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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: Oogly50 on December 21, 2007, 08:53:58 PM
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Wow, I've never felt more crappy in the history of crappy days...
Today I found out, that the girl I have loved since 5th grade liked every single one of my best friends... But she didn't like me.
I feel like hell... I'm so unlucky. All my best friends are in her class, except me. I'm in an entirely different section of the school.
Normally this wouldn't be such a big deal, but I can't let go of her... I can't. I would die for her if I had too... I just don't understand life anymore. It used to be all good, but this past week has been hell... My grades have dipped horribly, I almost got expelled for something I didn't do, and some kid took his fingernails and cut open my arm... Talk about exciting huh? :cry
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Cheer up Oogly, when you get old and lose your libido women will have no power over you that you don't give them.
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God, I remember being a squeeker.
I feel for ya kid. I still pull out the yearbook from time to time and gaze upon my lovely Linda. If only she would have been my girl instead of everybody else's.
Oh well......
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Chin up :) It gets better
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Don't worry kid. Be strong and you'll get through it, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
In fact you should start looking for a new one after the break. :aok
It's a good thing that your on the other side of the school too. Out of sight, out of mind. Happy hunting.
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At some point in my formative years I had an epiphany-- If (fill in blank with uncaring shrew I fell in love with THAT year) didn't love me back, then she didn't need to be on radar--it wasn't HER fault, I told myself, she obviously has no F@#@#%#$^6g taste:furious
edit: she's prolly gay
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I just feel so... left out, unlucky, and cheated.
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I feel/felt like that all the time. Eventually you become numb of it and dont care what others think anymore.
Best to get a hobby and get your mind off of it
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Originally posted by Oogly50
I just feel so... left out, unlucky, and cheated.
It will all work out man trust some of us old farts...
I know most kids think us adults "just dont understand" but just because we are old doesnt mean we have no clue...
Look at the bright side.. Work hard on your grades, get yourself to College, get you education get a good job find a much nicer woman.
Go to your 10 year High School reunion see that she has got Fat, Lazy, lost several teeth, lives in a nasty arse trailer park with an abusive alcoholic husband named Bubba, and is at this time quite unattractive. You'll look at your wife, your kids and thank god everyday from this pont on that you were left out, unlucky and cheated.
You'll learn to see the birght side of things as you get older :aok
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Women are like buses...
every few minutes another one comes along.
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Originally posted by Blooz
Women are like buses...
every few minutes another one comes along.
A new rider is at every stop too.
Commitment to one person has rewards that cannot be compared.
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That happened to me many times growing up.
I was the "nice" guy for years, and suffered for it.
Somewhere @ my Soph. year in H.S. I had enough and decided to be the "jerk" instead.
Suddenly I had my pick of any girl I wanted.
(lesson learned)
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Keep your chin up Oogly. Things are not as bad as they seem. You will find the right one for you. She will be the one that will make you think, "what did I see in all those other girls?" Btw it is highly likely that this will not be the last girl that makes you feel like crap. Get used to it till you find the "one".
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Oogly, take from an old guy....women are the evil in the world. Now mind you I mean no disrespect to women in general but you will come into contact with women during your life that you will "think" your in love with that will screw you over in a heart beat, or simply drive you up the wall once you get to know them.
Best advice I can give you is start looking for anouther girl ASAP. Don't let the ex, or anyone else see you down about it. If she has burned you, the best way to get beyond that is not to care too much about it and move on like a man. Just COWBOY UP!!!!!!
Kid I know. I've been there and done that and have the t-shirts to prove it. Wait until you've been married for 12 years and one day your wife tells you to pack up your things and leave because "she isn't happy anymore"....then you'll KNOW what hurt really is when you leave your house, your kids, and your life behind you to start over again.
It's been 2 years for me at this point but I'm living my life how I want too and I have a bunch of new friends I hang with, and in all honesty, life is pretty good right now.
Just think positive and you'll be OK. If it didn't work out, then it wasn't ment to work out. Move on to better things.
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I miss the old, rough, political beat em up this forum used to be.
Being the virtual Brady Bunch episode is a bit different :)
Marcia Marcia Marcia!
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wait until she loses her virginity to one of your friends, then the screws really twist and turn in deep.
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Originally posted by WMLute
(lesson learned)
only if you like the kind of girl that goes for jerks..(but if they are hot then its fair)
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Originally posted by Hornet33
Oogly, take from an old guy....women are the evil in the world. Now mind you I mean no disrespect to women in general but you will come into contact with women during your life that you will "think" your in love with that will screw you over in a heart beat, or simply drive you up the wall once you get to know them.
That paragraph should be wholly sufficient for the entire thread, actually.
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Ahhh high school, glad I'm almost done with it. You meet a lot of people, hate a lot of people, and could care less about many more. The girl you think you love now will only be a mere speck once you meet the new amazing girl. Get yourself a plan for your future. Focus on school, sports, then make plans for college/military. High school girls typically aren't worth the time or effort, being too shallow to see what they've actually got.
Don't sweat it pal, it gets better.
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Yeah Oogly, don't sweat it.
The best form of revenge is SUCCESS! Pump out some kick arse grades, get into a cool college and land a top job.:aok
Besides, if she's as you describe just be glad you found out now before you made any "rash" decisions:lol Girls may come and go, but herpes is forever!
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The first question which wasn't asked until now is, who did you find out this news from Oogly? Did she tell you or did your friends? Did she say she liked everyone but you?
Les
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Cheer up man....I went through that all through school. Had this crush on this one girl, from 4th grade all the way up unti i graduated highschool in 2005. She was everything to me, we were really good friends and remain that way today. When i finally told her how i felt, she through it back in my face by going with my best friend instead of me for my Senior Prom. He ended up drinking too much and throw up all over her $500 prom dress. She ended up having the worse night of her life, well me, i had the best in many ways!!
So just cuz ur heart gets crushed, dont let it get to ya, pick up the pieces cuz there will be someone there before you know it who will steal your heart, and take your breath away!!
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Gail Eskew, 1972
You ought to see what came after that, Young Grasshopper!
Fish... Sea...;)
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You'll be hard pressed to find a guy that this hasn't happened to. I'm by far no ladies man but even some of my buddies who have women falling at their feet have had it happened to them too.
Keep your chin up, try not to think about her (I know easier said then done) find some other damsel in distress, grab a hobby (play AH more) and think of it as a learning process, you will have to fall and scratch up your knees a few times before you get the game women play.
Whatever you do don't try to call her, write her, give her any gifts...none of that crap, it will make your situation much much worse.
Oh yeah, and Lute is right...be a jerk and they'll love ya...even the nice gals...it just works out that way...because being a jerk is associated with confidence and confidence is sexy. So you can either be a jerk or just be really confident...either one will work, but you won't show any sign of confidence if you are stuck on her and acting like you are co-dependent.
GL buddy :aok
edit: ahhh Katie...my beloved Katie...life goes on :cry :lol
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Originally posted by SD67
Yeah Oogly, don't sweat it.
The best form of revenge is SUCCESS! Pump out some kick arse grades, get into a cool college and land a top job.:aok
Besides, if she's as you describe just be glad you found out now before you made any "rash" decisions:lol Girls may come and go, but herpes is forever!
Wanted to add this is great advice, after you graduate HS college will open up about 1000000 more doors for you as far as women are concerned, as soon as you go there you will forget about her within a week.:D
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Originally posted by B@tfinkV
only if you like the kind of girl that goes for jerks..(but if they are hot then its fair)
The really, REALLY hot ones always dig the jerks.
What I mean by "jerk" is more "cocky" and somewhat rude to the girl. Dont' go fawning over her, and put her on a high horse. Make her think you doing her a favor dating her as opposed to vs. versa. SHE is the "lucky" one is how ya' gota come off.
Granted, once you are in a relationship with them you can get all lovey lovey, but for the casual date or just in general, "cocky" and or kinda a jerk almost always is the way to go.
If you are nice to 'em, they wanna be your "friend". If ya' treat 'em kinda like garbage, they wanna sleep w/ you.
Go figure.
Not to say nice guys don't get the girls. Or all girls like jerks. But on the whole this is how it works.
I once worked for AOL @ a corporate call center. There was this one girl who was by far the hottest girl @ work. (no contest) And she made it abuntantly clear I had no shot with her when we 1st met. (picture a younger Jennifer Lopez w/ a better tookus)
Skip forward a few months and a lot of us are @ a bar after work and I started ripping on her pretty hard. Not enough to make her cry or anything, but you could tell she wasn't used to any guy givin' her crap like I was doing.
From that night forward she was always stopping by my desk to say "hi" and started asking me out for lunch. I played hard to get and always turned her down. That only made her try harder. I doubt many guys ever turned her down for anything.
I never stopped ripping on her either, but I changed it to a more flirtatious manner.
She showed up @ my apt. one night completly wasted (dunno how she found out where I lived.... STALKER!) and wanting me to take her home. She was WAY too drunk to drive so I took her home and she basically threw herself @ me. I turned her down acting like a NICE GUY! I will admitt to a moment of weakness (or twelve) when she started stripping and was almost naked, but I will never sleep with a girl (for the 1st time anyway) when they are that drunk.
The next day and from that day forward she shunned me and I actually wanted to start dating her. She was prob. just super embarresed. Serves me right for being the "nice guy" and not taking advantage of her. Not that I would change my decision of course.
Oh well, at least I got the memory of her topless in a thong jumping up and down screaming "WHY WON'T YOU SLEEP WITH ME!!"
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Welcome to the world...
<----------- (Some of you will get it)
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Originally posted by OOZ662
Welcome to the world...
<----------- (Some of you will get it)
Bring the pics back lol...the old avatars were better :)
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Oogly, she's just a girl. Move on and soon enough you'll wonder why you reduced yourself to her. There's more girls like her, and better ones, that'll be yours to charm the socks off of if you don't waste your time with the past. The better you make yourself, the better chances you'll have with those girls, and the better they'll be off having your company.. win-win.
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its all so very true lute :)
i geuss round here a 'jerk' is someone like The Todd from Scrubs. i know what you mean completely about a little arrogance going along way.
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Jerry Springer thread...........:lol
You don't have any large caliber guns I hope, or plan on going shopping?
Little man you will encounter more split tail frustration in the years to come.
So buck up!:aok
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Originally posted by Leslie
The first question which wasn't asked until now is, who did you find out this news from Oogly? Did she tell you or did your friends? Did she say she liked everyone but you?
Les
Actually, she said she had told my friend (who she doesn't like) the 3 guys she had liked... It slipped out, so I asked her who they were, and she said she wouldn't tell... "but don't go pestering mike about it either, because I know he'll slip"
Which was a stupid move... I didn't even know mike knew who she liked.
So I called mike, asked him a couple times, and he caved in.
2 of them are my best friends, and 1 of them is okay (but I can pwn him at guitar... not that that means much)
I find it coincidence though... All 3 of them are in her class, and they have the same exact personality as me. But they don't even like her!
It all just seems so un-fair, I get a different house, different lunch period, and different class than her.
She's very nice, and she feels so bad about this whole situation. She said if I actually talked to her every now and then, and if what I describe myself to her is true, then she would deffinately like me...
But I don't have that chance :furious
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I feel your pain Oogly.
Last year I had been going out with someone since August and we both liked each other. Went on a lot of dates and stuff. We had been called a great couple and such.
Then around halloween last year, I made the stupidest decision of my life.
I was being a jerk, after talking to all my friends and such, on how i'm so lucky to have Jade (my girlfriend).
I kept going on and accidently offended one of my Jewish friends, who was close friends to Jade. (I forgave him).
Anyway, the next day I walk into school and go to my locker and Jade never shows up (she came to my locker everyday). I was thinking "maybe she's absent". Well, turns out that night, she decided to break up with me, for my remarks to her friend, who I apoligized to. What was unlucky is that she broke up with me the day of my sisters birthday.
Still pissed at myself for being a jerk.
Regards,
Subway
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Happiness comes from within. No other person can make you happy; first you have to love the person you have become/made yourself.
After that, relationships are no problem.
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Originally posted by Oogly50
Actually, she said she had told my friend (who she doesn't like) the 3 guys she had liked... It slipped out, so I asked her who they were, and she said she wouldn't tell... "but don't go pestering mike about it either, because I know he'll slip"
Which was a stupid move... I didn't even know mike knew who she liked.
So I called mike, asked him a couple times, and he caved in.
2 of them are my best friends, and 1 of them is okay (but I can pwn him at guitar... not that that means much)
I find it coincidence though... All 3 of them are in her class, and they have the same exact personality as me. But they don't even like her!
It all just seems so un-fair, I get a different house, different lunch period, and different class than her.
She's very nice, and she feels so bad about this whole situation. She said if I actually talked to her every now and then, and if what I describe myself to her is true, then she would deffinately like me...
But I don't have that chance :furious
I have to ask....if you "do not have the chance" , then what's the problem? Is it the not being in the same class that is causing the problem? What about after school? What if she did say it was you she liked? Would you skip your classes and sneak into hers to talk to her and be with her? Everything you describe seems to revolve around school time...in that case you should be concentrating on school instead of who this chick likes.
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No, what I mean is...
If I were in her class, I would have more chances to see her, be with her, and talk to her. After school she's always doing something like swimming or gymnastics. I'm really shy around her, she's so beautiful I can't speak in complete sentences around her. If I were in her class she would see the true, sarcastic side of me.
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Originally posted by Oogly50
No, what I mean is...
If I were in her class, I would have more chances to see her, be with her, and talk to her. After school she's always doing something like swimming or gymnastics. I'm really shy around her, she's so beautiful I can't speak in complete sentences around her. If I were in her class she would see the true, sarcastic side of me.
Ok, then what? If she likes you in class, what then? She's busy after school so what happens when she likes you in class only....where does it go? You're obsessed with this situation (not necessarily the girl). It's something you want but cannot have...that's the driving force. Learn to control that and you will be a lot better off. Chalk it all up to life experience and move on.
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Yep. Once you get older, you will look back on it and think "boy, that was stupid"
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Originally posted by GoldenP51
Oh yeah, and Lute is right...be a jerk and they'll love ya...even the nice gals...it just works out that way...because being a jerk is associated with confidence and confidence is sexy. So you can either be a jerk or just be really confident...either one will work, but you won't show any sign of confidence if you are stuck on her and acting like you are co-dependent.
Sorry ~ just not true in all cases. Being a jerk is mistakenly associated with having confidence. As soon as she sees that 'the jerk' is there because of a lack of confidence ~ the boot.
Better: True confidence without being a jerk.
*edit* you've got to back up the arrogance with substance ~ that works.
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Don't be a puss. Take lutes advice and get yourself a robe and wizard hat and talk her into cybering you. Google up Bloodninja , he'll show you how its done.
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Originally posted by WMLute
The really, REALLY hot ones always dig the jerks.
What I mean by "jerk" is more "cocky" and somewhat rude to the girl. Dont' go fawning over her, and put her on a high horse. Make her think you doing her a favor dating her as opposed to vs. versa. SHE is the "lucky" one is how ya' gota come off.
Granted, once you are in a relationship with them you can get all lovey lovey, but for the casual date or just in general, "cocky" and or kinda a jerk almost always is the way to go.
If you are nice to 'em, they wanna be your "friend". If ya' treat 'em kinda like garbage, they wanna sleep w/ you.
Go figure.
Not to say nice guys don't get the girls. Or all girls like jerks. But on the whole this is how it works.
I once worked for AOL @ a corporate call center. There was this one girl who was by far the hottest girl @ work. (no contest) And she made it abuntantly clear I had no shot with her when we 1st met. (picture a younger Jennifer Lopez w/ a better tookus)
Skip forward a few months and a lot of us are @ a bar after work and I started ripping on her pretty hard. Not enough to make her cry or anything, but you could tell she wasn't used to any guy givin' her crap like I was doing.
From that night forward she was always stopping by my desk to say "hi" and started asking me out for lunch. I played hard to get and always turned her down. That only made her try harder. I doubt many guys ever turned her down for anything.
I never stopped ripping on her either, but I changed it to a more flirtatious manner.
She showed up @ my apt. one night completly wasted (dunno how she found out where I lived.... STALKER!) and wanting me to take her home. She was WAY too drunk to drive so I took her home and she basically threw herself @ me. I turned her down acting like a NICE GUY! I will admitt to a moment of weakness (or twelve) when she started stripping and was almost naked, but I will never sleep with a girl (for the 1st time anyway) when they are that drunk.
The next day and from that day forward she shunned me and I actually wanted to start dating her. She was prob. just super embarresed. Serves me right for being the "nice guy" and not taking advantage of her. Not that I would change my decision of course.
Oh well, at least I got the memory of her topless in a thong jumping up and down screaming "WHY WON'T YOU SLEEP WITH ME!!"
Lived this one myself. Women:rolleyes:
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Oogly, take Toad's advice.
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Originally posted by Oogly50
No, what I mean is...
If I were in her class, I would have more chances to see her, be with her, and talk to her. After school she's always doing something like swimming or gymnastics. I'm really shy around her, she's so beautiful I can't speak in complete sentences around her. If I were in her class she would see the true, sarcastic side of me.
Get....A .....GRIP!!
Pick out the ugliest girl in class, put the blocks to her, and tell the prom queen to screw off.
Hey, at least it can only get better from there.:D
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Originally posted by LePaul
Bring the pics back lol...the old avatars were better :)
I've let go of the avatar in hopes that it will help bring her back.
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Can we get an "under 18 - JR ROTC Club" forum? ;)
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Can't even remember 5th grade. Or which school I attended. Ok there it is I remember the school. I think. Ya wish I had some friends to give me a alcohol intervention maybe then I could find my short term memory. :cry
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Originally posted by Oogly50
She said if I actually talked to her every now and then, and if what I describe myself to her is true, then she would deffinately like me...
But I don't have that chance :furious
dude. yer in.
focus. (but don't be stupid. don't obsess. be a man about it.)
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i spent 2 and a half years with one girl. high school age, I assume? you can relate. she broke up with me for drinkin and drugs, then almost immediately after that, she began drinking and doing drugs, girl became a crack potato no less, really a crack potato. My response.....
Rat the dealer, and called the police, revenge can be had, but do it legally
And find a new one,a girl, many to be had, believe me, i happen to like English accents, move the hell on. things be ok :)!!!!
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Originally posted by Toad
Happiness comes from within. No other person can make you happy; first you have to love the person you have become/made yourself.
(http://www.kungfu-guide.com/img_wb/462001111510823po.jpg)
Sounds like something Master Po would say.
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Cheer up, it will get worse! One day your going to either catch or find out your best friend is doing your girlfriend, hopefully you don't have to see it in person... You are going to see in a color red that people shouldn't have to see or be put thru..
But how you handle yourself durng the event will be noticed by her girlfiends and
could turn a negative into a positive.... One sentence of advise I have is whatever happens don't talk bad about the girl after the break up, let it go... You may run into them again in x number of years and things maybe different... Guys are predator's and if you tell your friends a girl is evil they will hunt her down for the kill...
TJ
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Originally posted by Toad
Happiness comes from within. No other person can make you happy; first you have to love the person you have become/made yourself.
After that, relationships are no problem.
Self love? Sounds kinky
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Since you are young I will help you out. This is ALL you will ever need to know about women.
(http://www.snoopbloggyblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/girls-are-evil.jpg)
*This does not mean you shouldn't play with them, just a heads up.