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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: RedTop on July 30, 2005, 03:58:03 PM
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As some of you may know , mainly my squaddies , my Mom has terminal cancer. She has lived with my wife and I for the past 14 months and has been fighting this battle with cancer , for the 2nd time I might add , for 3 years now.
Recently , well since January her condition has become worst. She doesn't eat very much now and has lost alot of weight. She sleeps alot and doesn't have alot of get up and go like she used to. She is coming to grips that she may not have but a couple of months or so left.
I spend everyday with my Mom doing whatever it is she needs done. We spend alot of time talking about things and are always totally honest with one another. When I am at work she has my wife with her and they do the same. We call it making daily memories forever.
Without going in to to much more deatail I wanted to ask for a prayer for Mom again. She has had alot of info this week on her condition and how its progressed. She has some big decisions week after next about whether she will continue on Chemo or just stop. Pray that she wil have the strength to make the right decision for her and that her family will have the acceptance of whatever that maybe.
I also want to say to all of you , that , Cancer seems to affect so many people. Whether its a loved one or a friend , it seems like everyone knows someone who is touched by it in some way.
Please give support to those people. We were at the hospital this past week , mom and I , when they brought a lady into the room we were in for my mom's blood transfusion. She had noone there with her. It got me to thinking.
So many people face this disease alone. Their family may be around but not all that much help. Maybe they have noone but a friend. But she was just alone.
If you know someone that is fighting cancer , or they have a relative that is. Whatever the case , try to make a small amout of time when you can to spend with them.
I have the luxury , honor and true privlage to be able to take care of my Mom in my home everyday. To make memories and to talk about anything and everything or nothing.
So many others don't have that.
IF you can , please just make anytime or help you can for the people who have noone. Could be as simple as letting them just talk to you. Listening to them.
I think you all understand.
Thanks for the prayers from Me and my Family.
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Anytime you need em.
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OTW and BTW
to you and your wife for doing what you are. Yeah I know, you think what else would you do but it is noteworthy. Cherish the memories for thay are all that we truly do carry through life and perhaps beyond.
Prayers for you and your wife OTW as well.
Any time you want someone to talk to that's been in a similar situation let me know. Cancer makes for a small world.
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Thanks Mav for the offer and prayers.
Thanks Star
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My mom had breast cancer aswell..
She survived..
A Prayer for your mom..
And right now, the best thing yall can do is spend time together..
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I'll put her in my prayers.
It's never easy... :(
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Love. Its the only thing that ever makes a lasting difference in this wicked and miserable existance called life. Just love as much as you can. and be loved. Love her.
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Prayer asked silently for you and your family Redtop.
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You're doing a fine thing RT. I will put her on the list and you and your wife as well.
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You are to be saluted on your family ties and loyalty sir.
Consider it done.
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Its really commendable for you to face catastophic illness and death with your mom, Redtop. I hope we are all so lucky to have a loved one able to be with us during our tough fights. Best wishes and prayers....
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*Hug*
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Thanks All. I really appreciate the prayers and thoughts.
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RedTop sir
My prayers go out to your mother, you, and your entire family. may God watch over all of you.
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RT, prayers for you, your mom, and the rest of your family going up now. Cancer has struck our family pretty hard, too.
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Red Top prayers are on the way for your Mom and you and your wife. Cancer has hit my Family within the last 5 years.
Prayers work for the most part.
Mac
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Dear Redtop,
I will be praying for you and your mother.
May you know the all sufficient grace of God in this trial, may your mother be comforted by the same Lord who healed men's bodies while he dwelt with his people on earth but who came to heal their souls forevermore, may your household stand fast on the solid rock in the midst of the storm, may your mother's doctors be granted an extra measure of wisdom and compassion by the Great Physician.
Above all brother, may you all be assured that nothing - neither tribulation, nor disease, nor anything that is or is to come - can separate you from the from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
There is a day coming, when there will be no more disease, no more death, no more tears and sorrow, no more separation, and when that day of glory dawns, even the tribulations we have endured will seem as nothing by comparison. You may be parted from your mother for a while, brother, but because of what Christ has done for you both, you can never ever be separated from her. And brother, know this, the dawn will make the night seem like nothing at all. As great as your fellowship is here on earth, the best is yet to come.
"I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." " (Rev. 21:2-4)
The Lord bless you both,
Andy
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I know what you are going through RedTorp. As some of you know my mom died from cancer in january. She was never alone either, we were with her all the way. I was in the ambulance when she passed away.
Enjoy the time you get, you will look back on it with a smile... I already do.
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prayers sent
and S!
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Thank You All
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Mom now on hospice. Glad she is , but still tough call to make.:(
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pardon me bu whats hospice?
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Originally posted by RedTop
Mom now on hospice. Glad she is , but still tough call to make.:(
We had my Dad on hospice back in March. It is a very good thing to do. My best wishes to your family.
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Originally posted by FuBaR
pardon me bu whats hospice?
Hospice , can be 2 things. A place where you send you loved one to be taken care of , or they will come to your house and take care of them.
My Mom lives with my wife and I and we provide care , along with Hospice , for her. She will pass away in my home. They provide care and medicine , and medical equipment. It's all taken care of by insurance.
They are caretakers of terminally ill people who would rather die at home than in some hospital. They don't try to cure the sickness but rather keep the person from being in pain and make them comfortable until they die. The help the families out. They give you a nurse , social worker , chaplain , volunteers , all sorts of support.
Hospice is a good thing.
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Originally posted by RedTop
Hospice , can be 2 things. A place where you send you loved one to be taken care of , or they will come to your house and take care of them.
My Mom lives with my wife and I and we provide care , along with Hospice , for her. She will pass away in my home. They provide care and medicine , and medical equipment. It's all taken care of by insurance.
They are caretakers of terminally ill people who would rather die at home than in some hospital. They don't try to cure the sickness but rather keep the person from being in pain and make them comfortable until they die. The help the families out. They give you a nurse , social worker , chaplain , volunteers , all sorts of support.
Hospice is a good thing.
Wow..
thank god for insurance.
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Originally posted by Hawklore
Wow..
thank god for insurance.
Yep.
And Hawk,
Thanks for the nice deal in the sig.:aok
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Originally posted by RedTop
Yep.
And Hawk,
Thanks for the nice deal in the sig.:aok
Np...
I'll keep it there aslong as you want me to..
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Originally posted by Nilsen
As some of you know my mom died from cancer in january.
Nils, I didn't know. I'm so sorry to hear that. Prayers to you and your family, too, albeit a little late.
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Redtop... I am sincerely sorry for what you are going through... :( But just remember, you will meet again... Love really has no boundaries.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
I know what you are going through RedTorp. As some of you know my mom died from cancer in january.
Im sorry to hear that. I know you can understand.
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Prayers are sent!
My mother died of cancer almost 3 years ago, something she battled with for 8 years. While it is not a good thing to go through, there were many blessings that came out of it. The experienced changed her perspective, my perspective, the way I interact & raise my 5 children. They are blessings that will impact generations in my family.
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Sorry to hear this RedTop. A wee bit too close to home for me to discuss, but I went through a very similar situation about 4 years ago.
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so sorry to hear that redtop..be strong and make memories...my mom was murderd while i was sleeping when i was 6 years old..i wasnt even old anuff to realise how permanent it was..but i learned really fast how precious life is ..and im glad you atleast had a good many years to enjoy her company.
i now live with my granny ..she just too old to take care of her self..so i keep a eye on here while im not at work...no one else around besides my dad and he works more than me...she had a hart attack..and if i wasnt here she would of been gone...she had bypass..and a cancer removed from her uterus..i have no idea when she will go or what problems will show up..it will tear me apart when the time comes.,,,i have had a ruff start at life..but i know i have to do everything to make her happy...she and my dad had to pick up the peices of me and put me back together...i owe her...remmeber you are not alone in your suffering....we all have some one older i think we are going to miss dearly when they pass...:(..my prayers to you and your family
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Sorry, redtop.
Always wondered why you had the cancer ribbon as your avatar, now i know :(
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Praying for Peace for your mother and her family