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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: LePaul on October 27, 2007, 01:10:45 AM
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Someone pointed this out to me a few years ago and it didn't mean much to me then. But now that I have two little ones living with me, I'm noticing it big time.
Tonight the kids had a Halloween Party at their school. One is in Kidnegarten and the other is in 4th grade. While looking around the room at the kids and parents, my girlfriend commented that with a great many, you can't tell if they are the parents or grand parents!
We seemed like the minority being in our 30s! Lots and lots of people are having kids much, much later in life.
Man, bless them...I can't imagine chasing kids at age 50!
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I was born when mom was 42, I think.
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I know what you mean LePaul. My parents had me at about 22, I've seen what parents are like in general as I grew up and visited friends with older parents. Older by anything more than 10 years (or a little less) and things didn't seem as good as I had them.
I'm 25 now and wondering if I missed the boat.
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Originally posted by moot
I know what you mean LePaul. My parents had me at about 22, I've seen what parents are like in general as I grew up and visited friends with older parents. Older by anything more than 10 years (or a little less) and things didn't seem as good as I had them.
I'm 25 now and wondering if I missed the boat.
I know what you mean.
I'm 37 and my folks had me when they were 24. Once I got further and further away from that age, I wondered if I'd be settled in at 25, 30, 32, etc. And I've watched friends chase their "biological" clocks only to wind up unhappily married or divorced later on down the line.
My girlfriend and I have chatted about marriage and perhaps another baby. I'd love to have the experience of it all, yet part of me sees that in a few years, we'll have the house back! So we'll just have to see what happens.
Right now, the bigger issue is going from 2 cats to 6 when she brought her animals over!
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I remember oh so well my 40th Birthday.
I was the one that hit 40 hard.
Looked back at my accomplishments and figured I'd be further ahead of the game...at work they had the neccessary decorations. "Over the Hill" Balloons, "Tombstones" "Black Crepe Paper" and a old busted wooden coffin...I smiled *while wishing they all would die right there before me* and ate the Black frosted cake. Washed down with Prune Juice...
Funny, very Frikken Funny....
Got home and all I wanted was a few cold beers, seek my sanctuary in my puter room and be left alone until the Black Cloud had passed...
But Noooooooooo...Before the cap was off the JD and the top pulled from the beer can the wifey announces..
"We have to talk...."
Okay, chit.... What did the Girls do now?
"No we have to talk in the Bedroom...."
Okay, Crap... What did I do now.....?
The door is shut and she looks at me into my eyes and pulls out this dam wand thingy....WTF?
I remember hearing the haunting words "I think I'm Pregnat"
I recall coming to on the bedroom carpet and hearing a recognizible voice crying....sobbing very hard.... then I realized it was me...
I was then gently assisted up the stairs and into my puter room, bottle and beer in tow...
That was the greatest Birthday presents ever... My Son.
:aok
Mac
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Cats?! Woe is LePaul :p
-edit ^ See what I mean? :lol
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Great 40th B-Day Mac! Wow... I HATED the idea of turning 40... I remember that day, 3 years ago... I kept rechecking the math over and over... Same result, I was 4-0!
Fantastic story you have there :aok
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last time we went to disney I was saddled with my three year old granddaughter while everyone else went to the park. neither one of us enjoy the main park so I was staying in the hotel or maybe going to the white one museum in kissimee. my granddaughter wanted to go to the pool. so instead we compromised, we went to one of the water parks. I started flirting a bit with an attractive woman who appeared to be my age as our two smaller humans played on the slides. I was kind of blown away when she asked me what my daughter's name was. when I told her that lorelai was my granddaughter she couldn't believe it. the four year old lorelai was playing with was her first child and she is a single mom.
It strikes me as odd that people would wait until middle age to have children. I hope to get to meet my great grandchildren, in order to do that one must start when one is young.
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Originally posted by LePaul
Kidnegarten
Kindergarten
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Originally posted by Thrawn
Kindergarten
Thank you, my spelling was off in the wee hours :)
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My son is eight months old now, beginning to stand up on his own and has one word 'dada'. Which pleased me until I realised it's an all purpose word meaning 'Pick me up', 'Look at me' and everything else he can think of. Everything but Daddy.:cry
I'm 47, it horrifies me to think that when he's twenty. I'll be sixty seven, if I'm still around. My Father died aged sixty six. Fortunately I look a bit younger than my age. But nevertheless, I find it a bit of a strain when he wakes up and wants to play at five in the morning. My wife is 41. It's pretty old to be wrestling with nappy changes, bottle feeds and all the other baby stuff for the first time. But we're coping and even enjoying the whole experience.
It wasn't as if we waited a long time to have a baby. We only met four years ago. Before that I thought I'd escaped entanglement but I was caught in the end.:lol
The age thing is a worry for me though as he will be a lively teenager when I'm essentially an old man. The last thing I want to be seen as, is a stuffy old fashioned bore.
But you have to live with the deal life serves you.
It does seem to be a trend to have children at a later stage these days. At the ante natal classes in the hospital. It was noticeable how many of the women were at least in their thirties. Also noticeable was that the younger girls there had much fewer aches and pains than the older women. My wife had big problems (dangerous to her) during the birth. Younger women are much less prone to issues like that. One had her baby at 10 pm. She went home the next day at 12 noon.
It is always better to have kids when you're younger.
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could be worse... I really am a grand parent raising a child. My ex is doing the lions share but I am doing a lot of it.
It is even worse in my case because I am a single male and she is half mexican and looks very hispanic while I... am lilly white. It is better when I am with my mexican girlfriend in that regard..
I was with her at a park and a hispanic lady was with her two kids.. she asked where my wife was... I told her I was not married and she actually started flirting.. telling me she was single and all... I was flattered..
My grand daughter is strikingly pretty.. lots of people comment.. this lady said that I must have had a very beautiful hispanic wife... I had to tell her that I was not the dad but the grand dad... maybe she just needs glasses but...
It was flattering.
lazs
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I'm going to be the big 5-0 in december, married to same gal 29 years so far. We had our 3 kids in our early and mid 20's while most of our relatives waited until they were in their 30's and 40's.
It just tickles the living crap out of me when the 40+ year olds complain they are tired and stuff. These same ones used to snicker when we were having our kids and we couldnt go out and party and other stuff because we were home being responsible and raising our kids. Now, when we go out and want to do something, they are the ones who can't.
We already have a few grandchildren. We have a pretty fair chance of seeing our great grandchildren too. There is a small outside chance of seeing great great grandchildren if something happens when they are young and life treats me and my wife well in my elder years.
Yes, we are very glad we had our children early in life and now we get to enjoy grandkids now instead of raising our own. I have a hard time dealing with rap music, baggy pants and rings in the nose, eyes, lips, tattoos, etc. In fact I forbid our kids to have any of this stuff until they were 18 and not in my house. Told my son if he ever came home with an earring in highschool, I would physically make him wear a bra and panties to school to go with his outfit lol. My youngest daughter is trying to dabble just a wee bit into the punk look at 21 years old. She got a tattoo, and got a little tiny nose pin or whatever you call them. I told her it looks disgusting and if she wants to come into house to never never ever get any eye,lip or wherever else those nasty looking rings and pins go. She knows I mean it. Heh told her not to bring any of that gang/rap/punk clothing stuff into MY house or she is out untill she gets rid of it.
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rondar... be very glad... I had my kids in my twenties too but it didn't work out that well.. My grand daughter is in the other room eating as I type. I will carve pumpkins and do homework and watch kid movies all weekend. I will try to keep up with her.
lazs
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Originally posted by LePaul
Thank you, my spelling was off in the wee hours :)
;)
Glad you got some sproggs running around.
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You guys make me feel so young and stupi- Oh... wait...
I am... both... I'm barely 18... :D
What I wouldn't give for some of that experience you guys have though. I know I don't have it easy in this world... I could use some knowhow.
On a side note... My mom turned 50 this year... And my dad 74...
My father fought (Well, he put up telephone lines!) in Korea... Last I checked he also remembers when Pearl Harbor happened...
My mom remembers alot of things to... but alot of them are far less important to me... The Beatles just don't mean alot to me.
I never really fit in with the kids at my school, atleast not... in modern terms. My Da' raised me like it was the 50s, and my mom like the 70s...
Alot of my ideas tend to confuse kids my age...
Though, I remember in Kindergarten... when our Teachers asked us what our parents did, and if any had ever been in the Military. I said, of course, my Da' had been in Korea, and this smartalek teacher went...
"No, no he hasn't. Vietnam maybe, but not Korea.", Teacher
"You can ask him yourself, he's over there.", Me
"That's your grampa- oh shi-", Teacher
Good times... Good times...
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I'm glad I kicked off this thread. I'm always impressed when I learn about the posters...its a nice break from the political ranting :)
(So in short, I may think some of you are incredibly tarded, but darn you guys have your hearts in the right place LOL)
One of my best friends is 17 years older than me, he's 54. We used to tease him all the time for having his kids in his late 30s. He's an airline pilot now but before he flew KC-135s for the Air Force, then later the Guard.
He's away from home a lot these days and his youngest just graduated from high school. When the guy is finally able to jump online at night while away flying, we'd wind him up with "You should've seen the goth dude your daughter was out to the movies with tonight" and that sort of thing.
And he's always been a great sport.
And now he is absolutely loving the fact that I work nights, try to sleep days with two kids under 10 running around the house.
:)
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Being only 19 years older than my son has been good. He owns a front end and tire store and likes guns and cars and remodeling the house. We spend a lot of time together when we can.. talk on the phone when we can't.
He knows how to take all the plastic crap on new cars apart and I can show him stuff about his 56 and 60 chevy... Helped him put a 454 and 4 speed in the 60.
He knows that if he likes one of my guns enough that I will end up giving it to him and.. he gets all the free reloads he wants.. I get free tires and stuff from his shop...
I like his friends and his like me. He has an almost perfect wife and he lives in the redwoods by santa cruz.. you can walk to the beach from his house or get lost in miles of dense redwood national forest.
lazs
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I'm mid-thirties, as are most of my friends. Most of us got married in our late twenties and have only just started having kids - I've got a round of first birthday parties coming up. To me, this just seems the norm for middle class, university educated professionals in Europe.
That really reflects the differences in overall attitudes to life and work - America is much more focussed on retiring in your fifties and having your adventures then. In Europe, people want to spend their twenties doing things they can't do after they settle down and don't really look at retirement in the same way as most Americans.
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Originally posted by LePaul
One is in Kidnegarten and the other is in 4th grade.
Same as my two! :aok
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Had my first three in my early 20's, fourth and last one when I was 29. If I had it to do over I would have waited until late 20's to start having kids. Mature enough to fully enjoy your kids and young enough to enjoy the grandkids.
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There never a perfect time to have kids; there are many advantages and disadvantages at any age. Both men and women tend to make healthier babies at younger ages but they tend to be better parents as they get older.
My two year old was born two days before my 40th birthday; my wife is now 39. I know people who have not been able to have children naturally, usually because of their age. I’ve known others who have had complications and children who have problems that are likely tied to the age of their parents. My in laws had my wife in their 40s. They are a good decade past their life expectancy now and are lucky to know their grandchildren.
On the other hand, my father in law was married before WWII and had three children and then his wife died. He later remarried; my wife was the product of that second marriage. His older children say that he was a much better father the second time around. Most older parents believe that they are better parents than they would have been if they were younger. They are usually more financially stable and were able to complete college without children in the way.
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My oldest is 22 (just arrived yesterday in Kuwait). My youngest....turned 8 in June :) I just turned 47 myself. Altogether I still have 6 of them living at home here, and yes, they do tire me out pretty much everyday chasing them. But I think the kids make you young again.
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Great story MAC.. I didn't know.
I bred one @ 28 and married three more at 41. They're 14, 10, 7, and 5 :D
No parole in sight ;)
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yep.. a five year old does help keep you young but.. it takes a lot out of you.
pluis... I am not that good at it. I was never a great parent in any case.
lazs
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LOL.
Crossed forty already and not about to stop spawning :D
(Blessed with a much younger wife you see)
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Sadly, many children in America ARE being raised by their grandparents.
68ROX
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If that is the case because of impossible parents, then the grandparents don't have to be bad at all.
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Yip, I'm at 33 and expecting my 3rd and last child. I work with many people in their 40's and 50's and they have younger children than I do. I have a 2 and 4 year old.
I'm glad to have them young, cause when I'm ready to retire @ 55 - 60, they better be long gone out of the house by then!!! :aok
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angus.. I would not be raising my grand daughter if I had a choice...
this is not a perfect world however and often we have little choice.
lazs
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Four years ago the wife and I decided to sign up for emergency care foster parents. We had lost a child 7 years ago to a heart defect and never were able to try again due to complications from the birth.
This is my second marraige and my first wife moved a state away so I had very little contact with my 2 boys - they were very young - and amazingly they somehow made it to their early 20's without me --
Anyway.. the emergency care foster parent program was to be available to take infants in as an emergency situation, normally they would then be either returned to the parent(s) or moved on to a more permanent status with a foster family. .... 2 weeks after having "graduated" from the program we took in 2 sisters, the oldest about 1 1/2 the youngest 9 monthes, I will never forget the look in the little ones eyes as she stood in the crib looking at me..she was reading me ..i remember thinking that this kid has experienced more crap than most of the 20 to 30 yr old kids I worked with... the cops figured they had been at least a week in an abandoned trailer home alone in a playpen when they were found, the oldest couldnt walk - wouldnt go near me - the man - of the house, and neither of them cracked a smile for at least 2 weeks that I recall..the emergency care 3 years later became adoption...
Today - they are my daughters - they both dress in their school uniforms-they are in daisies and brownies - they laff - they call me daddy..they cant go to sleep until dad kisses them goodnight and rubs their back and hugs them...lots more.... I'm 51 ..never going to retire... they have college funds... I have old football knees..and I thank God every day for putting them in my life... NwBie :)
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married with child at 19, the wife was 18 - yeah, we looked like kids with kids because we were
our youngest moved out a few months ago at 21 and now we are finally ALONE!
nothing like a perpetual honeymoon at 48 :)