guys makeup and hair were right and running out and shopping for the guy whenever he asked. Oh and carrying a box around for the guy to stand on.
I think the whole tough guy persona is just a big act. That is why this thread bothers her so much. Think about it. Who but a woman would get so upset about a meeting with an ex girlfriend.?
LOL "Elf fairy..." now that is funny.
Thank you Habu, I'll chuckle myself to sleep tonight. :D
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I have met airheads wife and she is a hottie.
lazs
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Thanks Lazs but even if she were 600 pounds and butt ugly it's the woman I've promised forever to, and part of that promise is fidelity.
After reading Habu's post it's obvious this is one more difference between the American and European cultures....in America we believe in commitment, honesty and honor- in Europe if you don't step out on your spouse your sexuality and manhood are questioned.
Of course the Euros here will declare this lack of sexual commitment to be further proof of thier superior system, where Machevellianism is the Word of the Day and true freedom means you can do what you want, when you want with who you want, and lying and cheating are acceptable behaviors to be giggled at and applauded and approved of with a wink and a nod.
That's the Euro view of freedom, folks. Here in the States we call that moral bankruptcy.
Now I'm done with ya, Nilsen. Have a nice day.
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Originally posted by Airhead
Now I'm done with ya, Nilsen. Have a nice day.
And it only took you five days too.
Next time i want to know anything about european culture and women, ill remember to ask you and your sidekick for a lesson :D
Have a nice day.
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"in America we believe in commitment, honesty and honor"
to? Mutual consent?
Believe it or not, I've had more threesomes and loose but serious girlfriends in the US than in France.
"true freedom means you can do what you want, when you want with who you want"
That's exactly the way it should be.
"lying and cheating are acceptable behaviors to be giggled at and applauded and approved of with a wink and a nod. "
Which isn't what Nilsen did.
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did ya get enough attention?
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Can't complain Furious.
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ok
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IN
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Originally posted by moot
"lying and cheating are acceptable behaviors to be giggled at and applauded and approved of with a wink and a nod. "
Which isn't what Nilsen did.
Read the opening post again- he did too lie, and admitted it. Either you have a problem grasping English or, by European standards, exchanging 50 to 100 PMs a day with an old squeeze behind your wife's back doesn't fit the Euro defination of dishonesty.
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Originally posted by Airhead
Thanks Lazs but even if she were 600 pounds and butt ugly it's the woman I've promised forever to, and part of that promise is fidelity.
Boy are you going to be pissed when she dumps you and gets half your assets in court and runs off with a new man.
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I'd like to meet the man who has not lied to his gf/wife when they have been together for this long.
Even a holy man like you airhead has lied to your wife.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
I'd like to meet the man who has not lied to his gf/wife when they have been together for this long.
Even a holy man like you airhead has lied to your wife.
LOL "Did you stop for a beer after work?"
Uh...no
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"Are you having an affair?"
Uh..no.
Right, Nilsen- totally the same thing, huh? :rolleyes:
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I see this as a public service:
To whom it may concern,
Please let it be known.... Airhead is smarter than you and it reads as such, plus he's all pissy from a bad back. Why would you poke a stick at a cobra? Unless you are a gerbil with a suicide complex?
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affair?
Think you better get a pair of glasses and maybe up the font size on your browser while you are at it.
airhead :rofl
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Hmm...not the subject material I expected in a thread with this title.
I've been REALLY nervous before, but not in any situation which involved a present or past wife/GF/signifigant other.
J_A_B
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Originally posted by RTR
Nilsen, forget the private dinner. Go someplace public. show her pictures of your family. have a glass or two and reminisce.
send her packing early.
Your playing with fire buddy.
RTR
Gotta go with RTR on this one, man. Walk carefully, or you'll wreck a good thing. If you make it a public meeting, it'll be so much easier to tell your WIFE (cuz she may as well be) about it.
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Originally posted by slimm50
Gotta go with RTR on this one, man. Walk carefully, or you'll wreck a good thing. If you make it a public meeting, it'll be so much easier to tell your WIFE (cuz she may as well be) about it.
No problemo.. she knows and her brother is gonna be here.
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fraid you misread me yourself. He might have lied, but not in the
acceptable behaviors to be giggled at and applauded and approved of with a wink and a nod.
sense.
See the nuance? What I think is the real issue here is that he never bothered to close the proverbial wound re: his ex.
What I think is wrong with your pov is you'd rather go for his jugular for having to walk the fine line between pleasing both the ex and present girl, and not pissing off either (with priority to his present girl of course), rather than admit he's actually trying to be fair with himself and his close ones.
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neilsen... I don't lie to my wives/girlfriends but then..
I have a history of not staying married or in relationships.
It boils down to.... how low are you willing to go?
What are you willing to do to get laid by the one you are with right now or... to keep her around. Neither of those things is worth lying for.
You wanna screw someone else? do it. But don't lie about it. Sheesh... you act like a woman all secretive about it because you don't want to take chances... you want the security of who you are with but think you may be missing out on something.... something what? Like some romance novel?
make the choice and then don't whine about it and don't lie about it.
lazs
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again lasz4
never said anything about cheating on anyone
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Originally posted by Nilsen
again lasz4
never said anything about cheating on anyone
:rolleyes:
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Originally posted by Nilsen
No problemo.. she knows and her brother is gonna be here.
from a logical, reasonable and ethical standpoint you are absolutely right.
nothing to feel guilty about. you've informed her(the most important thing), and also received her "OK" to go ahead (whether she means it or not)
unfortunately women aren't generally familiar with either reason or logic, and acknowledge no statute of limitations on offenses real or imagined.
in other words, no matter how "OK" she says or possibly even is with this at this time, it doesn't mean it won't be thrown in your face down the line. in fact I can all but guarantee she will. probably in some completely unrelated fight 20 years down the line.
I look at it about the same as Laz. I don't have the time, energy, or inclination to bother making up cover stories or hiding facts. it's much easier to just be up front with what you intend or have done.
as a side bonus, I've found that often a complete disclosure of where you spent the weekend, and exactly what you were doing -along with the promise to repeat it again next weekend if you hear much more about it- will often stop most of the complaining.
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so if you are not contemplating cheating on her.... what's the problem? Are you saying that you girlfriend/fiance is so jealous that she would dump your butt if she got wind of you having a meal with a friend?
The choices now get even easier... simply tell her you are going to do it and she leaves you then you are way better off... good ridance.
lazs
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Originally posted by Nilsen
I'd like to meet the man who has not lied to his gf/wife when they have been together for this long.
Even a holy man like you airhead has lied to your wife.
I may have lied in the past to my wife/girlfriend/best friend(she fits all 3 roles), but I've always eventually come forward with the truth...such as the 1.6 carat, VS1 H-color rating diamond ring that she is getting tomorrow night for our 15th wedding anniversary. :D
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Originally posted by Ripsnort
I may have lied in the past to my wife/girlfriend/best friend(she fits all 3 roles), but I've always eventually come forward with the truth...such as the 1.6 carat, VS1 H-color rating diamond ring that she is getting tomorrow night for our 15th wedding anniversary. :D
:D
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in other words, no matter how "OK" she says or possibly even is with this at this time, it doesn't mean it won't be thrown in your face down the line. in fact I can all but guarantee she will. probably in some completely unrelated fight 20 years down the line.
It's not even hard to imagine that she's busy right now looking up the numbers of old boyfriends and chatting up some guy she can go to lunch with (while letting you know about it, of course). In fact, you've pretty much given her an excuse to follow up - guilt free - on any flattery she receives down the line.
My take -- the only way to salvage this right now is to say it was part of pre committment jitters and pop a ring on her finger :) (smiley, but not REALLY joking.)
Charon
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Originally posted by Ripsnort
I may have lied in the past to my wife/girlfriend/best friend(she fits all 3 roles), but I've always eventually come forward with the truth...such as the 1.6 carat, VS1 H-color rating diamond ring that she is getting tomorrow night for our 15th wedding anniversary. :D
Isnt that what Kobe bought his wife right after that Colorado vacation?
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Originally posted by Ripsnort
I may have lied in the past to my wife/girlfriend/best friend(she fits all 3 roles), but I've always eventually come forward with the truth...such as the 1.6 carat, VS1 H-color rating diamond ring that she is getting tomorrow night for our 15th wedding anniversary. :D
:rolleyes:
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Originally posted by Ripsnort
I may have lied in the past to my wife/girlfriend/best friend(she fits all 3 roles), but I've always eventually come forward with the truth...such as the 1.6 carat, VS1 H-color rating diamond ring that she is getting tomorrow night for our 15th wedding anniversary. :D
Wow! That must have set you back a prettty penny, Rip! What'd you spend? 1500? 2 grand?
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A ring that size and quality would cost at least 10 grand.
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Did ya have to raise money by selling the carpet in the garage Rip?
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Originally posted by Ripsnort
I may have lied in the past to my wife/girlfriend/best friend(she fits all 3 roles), but I've always eventually come forward with the truth...such as the 1.6 carat, VS1 H-color rating diamond ring that she is getting tomorrow night for our 15th wedding anniversary. :D
How sad that the only way you can express your love for your wife is through materialistic means. Don't they have medication now for men with your "problem".
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Yeah Thrawn, one instance tells everything about every other.
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Originally posted by moot
"in America we believe in commitment, honesty and honor"
to? Mutual consent?
Believe it or not, I've had more threesomes and loose but serious girlfriends in the US than in France.
"true freedom means you can do what you want, when you want with who you want"
That's exactly the way it should be.
"lying and cheating are acceptable behaviors to be giggled at and applauded and approved of with a wink and a nod. "
Which isn't what Nilsen did.
where?!
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Originally posted by moot
Yeah Thrawn, one instance tells everything about every other.
Oh Rip is way past "one instance" with this sort of thing, hence the sarcastic replies.
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Originally posted by Airhead
Thanks Lazs but even if she were 600 pounds and butt ugly it's the woman I've promised forever to, and part of that promise is fidelity.
After reading Habu's post it's obvious this is one more difference between the American and European cultures....in America we believe in commitment, honesty and honor- in Europe if you don't step out on your spouse your sexuality and manhood are questioned.
Of course the Euros here will declare this lack of sexual commitment to be further proof of thier superior system, where Machevellianism is the Word of the Day and true freedom means you can do what you want, when you want with who you want, and lying and cheating are acceptable behaviors to be giggled at and applauded and approved of with a wink and a nod.
That's the Euro view of freedom, folks. Here in the States we call that moral bankruptcy.
Now I'm done with ya, Nilsen. Have a nice day.
Airhead may talk a good game but here in America our divorce rate is over 50%. And almost 75% of men and almost 70% women of have cheated on their spouces.
There is a study on it somewhere I dont have the time to look for right now. Perhaps somebody else can do the honors.
Honestly, and with no offence intended. I also always thought Airhead was a female. But not based on name or occupation but just on things he/she/it has written.
Guess Airhead could be a male. Just one strongly in touch with his female side:)
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Thrawn: Ok.
Moose: where what? Phoenix, mostly ASU, if you mean that.
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Originally posted by DREDIOCK
Honestly, and with no offence intended. I also always thought Airhead was a female. But not based on name or occupation but just on things he/she/it has written.
Guess Airhead could be a male. Just one strongly in touch with his female side:)
That's a relief Dred cause the way you were hitting on me I thought for sure you were gay.
:D
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Originally posted by Airhead
Wow! That must have set you back a prettty penny, Rip! What'd you spend? 1500? 2 grand?
LOL!!!
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Originally posted by Habu
A ring that size and quality would cost at least 10 grand.
Its appraisal value is close to that number. I never realized that Platinum settings are so expensive :( Its no wonder she asked for platinum! Tonight is the night! This should be my "Get out of jail Free" card for at...oh....a week! :)
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You have a spare for the cops too?
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Just three more hours and the circus begins. :D
Brother in law / best friend / is due in two, and he has asured me that he will take a "hands on" approach to any complications.
If he likes her, he will help himself to her if there is even a remote chanse that he is allowed (by her I hope he means).
I am ofcourse fine with all this ;)
I have planned to stay atleast 3 drinks behind them.
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Originally posted by Ripsnort
Its appraisal value is close to that number. I never realized that Platinum settings are so expensive :( Its no wonder she asked for platinum! Tonight is the night! This should be my "Get out of jail Free" card for at...oh....a week! :)
Thanks for letting us know it's platinum.... god forbid we would accuse you of settling for mere gold.
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thats it.. i just sent her on her merry way
very very nive day, but there is no doubt on were my life is and who its gonna be with
thread closed
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ripsnort ya moron, 15th is crystal, you trying to bring down a curse?
then again, you do live in america, so that 15th is probably worth it...
" Just three more hours and the circus begins"
good luck, but if anything happens you can hide in my basement
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"thread closed"
No.
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Originally posted by Thrawn
"thread closed"
No.
oui... poirot told me so.