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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: AWMac on July 14, 2006, 03:29:05 PM
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One key to getting along well with people is knowing when to say you're sorry. Sometimes little comments or actions can hurt or offend others. Heavy workloads and stress may keep us from seeing how our actions make others feel. The little things can add up. It doesn't take long for someone to hold a grudge and for grudges to grow into conflicts. In most cases, if someone is offended by something you do or say, it's much better to apologize right away. That solves the small problem and keeps it from getting bigger.
It's hard to apologize. Many of us are ashamed or have too much pride. Sometimes we just don't know how to do it. Here are some tips that may make it easier to say you're sorry.
Take responsibility. The first step in apologizing is to admit to yourself that you have offended someone. You may know this right away, or the other person's reaction may let you know you have done something hurtful. But you must admit you have done wrong and accept responsibility for your actions.
Explain. It's important to let the person you hurt know that you didn't mean to do harm. At the same time, you must show that you take your mistake seriously. Recognize that your actions caused a problem for the other person.
Show your regret. The other person needs to see that you have suffered, too. Come right out and say you are sorry or ashamed. I felt bad the minute I told your secret. I'm ashamed of myself.
Repair the damage. To be complete, an apology must correct the injury. If you damaged someone's property, offer to fix it. If the damage isn't so obvious, ask What can I do to make it up to you? There may be nothing concrete you can do, but the offer must be sincere. I'll try to keep my mouth shut in the future. Meantime, let me buy you a cup of coffee. Another way to repair the damage is to send a note or a small gift.
Use good timing. Apologize right away for little things. For example, if you bump into someone, say you're sorry right away. Don't wait until the next day to apologize. However, if you have done something more serious, like insult a friend, your apology should be more thoughtful. A quick apology might seem phony. Take the time to sit down, look the person in the eye, and apologize honestly.
It's not about who "won" or who "lost." It's about keeping a strong friendship.
Nash and any others that I may have hurt or offended.
Please allow me to apologize sincerly from my heart. I let my mouth over run my hummingbird arse.
You guys have been there for me in low times as well as in better times. To me it is like a second Family. I've met a few of you and would like to met all of you one Day or another to just rejoice in the good times.
We all have different points of view and that is what makes this BBS the best. Although we disagree on many terms, we are still a Community and I am proud to be a member of it.
Nash and all I truly hope you accept my sincere apology. I wish to renew friendships that I may have tarnished.
Humbly,
Mac
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jebus, murray and jobus put the pipe down and back away slowly. get some flesh and bone friends.
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Thank you Storch... would be a pleasure to wing with you someday.
Mac
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nash & mac sittin in a tree k...i...s...s...i...n...g
:p
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Originally posted by Mustaine
nash & mac sittin in a tree k...i...s...s...i...n...g
Mustaine can you help me out and count these Bastages for me?
:huh
Mac
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Originally posted by AWMac
Mustaine can you help me out and count these Bastages for me?
:huh
Mac
man if k...i...s...s...i...n...g got you that excited cod forbid someone actually touched your noodle :lol
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Originally posted by storch
jebus, murray and jobus put the pipe down and back away slowly. get some flesh and bone friends.
Wut!!!!:confused: Some one call me???:noid
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Please Mustaine I'm here apologizing.. trying to heal old wounds and recleanse friendships and you want to discuss my noodle?
Please lets keep my best friend out of this and move on.
Mac
:D
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:aok :rofl
:lol
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Nash
I gotta hear something from you or I'll never sleep.
Tear into me, beat me up. trash me...still I'll respect you.
Mac
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Originally posted by AWMac
Nash
I gotta hear something from you or I'll never sleep.
Tear into me, beat me up. trash me...still I'll respect you.
Mac
Did you do something mean to poor old Nash?
Must be something in the air I even defended him somewhat in another thread lol.
:D
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two guys go hunting in canada for bear. as they set up their camp and made preparations the day wore into the night. tired they decided to settle in for the night in order to be rested for the hunt early the next day. as they were falling asleep fred says to bob, "hey bob I need to take a dump" bob replies, "so, go ahead I dug the latrine." fred says "but I'm scared, what if a wild critter attacks me?" bob says "get outta here with the way your farts smell?"
so fred grabs a roll of TP and heads for the latrine. as he gets his pants down around his ankles he hears a low growl and rustling in the surrounding bushes. he says "bob quit playing around, you're such a kidd....." to his horror a huge brown bear is grinning down on him, grabs him flips him round and mates with him. in the meantime bob, awakened by the screams, groans and heavy breathing grabs a flashlight and his rifle to see what all the fuss is about.
he shines the light on the bear who stares back with a sheepish grin, puts a paw in his pocket pulls a $20 out and tosses it at fred as he scampers off. fred sobbing and shaking is comforted by bob who says "look bro, it's just you and me out here. no one saw this it could have happened to anyone. let's pack up our stuff and go home" fred says "but...but....but" bob interrupts and says "fred come on bud let's go, don't worry I wont whisper a thing about what happened here to a living soul, I promise."
the weeks and months pass and around 9 months later bob gets a telephone call from fred who is sobbing hysterically. "fred FRED get a hold of yourself mate, whats the problem I ain't said a word to anyone and never will, ever." fred clutching a now worn $20 note says "but you don't understand and you wouldn't listen that night in the wood. that damn bear never calls me, he doesn't write, no emails..... nothing."
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Lets just say I had have a feeling that what goes around , comes around... I need to be a bit more understanding of others... it's NOT all about me.
With that said... I apologize to every Canadian... every Canadian Mountie... every Canadian Beaver, tossed or not.
Canada Thank you,
Mac
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Storch I like the joke about the Bear and the Rabbit (Storch) better... Ya know.. watermelon don't stick to my fur and the Bear grabs the Rabbit...
But it's all in fun.
Mac
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thats ok, i forgive you Mac ;)
now.. tell me what you are drinking cuz i want some O that! :D
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Originally posted by Nilsen
thats ok, i forgive you Mac ;)
now.. tell me what you are drinking cuz i want some O that! :D
You just want to get him alone, so you viking blood can take over..... then the pilaging and all that can begin.
Run Mac!!
Its a trick!:D
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Originally posted by GtoRA2
You just want to get him alone, so you viking blood can take over..... then the pilaging and all that can begin.
Run Mac!!
Its a trick!:D
Mac isnt a nun so he is sort of safe.
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Originally posted by Nilsen
Mac isnt a nun so he is sort of safe.
You could only do the nuns?
How fun is that?
Your hats had horns man, I am so disapointed :cry
:D
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Originally posted by AWMac
...and you want to discuss my noodle?
Mac
:D
wouldn't be a very long discussion:lol
nyuk nyuk nyuk
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Originally posted by GtoRA2
You could only do the nuns?
How fun is that?
Your hats had horns man, I am so disapointed :cry
:D
Nuns are the ultimate fantasy for alot of men youknow.. the viKings were the trendsetters :D
The musilims have the same fetish.. they just call the dresses "burkas" :p
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two guys stationed near the antarctic continent in a weather station walk up to a convent that shares the island with them and knock on the door. after some time the mother superior anwsers the knock. "yes gentlemen, may I help you?" bob says "beggin your pardon sister but do you have any dwarf nuns here? (holding his left hand palm down about waist high)" The mother superior responds, "no I'm afarid we don't!" clearing his throat fred says " now ma'am please, are you sure that there are no midget nuns staying here?" the mother superior responds "young man I'm quite certain that there are not now or ever have been any "midget nuns in this monastery!!!" with that bob rolls on the ground laughing so hard he pees himself and yells you see I told you, you plugged a penguin.
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lol :lol
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All right everyone, take your pants off, and time for a group hug.
[EDIT] Oh, and Mac - keep your twinkie in your pants.
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ROFLMAO Storch, good one! :rofl :aok
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Storch I can't remember the last time I laffed soooo hard...wait, never mind.
;)
Mac
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Nilsen thank you my brother and I still like your beard.
Hugs,
Mac
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Hey Mac, thanks.
I was never quite sure why you took such an interest in me. I'm still not, but... that's cool. I'm just some guy with an opinion. Same as you, same as anyone.
In the immortal words of Elvis Costello:
Was it a millionaire who said "imagine no possessions"?
A poor little schoolboy who said "we don't need no lessons"?
The rabid rebel dogs ransack the shampoo shop
The pop princess is downtown shooting up
And if that goddess is fit for burning
The sun will struggle up the world will still keep turning.
Apology accepted in full, and you've got my complete forgiveness.
Thanks, man.
As a token of our friendship, allow me to offer you a genuine Canadian beaver.
(http://www.halogod.com/albums/Ashleigh/ash_a1.sized.jpg)
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Nash,
Thanks Bud...I meant it from the heart. I'm glad you have accepted my apology and we can move on to better things.
Nice Beaver too, thanks for the gift.
Respectfully,
Mac
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I want to thank you all for being kind to me during this apology. Sometimes it takes a kick in the nards to get my attention but it works for me.
Nash I want to thank you for being a true Gentleman about this. I have a renewed respect for you. I thought for sure you would have drug me through the mud and left me bleeding. Yet you handle this gracefully. I admire you for that and could learn from you. Thank you.
Storch, I liked your jokes and would like to wing with you once. Come to Knits just for a day and teach me the "Dead Stick" Manuver... That is one I need to learn.
To all that haven't yet responded, understand that I meant no harm to anyones feelings or beliefs in posting.
Community Hug,
Mac
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yeah, but nash is still wrong just about all the time. of course that doesnt make him a bad person, just miss-informed.
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mac anyone that becomes offended by words, in here, on 200 or in life needs to be taunted until they leave with tears streaming down their faces and go home to mommy for a kissy-poo and some feel better soup. gimme a break please or soon we'll all be wearing pink shorts to work and whining about stolen scooters.
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I got Banned...
Had to call and beg Skuzz...
But wasn't required to do this thread, wasn't asked to do this thread.
This Thread was of my own doing. Just to let you all know that no matter what you say, wether we disagree or agree, if you ever need a friend I'm here for you.
Like I said before I overloaded a humming birds arse.
You guys had been there for me during my Brothers Death and my Nieces Death... I would'nt trade or loose you guys for anything.
From the Heart,
Mac
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heh, skuzzy is very susceptible to begging all his dogs must be very fat.
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Originally posted by storch
heh, skuzzy is very susceptible to begging all his dogs must be very fat.
:rofl
That just made my Day!!!!
Thanks Storch!!!
So when ya coming to MA to teach me the "Dead Stick" manuvuer?
:D
Mac
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In the words of Chandler Bing.."Could her head BE any taller?"