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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: Getback on March 08, 2019, 06:02:42 AM
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I won't go into gory detail. I will tell you I've been through the ringer.
On June 4, 2017 my mom passed away. That hit me harder than I could ever imagine. I kept telling mom in the hospital that we will get you fixed up and have Sunday dinner. That never happened. I went to Sunday dinner for years and years. We'd have dinner and play fun games.
Then work went to hell around the same time. They promoted a girl over me that had absolutely no accounting experience, I'm a CPA. Then they had a new manager that, this is unbelievable, wrote me up for asking the office if anyone wanted to order out and for actually doing my job. I'm not making this up.
Then too, I was the executor of the estate. That turned into hell, Contractors trying to rip you off, disgruntled family members, and so on. Then people with no right asking for everything.
I had never been so down in my life!
I woke up one morning to go to work and couldn't get my pants on. I just couldn't! I started crying uncontrollably. I need help! I called a help line. They set me up with a Therapist immediately. They tell me I sounded like I was about to go over a cliff. I don't know.
When I met with the Therapist he said something surprising, This is at least half your fault. I was taken aback. Then I realized this is the best thing I ever heard. This means I have the ability to control myself. After months of therapy I was back up and running. I can only describe it as painful.
In one meeting he asked if I go to church. I told him I believe in God. He said I will take that as a no. So I started attending church. Now I say, When I didn't go to church God sent me to a therapist.
I only went back to that job one more time, that was for a termination meeting. When I told them everything that happened at the Job, in personal life, the plant manager, HR Manager, and finance Manager started crying.
Eventually I was able to get much better and landed a job that paid 50% more than I was making. From there I built a new home that I just moved into last November. It's only my second home.
I attend church regularly these days. The support I get from family is incredible. I still see the therapist weekly. It's definitely been good.
If I may pass out some advice, If you need help seek it.
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Good to read you got your life back on the rail! I am happy for you sir :salute
Best thing i recently did was quiting my bad job as well. Luckily i have amazing people around me that support me all the way. That support can not be overestimated. Good to hear you have those kind of people around you as well!
Best of luck to you!
DutchVII
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I am glad you are back on your feet sabot....Hope to see you back in the game sometime..... :aok
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Thanks Dutch and Rud3boi!
There is so much more to it that I could write a book and well, I started one but will it get finished. I'd honestly say probably not.
There was a point that I felt like nothing, absolutely nothing. I thank God for sending me to a good, no great Therapist.
Sabot
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Wise words man. I'm glad you're doing better.
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Your Awesome
But not as much as me :)
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My wife is my therapist. She tells me that I am lower than a snakes belly in a wagon rut and she loves me.
That's all I need to know. :D
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What is a therapist?
And can they look at rashes?
I was born depressed its a family thing. (Or i am depressing)
I have low exspectations so everyday i am easily pleased :)
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<S> to you, Sabot, and glad to hear you make it through that tough stretch and out the other side. Best wishes to you.
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Hey Soze...
Was just thinking about how I hadn't seen anything from you in quite awhile. Now I know why.
Sorry you had to go through all that, but glad to see things are looking up.
:salute
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Thanks Drone and et al.
I wouldn't wish any of this on my worst enemy.
I remember being angry and bitter to the point I wanted to hurt others. My therapist, asked, Ron, how did you feel when it was happening to you? I said I felt like nothing. He then said do you really want others to feel that way! I said no. He actually blasted me but good for not moving on and gave me some readings to help. Then had me read several books on how to defend myself without hurting others. The latter takes practice, a lot of practice.
On March 4 I started a new job, on March 15 I quit the job. LOL. I have never quit a job so soon. I told my therapist this morning I quit the job and why. He said Ron, you've come a long way and that he was proud of me. He often accused me of wearing an "Abuse Me" sign on my back. I guess that's gone.
There's one truth that I should have learned way before now, there are a lot worse things than leaving your job.
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Had a guy/mentor/therapist(in his real job) tell me..."Jobs are like Wives. Only get one, that you can live with full time. If its a hobby, you wont be happy with it very long.". No need to dread going to work, if it doesnt inspire you, walk away. I had a tendency to just stick things out. Once I actually moved and moved on...greener pastures found me. I wasted a lot of time being miserable. :uhoh Glad you got stuff turned around! This community was a BIG HELP for me! :rock
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Good on yas, Get. :)
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I left my last job.
After getting one 4 mins from my house :old: