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My Freaking mother is driving me NUTS!!!
Its really nice to see her when she comes to visit. and its nice to have her here and all that but after a couple of weeks. She starts getting to me
My mom. God bless her I love her dearly and with all my heart. And I am thankful to have her and or all she has ever done for me.
But she over analyses every single minute detail on everything. And you can never give her a simple direct answer on any question she asks.
Now she is far from a stupid person but sometimes no answer is simple enough for her to understand!!!! No matter how basic you try to put it
So you find yourself explaining and explaining and re-explaining the same things over and over and over and over and over and over and over again Until She finally gets it.
Or she wants to know every detail of everything now matter how minute or unnecessary to the conversation
This is the same person that can no lie, take 10 minutes to pick out a can of beets in a grocery store
Let me put it to you this way. When I first mentioned this about my mom to my wife she didn't believe me one single bit and thought I was "being mean"
My wife now outright refuses to do any kind of shopping with her.
A 10 minute trip to the grocery store for a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread turns into a 45 minute pound by pound, ounce by ounce brand by brand cost per gallon/pound/ounce/grain of flour comparison.
This is the type of person which for example if you were telling her you shoveled dirt into a hole. You couldn't just say "I shoveled dirt into a hole"
NoOOoooooo
She would want to know.
What kind of Shovel, what the shovel was made out of. Where you got the shovel, How much the shovel cost. Why you bought that shovel instead of a different one. Why you didnt just borrow a shovel from someone else.
Where the dirt came from, What was in the dirt. Were any rocks or pebbles were in the dirt and if so what kind,color,shape and mineral makeup the stones or pebbles were.
How big was the hole,how deep was the hole. How did the hole get there.Why was the hole there what was in the hole beforel What was the makup of the dirt already in the hole and go through the whole stones /pebbles thing again.
All that just to say "I shoveled dirt into a hole"
And if something is wrong imagine this to about the tenth power
Small run of bad luck. (Well actually a small branch off of an extended string of already existing bad luck that's been going on for about 4 months now But that's another story)
We had several extended brownouts night before last followed by a total loss of power for like 2 hours.
Power came back on and AC wouldn't work
Mom discovered Fridge isnt working this either.
First it was about getting the AC to work. Im no HVAC mech. I couldn't tell you the first bloody thing on how to get them to work.
She knows this but asks anyway. Already knowing Im not going to have the answers
then its the fridge. I know only slightly more about those then I do AC units
So serviceman comes over and fixes the AC. Turns out it was no big deal
On the fridge one of the motors is shot. Soooo we decide to get a new one.
Problem is the one we want isnt in stock anywhere so she looks and looks and looks and looks in the Yellow pages at the same articles trying to get me to look each of them up on the web.
I try telling her that not ever company has a website. and not every company is listed with Verizon.
Then she....... well Shes just making me nuts over well.. all of the above.
EVERY
MINUTE
DETAIL
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not to mention she is staying up late at night. (usually what I call my "alone time" at the computer sitting next to me. Looking over my shoulder which she already knows I totally hate when people do that. wanting to know what this article or that news clip is about.
OR who Im writing an Email to,what its about, etc etc etc.
Not to mention cramping in on my pron time
I have to find a movie for her to watch if I want to get any kind of undisturbed flying time in
I just thank god she hasnt yet asked me how the internet works LOL
Sorry bout dat. Needed to blow off steam LOL
I know she means well. She really does. But Come on already LOL
And just to think. I have several more weeks of this.
I love my mother
I love my mother
I LOVE my mother
Mom. Isnt it time for one of your trips overseas with Uncle Al again? LOL
Well.. off to see if I can get a new fridge that can be delivered today.
Moms comming with me of course.
Cost per Cubid foot
Cost per color
cost per brand
delivery charge cost by store
rebate offer by brand/store
"they're comming to take me away HAHA"
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Is she HOT looking Dred?
Mac
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Funny, my mom is insane, and I hate her for it.
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Originally posted by DREDIOCK
So you find yourself explaining and explaining and re-explaining the same things over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.
The Oclub is your mother? :eek:
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She will get smarter and more enjoyable as you get older.
:D
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Whose mother doesn't drive them at a least a little crazy? Tolerate her the best you can, you'll be sad when she's gone.
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Just don't shop, sit in the comfy chair, order Pizza and drink beer while flying AH.
When she has questions, put her on voc :D
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Sounds like mine. I always make sure we live in different countries... it helps!
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Mother's may be annoying but I know the things that drive me nuts I will miss later. :(
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Sounds like a slight case of OCD. Of course you realize you will never be able to change her. You will have to learn to live with her or live in separate states.
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here's a small trick I developed. it may save your sanity.
it's all a matter of perspective. try not to picture yourself as involved in the situation. try to visualize yourelf as the amused by-stander.
for example. have you ever watched the show 'The King of Queens'? Jerry Stillers character is hilarious, but imagine if you had to live with that guy in real life.
he's at least as crazy as your mom but it's funny when he is nuts. if you can't change them (and seriously, your mom's not going to change at this point) try to enjoy the show.
My dad has Alzhiemers (sp?). looking back with hindsight, it explains a few quirky behaviors he had in the years leading up to his diagnosis.
one thing he did as his memory began to go was he developed a 'script' for about 20-40 minutes of conversation (who he was, # of kids/grandkids, time in the service, wars he's fought in, POW time in ww2). so when he would meet somone new (or that he didn't remember meeting before) and they'd talk to him it would trigger 'the speach'. (IMO he does this so he can apear 'normal' in social situations. the first time you hear it he apears to be a normal but talkative older guy. he doesn't have to be the guy who's memory is shot.)
it used to be embarassing and frustrating. I'm not just talking about social situations. you could be trying to conduct bussines, negotiate on the price of a car and have the negotiation be derrailed for half an hour while he goes through his bit, or even just move through the express lane at the grocery store when the clerk triggers the 40 minute speach as the line builds behind you.
for a while it was so bad I couldn't even enjoy spending time in public with him because it was so frustrating.
then one day I was watching the King of Queens and I had my moment of clarity. "that guy is almost as crazy as dad".
you are NOT stuck in the middle of an embarrassing and/or frusrating situation, you have front row seats to the show!
on some days I can even find a bit of enjoyment in the situation. like when I take him shopping or bring him along on erands to get him out for the day. instead of dreading it I actually try to anticipate 'the speach'.
watching the clerk talk to him at the department store. are they going to ask a 'trigger question' or make a comment that triggers the story? watch for the look on their face when they realize they are trapped.
sometimes it helps to picture the TV around the scene you are watching.
I'm not talking about being disrespectful or making fun of him. just taking an unavoidable situation and choosing to look at it in a way that makes the time I have left with him much more enjoyable.
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DREDIOCK, if you love her than stop your *****ing and appreciate her. So she likes to talk, so what. You don't have to engage her.
I wish I could hear my mom talk, but now the only thing she would be good for is grit on an icy sidewalk.
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Even better my mother is my Boss at work :rofl And yes... I'm nuts.
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Saw the title, "My mother is driving me CRAZY!", saw the poster, "DREDIOCK", and immediately thought, "Short trip,...eh?"
And I am not even Canadian! :D
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Dred
I can sympathize
I have a 4 year old and 5 year old adopted daughters...same questions lol
My mom was raised during the depression.... those little questions were needed to survive, how old is your mom?
My mom always blamed her mom for that line of deductive thinking, the depression was tough on them and that was how they lived.
Funny, my mom would call me in the afternoon while I was at work and tell me to watch out that the traffic on 294 northbound at Cermak was tied up with a bad accident...
I lived about 5 miles in the opposite direction ... but everyday she would call and warn me about another traffic tie up somwhere -usually not even close to where I was heading...lol
I miss that
NwBie
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Whose mother doesn't drive them at a least a little crazy?
I'm not talking about her driving me crazy. I was being serious. She's one drawing of a purple cat away from being declared legally in-****ing-sane and sent to the bathouse.
The things she did to me and the things she is doing to my sister... It'll be a long time and many bottles of scotch before I even begin to forgive her.
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I bet you'd think differently if it was Stiffler's mom doing those things to you, eh Finchie?
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Drediock,
Try my situation. I retire. I have a nice small house I like a lot, can afford on my retirement pension and have money in the bank. Lots of time for me, my hobbies and anything that catches my eye for diversion. Add to that I'm single, healthy and prospects for "companionship" are varied and plentiful. I do this for 6 months.
I visit my Mom. She tells me she wants to sell her place and move in with one of the kids. I ask her when and with whom, while holding my breath. She says she has to stay in Tucson. I drop through the floor. I'm the only one who stayed in the same town, checks on her regularly and gives her money each month so she has plenty to get by on. My Brother lives in San Diego and my Sister lives in Ohio at the time. Keep in mind this is the same Mom that from the time I can remember told me I was good for nothing and would never amount to anything and still does so........
I do the "good son" thing and sell her place for her, give her all the money and put my place up for sale while she moved in. Now my house is a small 2 bedroom +den so my kid has to sleep on the floor when he comes over for visitation.
I also go back to working and school full time for my MA degree while looking for a bigger new house. Sell the old one, finally find another house, bigger MUCH larger payment and let my Mom make the decision. I get the house using almost all of the money I had saved, we move in and the B******g starts. The house is too loud, too hot, too cold, her room is too small, she hates the kitchen, there is no good back yard and no grass in the front yard and she hates having to park her car in the garage. sigh....... I briefly consider matricide....... suicide.... cide a cide......
I call my Brother. He laughs and says he knew that wouldn't work out, why did I think he wouldn't volunteer........ I consider fratricide......... I don't even bother calling my Sister as I already know Mom hates her husband and the feeling is mutual......... In the mean time I find a truly wonderful lady and we get married. After a couple months Mom decides that she doesn't like my wife..........
Then the alzheimers REALLY kicks in. This had gone on for 5 years before my health starts to slide. Little Sister comes in the picture and takes over, and moves Mom to Ohio. Mom still telling me I am good for nothing, will never amount to anything and I made her life a living hell. Thanks Mom.....
I finally can sell the house I don't really like and have a hard time paying for. The market tanks and I barely break even on the remaining balance of the note. I still have to work for several more years before we can retire again.
Dred, you strill want sympathy????? BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seriously, hang in there, she's only visiting. It could be worse.
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Originally posted by lasersailor184
I'm not talking about her driving me crazy. I was being serious. She's one drawing of a purple cat away from being declared legally in-****ing-sane and sent to the bathouse.
The things she did to me and the things she is doing to my sister... It'll be a long time and many bottles of scotch before I even begin to forgive her.
I was being serious also. Not forgiving your mother hurts you a lot more than it does her.
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You have obviously never met her OR her family. In particular my grandfather.
My grandfather is currently about to die. I have been debating with myself recently if I should go to his funeral. The only reason for me to go would be to piss on his grave, but then again, I HATE waiting in lines.
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Originally posted by AWMac
Is she HOT looking Dred?
Mac
Depends what your into LMAO
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Originally posted by lukster
Whose mother doesn't drive them at a least a little crazy? Tolerate her the best you can, you'll be sad when she's gone.
Originally posted by RightF00T
Mother's may be annoying but I know the things that drive me nuts I will miss later. :(
Originally posted by Thrawn
DREDIOCK, if you love her than stop your *****ing and appreciate her. So she likes to talk, so what. You don't have to engage her.
I wish I could hear my mom talk, but now the only thing she would be good for is grit on an icy sidewalk.
Oh without a doubt I will be utterly crushed when she's gone and I do appreciate her tremendously.
I love admire and respect my mother for a great many reasons. Too many to list.
But even the greatest person in the world can grate on you sometimes.
And as much as I'll miss my mom. That will be the one aspect I wont LOL.
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You should try going out to dinner with my dad Archie Bunker. I love my POP and I know he was raised in a different era. But DAMN he can say the most inapropriate things at the most inapropriate times. It doenst help his mind is begining to go either. The last time we went out he asked the waiter to see his green card.
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Originally posted by ChickenHawk
Sounds like a slight case of OCD. Of course you realize you will never be able to change her. You will have to learn to live with her or live in separate states.
We do. Her in Florida (Port St Lucie)
And me here in Jersey.
When she comes to visit which is like 3-4 times per year. its usually for at least a month.
We love when she comes really.
Plus I get the side benifits of her cook'n which everyone loves
But after living in a home where Im the one paying the bills,making the rules etc after a while it sends things into turmoil.
When she leaves. even she will say. its time for her to go home.
She's ready and Im ready for her to go home.
She would tell you the same thing.
She has no more desire to live with me on a full time basis then I do with her.
She has stated rather matter of factly that she doesnt want us taking care of her when its that time.
She took care of my grandmother till she died and after that experiance she doesnt want to put us through that.
Propbably wont happen that way but My ssiter is getting her anyway.
I told her flat out.
"I am NOT changing your diaper"
Turns out she doesnt want me to either. LOL
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Originally posted by Nwbie
Dred
I can sympathize
I have a 4 year old and 5 year old adopted daughters...same questions lol
My mom was raised during the depression.... those little questions were needed to survive, how old is your mom?
My mom always blamed her mom for that line of deductive thinking, the depression was tough on them and that was how they lived.
Funny, my mom would call me in the afternoon while I was at work and tell me to watch out that the traffic on 294 northbound at Cermak was tied up with a bad accident...
I lived about 5 miles in the opposite direction ... but everyday she would call and warn me about another traffic tie up somwhere -usually not even close to where I was heading...lol
I miss that
NwBie
My daughter is that way too. But she is 9 and a brilliant 9
She thinks in great depth which astounds her teachers
but I expect it form a 9 year old lol
My mother
she is actually the daughter of Depression era parents.
And I wont deny she is WAY and I mean light years way better with money then I could ever hope to be.
But Come on LOL
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Raising Parents are hard... worse than kids most of the time.
It seemed for the longest that Family Reunions were taking place in Hospital ICU's.
I've done the best of 3 children, being the oldest. Still I wasn't the one that did the best for the Family. I practically raised my Brother and Sister... was the one to get beat when they did wrong. Quit playing BIG Brother, joined the Army. Since then my Mom and Dad were divorced for 10 years then remarried. My Sister did drugs and hard time in Prison 3 times. My Brother commited Suicide.
My Father has now one lung and may not see another year. Mom has breast cancer and rebuilt hips with walker included. Still I'm the one that has made the Family Hell. Mom is losing her mind on a fast train and Dad is just hanging in there for the final bell to ring. I love them both and tried to be what they ever wanted from a child. Still I seemed to never have met the grade.
It bothers me to know that I'm the one that will have to bury them both as my Sister is a loser. Yet again, I'll be the one that has never made it.
Mac
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Originally posted by Skuzzy
Saw the title, "My mother is driving me CRAZY!", saw the poster, "DREDIOCK", and immediately thought, "Short trip,...eh?"
And I am not even Canadian! :D
LMAO
Short trip?
More like short step ;)
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Originally posted by icemaw
You should try going out to dinner with my dad Archie Bunker. I love my POP and I know he was raised in a different era. But DAMN he can say the most inapropriate things at the most inapropriate times. It doenst help his mind is begining to go either. The last time we went out he asked the waiter to see his green card.
Heh, Sounds like my father in law.
I could tell you an outright hillarious story but no way would it get past the mods.
He's not really a bigot. But he tells it like he sees it and isnt particularly politicaly correct as to how he tells it either.
And his mind isnt even going.
He is just at the point in his life (82) where he feels he doesnt have anything to prove to anyone anymore. so why keep his mouth shut.
Not that he ever kept it shut before. He just does it even less now
Funny thing is everyone who knows him loves him for it
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Oh update.
After about 5 hours and 10 different stores shopping prices/features/rebates/brands we finally picked one up.
At the vey first store we stopped at at 11:00 this morning.
Got it delivered already too.
Ok now I own it its in my house and couldnt take it back even if I wanted to without paying a return fee.
So no matter what. unless its broke it isnt going anywhere.
Should be end of story right?
Nope.
She just spent the last hour and a half with a calulator and pencil and paper going over and back over all the prices/features/brands etc over every single fridge we looked at and came to the conclusion I saved $1.50 over another one we looked at.
A conclusion I came to some 3 1/2 hours ago
LMAO
Too bad I probably spent about $10 in gas to save that $1.50
To be honest though I did get a better quality fridge in getting a Whilrpool over a Frigedaire
So its a wash
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.squelch mom
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Mac,
Sounds familiar. I buy next trip to Tulsa.
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Originally posted by Maverick
Mac,
Sounds familiar. I buy next trip to Tulsa.
We'll split 50/50 Mav. I enjoyed the time and look forward to the next time you are here!
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Mac
and no I really don't look much like my Avatar.... I've had a haircut since then.
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