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Title: Sad News...
Post by: Seagoon on November 03, 2005, 03:50:40 PM
Hi Guys,

I gave you an update in October that we had found out that my wife Joy was pregnant with twins. Well, Joy hasn't been feeling "right" for about a week now and her trip to the doctor today confirmed our worst fears; both the babies have died in the womb. I would be a liar if I said we aren't grieving, and we have to go to the hospital first thing tomorrow for an induction and delivery, which will be very hard to bear to say the least.

In any event I felt it wouldn't be right to share the good news with you all, and then leave you in the dark about what had happened. I am still very grateful for the way you rejoiced with the rejoicing.
 
Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?

The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; Blessed be the name of the LORD.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Tarmac on November 03, 2005, 03:52:32 PM
So sorry, Seagoon.
Title: Sorry...
Post by: Seagoon on November 03, 2005, 03:55:47 PM
Posted this twice by accident, could an MP please delete the extra thread?

- SEAGOON
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Post by: RedDg on November 03, 2005, 03:56:41 PM
Seagoon,

I'm so very sorry to hear this.  You and your family will be in our prayers.
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Post by: AWMac on November 03, 2005, 03:57:46 PM
You and the Wife are in our prayers Seagoon.  So sad.

Mac
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Post by: StarOfAfrica2 on November 03, 2005, 03:57:57 PM
My sympathies and my prayers are yours.  I cannot imagine your grief, but I'm sure your faith is strong enough to hold you up.  I hope your wife is coping ok.
Title: My first wife and I
Post by: rshubert on November 03, 2005, 03:58:24 PM
lost our firstborn child at birth.  She never got over it, and it basically broke the back of our relationship.

Don't let this happen to you and your lady!  Grief is normal and right, but do whatever is necessary to move on from this personal loss, to a better tomorrow.

My condolences, I know how it hurts.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: GtoRA2 on November 03, 2005, 03:58:30 PM
Very sorry to hear that Seagoon.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Seagoon on November 03, 2005, 03:59:29 PM
Thanks guys, my ISP connection went slightly nutty so I ended up with three versions of this. My apologies for the extra thread, this isn't something I wanted to make my first multiple.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: midnight Target on November 03, 2005, 04:02:19 PM
Sad indeed. Very sorry to hear Seagoon.  

Not sure if this means anything, but your faith is a blessing in this case. Many (myself among them) don't have the belief system you have and there are times when that kind of faith is enviable. I'm sure you will find the answers or the consolation you need from your church and your parishoners.

That, I would count as a blessing.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Furball on November 03, 2005, 04:03:35 PM
very sorry to hear that seagoon :(
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Post by: straffo on November 03, 2005, 04:05:29 PM
I'm not religious and not very good at writing but be sure ,
you and your wife have all my sympathy.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: GtoRA2 on November 03, 2005, 04:11:05 PM
Quote
Originally posted by midnight Target
Sad indeed. Very sorry to hear Seagoon.  

Not sure if this means anything, but your faith is a blessing in this case. Many (myself among them) don't have the belief system you have and there are times when that kind of faith is enviable. I'm sure you will find the answers or the consolation you need from your church and your parishoners.

That, I would count as a blessing.


Well Said MT, I was thinking the same thing, I just couldnt put it in words.


It mostly came out for me, I wish I believed so I could pray for you.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: CyranoAH on November 03, 2005, 04:28:03 PM
Very sorry to hear that Seagoon :(

Daniel
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Post by: Nilsen on November 03, 2005, 04:28:49 PM
Very sorry to hear this Seagoon. My thoughts are with you and your wife. :(
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Post by: Maverick on November 03, 2005, 04:32:26 PM
So sorry to hear this Andrew. Please let your wife know Nancy and I are thinking about both of you. Prayers otw as well.
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Post by: fartwinkle on November 03, 2005, 04:48:37 PM
Very sorry to hear that.
I hope that God will help both you and your wife in the days to come.
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Post by: g00b on November 03, 2005, 05:06:41 PM
My deepest sympathies to you and your wife.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Dinger on November 03, 2005, 05:06:42 PM
you both have my sympathy.
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Post by: Captain Virgil Hilts on November 03, 2005, 05:10:35 PM
Damn. Twice.:(
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Post by: Wolfala on November 03, 2005, 05:11:35 PM
Sorry goon.
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Post by: Sandman on November 03, 2005, 05:16:28 PM
****... that's bad.

I'm sorry for your loss... and I'm sorry for the twins. I cherish my own twin more than anyone else.
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Post by: oboe on November 03, 2005, 05:24:17 PM
I am sorry to hear it, Seagoon.   My condolences to you and your wife.
May God grant you both strength and peace.

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Post by: DREDIOCK on November 03, 2005, 05:31:14 PM
Seagoon,
Though we may have differing views on certain things.
Just because I may not always agree with you does not mean I do not feel for you.
I have always had a great deal of respect for you.
I can recognise and respect Your views and feelings.
Thus I recognise and respect the grief you now feel.

And for that greif I would like to offer my most profound and sincere condolences to your wife and yourself for your loss.

Drediock
Title: Sad News...
Post by: ChickenHawk on November 03, 2005, 05:33:27 PM
Sorry for your loss.  You and your family are in my prayers.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Gunslinger on November 03, 2005, 06:06:41 PM
SOrry to hear about this goon.  :(
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Post by: Russian on November 03, 2005, 06:26:34 PM
....:(
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Post by: Eagler on November 03, 2005, 06:46:49 PM
so sorry Seagoon
Peace to you both
Title: Your loss...
Post by: Hwkeye on November 03, 2005, 08:33:57 PM
I will say a prayer for you and yours Seagoon.  Beyond that I am at a loss for words.

Peace be with you.

Hawkeye
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Flit on November 03, 2005, 08:43:35 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this.
 My condolences
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Post by: Charon on November 03, 2005, 08:56:13 PM
My deepest sympathies.

Charon
Title: Re: Sad News...
Post by: Vulcan on November 03, 2005, 09:05:41 PM
Quote
Originally posted by Seagoon
Hi Guys,

I gave you an update in October that we had found out that my wife Joy was pregnant with twins. Well, Joy hasn't been feeling "right" for about a week now and her trip to the doctor today confirmed our worst fears; both the babies have died in the womb. I would be a liar if I said we aren't grieving, and we have to go to the hospital first thing tomorrow for an induction and delivery, which will be very hard to bear to say the least.

In any event I felt it wouldn't be right to share the good news with you all, and then leave you in the dark about what had happened. I am still very grateful for the way you rejoiced with the rejoicing.
 
Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?

The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; Blessed be the name of the LORD.


Never really understood what this mean't until I became a parent, my condolences seagoon.
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Post by: AdmRose on November 03, 2005, 09:24:52 PM
I'm sorry for your loss, may God grant you and your family strength in this time of need.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Simaril on November 03, 2005, 09:28:33 PM
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Dago on November 03, 2005, 09:40:34 PM
My condolences to you and your wife.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Thrawn on November 03, 2005, 09:58:40 PM
My sincere condolence to you and yours.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: ramzey on November 03, 2005, 10:08:49 PM
very sorry to hear that

dont give up
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Hangtime on November 03, 2005, 10:11:17 PM
Terrible news indeed.

My heartfelt condolences to you and your wife.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: mauser on November 03, 2005, 10:33:14 PM
I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss Seagoon :( .
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Post by: Nash on November 03, 2005, 10:42:21 PM
Extremely saddened to hear this Seagoon. You've got my prayers, certainly.
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Post by: crowMAW on November 03, 2005, 10:46:27 PM
Horrible news Andy...:(

Thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by: Ripsnort on November 03, 2005, 11:04:06 PM
Sad to hear, Seagoon. We had 3 miscarriages before the first born came.  Just another hurdle in life. Prayers with you and yours.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Jackal1 on November 03, 2005, 11:46:37 PM
Don`t really know what to say Seagoon.
I feel your sorrow.
My youngest daughter went through this a few years ago.
Very sad thing indeed.
Mine and my wife`s deepest condolences.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Curval on November 04, 2005, 06:16:09 AM
Very sorry to hear this Seagoon.  You and your wife are in our family's thoughts.  As with a few others my wife and I went through something similar a few years back, although not twins.

The only way I was able to get past it was to be thankful for the two boys we already had at the time and love them as much as possible.

A year and a half later we had our baby girl.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: CavemanJ on November 04, 2005, 06:42:36 AM
=(
sorry to hear that Seagoon.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: -tronski- on November 04, 2005, 08:13:30 AM
I'm not big believer in these type of threads, but I really do understand your loss...we lost our first baby about 2 years ago, and my wife is 28 weeks into carrying twins on our second successful attempt...just be there for each other and I'm sure you'll both be stronger because of it

 Tronsky
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Post by: detch01 on November 04, 2005, 10:46:37 AM
Seagoon, my sincerest condolences to you and your wife.



asw
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Post by: XrightyX on November 04, 2005, 12:37:47 PM
Sorry to hear this Seagoon.  My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by: Mustaine on November 04, 2005, 02:20:45 PM
My prayers are with you, your wife, and your entire family.

May god be with you all.
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Post by: Shifty on November 04, 2005, 02:33:01 PM
Sorry man.

I hope the grief you, and your wife feel is healed soon.
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Post by: eskimo2 on November 04, 2005, 05:53:14 PM
I am so sorry to hear this Seagoon.  
You and you wife have my condolences.

My youngest just turned 8 months today.  My wife’s water broke at 25 weeks and the odds of having a healthy child were dismal.  My wife was in the hospital, drugged up on “don’t come now” meds for a month.  I spent a month worrying myself sick and reading about all the ways that an early delivery can go bad.  Now, our daughter is healthy and developmentally fine, against all odds.  Without modern medicine, my wife would have died too.  I now find myself sweating out other family’s pregnancies like I never did before.  I’ve always appreciated children (I’m a teacher after all), but now I marvel them in a new light.  

It’s really too bad that such good people like yourself and your wife aren’t exempt from natural tragedies.  Childbirth is always such a crapshoot.  

eskimo
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Post by: Swager on November 04, 2005, 06:05:23 PM
SG, I am so sorry.  You an your wife will in our prayers.

The Swager family
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Post by: fartwinkle on November 04, 2005, 07:53:50 PM
I am joyfull to say that there are a lot of realy good people on this board
to the AH community.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: vorticon on November 04, 2005, 08:15:45 PM
im no good with words, so i'll borrow someone elses. id try find something in the bible for you, but its not familiar territory.


"Hangtime Terrible news indeed.

My heartfelt condolences to you and your wife.
 
 
 ramzey very sorry to hear that

dont give up
 
 
 Thrawn My sincere condolence to you and yours.
 
 
 Dago My condolences to you and your wife.
 
 
 Simaril So sorry for your loss.
 
 
 AdmRose I'm sorry for your loss, may God grant you and your family strength in this time of need. "
Title: Sad News...
Post by: USHilDvl on November 05, 2005, 10:28:56 AM
Goon,

We don't know each other, but please accept condolences and sympathies from me and mine.  I can barely imagine the suffering and grief.  But, I do firmly believe that the little souls merely changed their mind on the timing, and will most assuredly be back to you soon.

FWIW, I am most sincerely sorry for your loss.

Respectfully...HilDvl
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Seagoon on November 05, 2005, 11:18:37 PM
Hi All,

Just got back from the hospital today, and had my first chance to read through the thread and some of the PMs I received. I want to thank you all very much for your condolences, support, and advice. The past three days were simply awful in so many senses, including one point when my wife passed out from blood loss, collapsed, and stopped breathing for a few seconds. The nurse actually hit the code button, and suddenly the entire hospital was in our room. Guiness doesn't actually list things like this, but I may have set the record for the fastest coherent prayer every prayed. Someday, I might share more, but I'm a little on the exhausted side at this point.

We have been blessed not only by the internet response, but in that we have so many members in our congregation who have been helping us to bear this particular burden. Literally, for the past three days, I didn't once have to worry about our three children. This has been a time of leaning heavily on grace for us. As I shared with someone else in a PM, I have once again had an opportunity to learn what God meant when he said to Paul in the midst of his own time of adversity, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness."

Thanks again,

SEAGOON
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Post by: AWMac on November 06, 2005, 02:06:38 AM
Just a quick note Andy.  Hard to put into words but I'll try. The loss that you and your wife are expierencing has crossed many borders.  The Korean Methodist Church here and in Korea have you and Family in Prayer.

If there is anything more that I can do, please do not hesitate to ask. you have my home number and you can call collect at any given hour.

In thought as in Prayers,

Mac
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Post by: eskimo2 on November 06, 2005, 06:23:38 AM
Wow,
Thank God for modern medicine and thank God you live in a country that provides it.  100 years ago you, and I and probably many others would be widowers.  My prayers go out for a speedy physical and mental recovery.  

eskimo
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Post by: Lan784 on November 06, 2005, 09:14:17 PM
Very sorry to hear that seagoon, i hope ur wife is ok.
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Post by: FuBaR on November 06, 2005, 11:37:59 PM
That is sad news indeed, hope you 2 are willing to try again despite the pain now. and when the day comes that she gives birth you got good waves from me.
Title: Sad News...
Post by: Seagoon on November 08, 2005, 10:52:02 AM
Thanks again to everyone who sent prayers and messages of condolence. My wife is feeling a lot better physically, so I'm working a half-day today. I have to say that as far as being "mom" goes, she's a lot better at it than I. One of the many ways that good has come out of a time of saddness is in appreciating once again just how blessed I am to have a good "helpmeet" and how useless I'd be at trying to be both mum and dad to my children.

Yup, we'll be trying again in the fullness of time, so godwilling, I hope someday to be once again able to share some excellent news with you.

Grace and Peace to you all,

Andy
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Post by: Scherf on November 08, 2005, 10:59:17 AM
Seagoon:

All differences aside, I hope you'll accept my sincere best wishes for yourself and your family in what must be a terribly difficult time.

I genuinely hope you find strength and comfort in your faith.

Perhaps you'll forgive me if, despite my posts elsewhere on these boards, I offer up the few words from the Bible which have stuck with me.

Faith, hope, love. These three abide. But the greatest of these, is love.


Scherf
Title: Sad News...
Post by: FuBaR on November 10, 2005, 10:07:43 AM
and one more thing  Seagoon *HUUUUUUUUG*
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Post by: deSelys on November 10, 2005, 10:20:19 AM
I'm sincerely sorry, Seagoon. Your family, and particularly your wife and you have all my sympathy.
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Post by: Eden on November 10, 2005, 10:27:25 AM
Seagoon,

My deepest sympathy to you and your family.  My prayers are with you.
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Post by: Karnak on November 10, 2005, 01:47:03 PM
Dreadful news.

My condolences to you and your wife Seagoon.